(I'm 13 years old)
2006-06-28 06:00:36 · 11 answers · asked by Evelyn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, first off, it's normal to butt heads with your mom at your age. I'm betting you two are fighting over the same issues over and over...like cleaning your room, other chores, staying out late, etc.
I'm not a parent and my parents absolutely sucked. I was more of a parent. Why am I telling you this? Because I was jealous of all the friends who had curfews set by parents who loved them and who made them clean their rooms and eat healthy meals.
Now is a great time to learn to compromise with your mom. Smile and compliment her on occasion (gee mom, you look great today! Thanks for working so hard!) and let her know you love her (yeah, that's hard when you feel like you hate her). Next, when you feel like she's starting to nag you, make sure you remain calm. Drop the tone of your voice, make it a bit deeper so you don't sound like a little girl. For instance, if your mom says she doesn't like a friend of yours, ask her why. Tell your mom why you value the friendship and offer to invite friend over to your house so mom can get to know them better. Hate having to be in at 9 or ten on a weekend? Calmly suggest that you are old enough to stay out a half hour later and stick to it...in a couple months maybe your mom will trust you to stay out a bit later. Keep your grades up and your nose clean so she has no reason not to be worried about you growing up. Tell your mom a bit about what is going on in your life while you're cooking dinner together. If she knows what's going on in your life, she won't be as worried about you. Listen to her. Ask her to share things about what she did at your age, especially ways she screwed up. I hope all of that helps you out. Be patient and remember the reason your mom seems so obnoxious right now is because she loves you a lot and doesn't want you to get hurt.
2006-06-28 06:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot to learn about yourself, your mom, and life in general. You need to respect you mom. She's been around the block a few times, and has much more knowledge then you do right now. So try your very best to be at least respectful and listen to her words. As hard as it is to understand or believe, you will remember her words, and will one day use those same words. I know this may sound utterly incredible to you right now....but BELIEVE IT! You only get the privilege of having one mother....learn to enjoy that privilege!
2006-06-28 06:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just part of being a teen. I thought my mom was the dumbest woman in the world until my mid-twenties when I realized she was actually the smartest. Just hang in there and don't hesitate to actually sit down and try talking to her about things. She is probably a lot smarter than you think and a lot more willing to help you out of any problems than you would ever guess.
2006-06-28 06:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bitsy Fairview 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know from experience. If it's one of these cases. I have a bad attitude sometimes, and my mom does to. So once in a while we get into fights. But when we did, it was usually over our differences. So from now on, we try to do things that we both like, and talk about the things that we both like. Now, we hardly fight at all. And if your mom starts it, just walk outside, or to your room til she calms down then talk about other things on your guys mind. This usually works unless your mom and you are both stubborn.
2006-06-28 06:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by luvr_of_bois 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my mid 30's and have had this problem as long as I can remember and it is still going! Love and respect your mother, she loves you and will always be there for you even if everyone else turn their backs. Some mothers just can't accept that you are growing up. They want to make decisions for you all your life usually because they don't want you to get hurt or make bad choices. Accept that that is just the way she is.
I've already told my daughter to shoot me if I become like Nanna!
2006-06-28 06:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do as she asks. Maybe you can show her that you're displeased by keeping absolute silence. Start no converstions with her and keep your answers brief and to the point. But as long as she's your mother and she doesn't ask you to do something illegal just do it no rudeness. In five years you'll be eighteen and you can move out.
2006-06-28 06:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by netty007force 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no business butting heads with your mom, she is the adult and your only mom....do not work against her, try to work with her. BE YOUR MOMS BEST FRIEND
2006-06-28 06:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being a lil B**** and remember that your mother is the boss in the house, just say **** it and do what she wants you do. if it is not jumping off a cliff of run across traffic than do it.
2006-06-28 06:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by you have ? i have a answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my mom argue alot, so my advise is to just try and see things from her side of view sometimes, see my mom is always telling me what to do, and not to do, and where to go, but when i look at it, she is just trying her best to keep me safe, and i shouldnt get mad at her for loving us. sometimes i still get irritated and argue, but i feel bad about it afterwards, cause like i said, she's just trying to keep us safe.......
hope i helped, best wishes
2006-07-05 05:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Leesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why,u can't talk to her,is she closed up or stick in your ways,need more detail,e-mail all try and help
2006-06-28 06:04:52 · answer #10 · answered by bless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋