Okay....I've been seeing this guy for the past 7 months. We met eachother after we both had just gotten out of long term relationships. He's been saying from the beginning that he wasn't looking for another relationship. At the time I felt the same, but after all that we've been through and have done, I've found myself wanting to be with him. He keeps telling me to hold on and just wait a little while and that we'll be together one day. Is this just something to keep the friends with benefits role going or is in sincere?? I feel like he's taking advantage of our friendship by making me believe that tomorrow something else may happen. Should I get out of this situation and try to return to the "Friends without benefits?"
2006-06-28 06:01:15 · 22 answers · asked by DaBossLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is really up to you. If you do not mind continueing to wait and doing the FWB thing, then go ahead. If you are really ready to move into a serious relationship, and he is not, then maybe it is time for you to move on.
If you are serious about wanting a serious relationship, then talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you feel it is time you take the next step and that you no longer want just FWB. DO not try to force him, just let him make up his own mind. He may decide he does not want more. If he does, then move on and find what you long for. Maybe he will realize if the question and consequences are put to him that he loves you, and want to be with you.
Good luck
2006-06-28 06:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Raistliin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is just using you for the "friends with benefits" situation that you have. You may genuinely care for him while he is just wanting some booty. It's been 7 months he should have gotten over the other girl and committed to you by now and if not now, he probably never will.
Talk to him about it and tell him until there is a committed relationship there is no more booty from you. It might hurt, but you won't be cheating yourself out of a relationship in the long run. Because if you're still "with him" when someone new comes around who is genuinely interested you could miss your chance for happiness.
2006-06-28 13:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is more important to you, a good time now or a false sense of security?
This plagues both men and women. People want to be "in a relationship" with the belief that it will last forever. Yet we should know by now that not many last (look at how you 2 met coming out of a long term).
My opinion is have fun and if it grows into "love" and vows - - great. If not, had a great time. If you have to ask, the answer may be not the one you want. In terms of love, you generally can feel it, see it, or am told without having to ask.
So it comes down to what you want. Good luck.
2006-06-28 13:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ryno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone tells you the sun will come up tomorrow you should ask them will i see it? "Friends without benefits" that is a good saying, because this could be the only reason he is around and why should he move ahead if your giving him the cake and letting him eat it to?? You need to sit down and ask him where every thing stands and tell him what you want and let him know there is know more benefits un till you get on the same page!!
2006-06-28 13:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by player 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend without benefits seems to be the way to go. If you feel used then your beign used. Makes sinse doesn't it. If there is really a chance for a relationship later then you should wait to do relationship things later. It almost sounds like he is waiting for something better to come along or he is scared that your using him as a rebound.
2006-06-28 13:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by blondieinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me. I hung in there & now we are together and have been for over 2 yrs now. It may take him a little while to come around. Be patient, but if you don't feel comfortable with the friends with benefits role, then stop it.
2006-06-28 13:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by goddess17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To late to go back to being just friends now. You can only force his hand by not seeing him anymore. When he then needs it or should we say you then he will come crawling back and that is where you force his hand to get commited to the relationship. If you are wondering if he is using you then the answer is Yes. He will eventually get it together, but not until he is sorta pushed into the right direction.
2006-06-28 13:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Dalton125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I think that he just does not want to get into a relationship. He just wants the pleasure without having to deal with the problmes. If you're looking for something more then you should stop "seeing" him, but if that is fine with you then you are a lucky couple.
2006-06-28 13:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by morfrius 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're his rebound girl and he doesnt want to lose the benefits, so he strings you along. Best thing to do is talk to him about your feelings and tell him that you will be his friend, but no more benefits. If he cares about you and wants to be with you, he'll think things over on his own and either persue something more with you or forget about it altogether, either way you win, but first you have to respect yourself and make him respect you.
2006-06-28 13:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by frankramirez_81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...1st if you really want to know if you will be together someday stop the friends with benefits...why would he want to be with you when he already has you..when you are not there for him to use he will do one of two things...come running or stay away...so if he wants you... you will have him and if he doesn't its better to know now rather than wasting your time waiting
2006-06-28 13:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋