I'm in a really bad situation right now........I live with my boyfriend, we've been together for 3 years and I really love him.......but a couple of weeks ago we had a HUGE arguement and I went out and got really drunk and ended up sleeping with this other guy (and not using a condom - I know it's stupid)........I've never cheated on my boyfriend before and I feel terrible about what I did.
Anyway, I was having some itching and burning down below and some pelvic pain and I went to the doctor hoping it was just thrush, but he did some swabs and phoned me today with the results and I've got chlamydia..........he says I have to tell anyone I've slept with and I've slept with my bf several times since sleeping with this other guy.
How can I tell him? I really love him, what I did was a terrible mistake and I wish I'd never done it, but I'm so scared that this will split us up........
2006-06-28 05:56:39 · 27 answers · asked by ellie_boo21 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Leave him alone, don't infect him with your mistakes. No wonder this country has a problem with STD's.
2006-06-28 06:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Er... this is an awkward answer to attempt, but I guess a solution has to be found. There is no way to escape this "telling" without your conscience taking a worse beating.
What you may try to figure out is how to go about doing it. You know him best. Speak at a time when he is receptive. Even better, if he knows that there is something on your mind that you are very worried about. Speak carefully, don't assign blame anywhere..... just state the facts and reach out for help in figuring a course of action.
He may get angry and accuse. I guess he would feel hurt. Accept that it has been done, but you are terribly repentant about it too and you know it even if he doesn't say it when he is agitated. So stick with yourself too and keep the focus on the handling of the situation together rather than letting him get into the mode of figuring out for himself.
Make sure he understands and tell him too, that this is a really terrible moment for you, but you want to tell him for his safety too above anything you may have to face. Show him that you need him by your side.
Good Luck! Hoping things work out well.
2006-06-28 13:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by Vidyut Kale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way out of this one, just tell him you have the STD and if he asks how you got it, just tell him you were unfaithful. Don't tell him who, what, where and when. That will only make it harder on him. Just tell him to go to the DR. and get the meds. If he has a big heart maybe he will forgive you, but if he did this to you - would you forgive him. Put yourself in his shoes. Sucks, doesn't it?!?!?!?!!!!???!?!? Just be honest. And remember if you slept with him after you took the medicine - all you did was get the STD back from him. Be more careful next time. This is probably Kharma coming back to haunt you, you did a bad thing now a bad thing is happening to you. GO FIGURE and GOOD LUCK
2006-06-28 13:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him and tell him the truth. Just say that it was a complete mistake and it would never happen again. Its gonna be hard for him to forgive you for the cheating so its gonna be even harder for him when you've actually caught a sexually transmitted disease. Tell him everything and if he's angry and upset which i'm sure he'll be, just give him time for the news to sink in, then try to win back your boyfriend. Good luck!
2006-06-28 13:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kayz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him just the way you told us, be completely honest no matter what he asks and expect the worse. Guys are not as forgiving as women are, but you have to tell him so he can get treated also. It was a big mistake, but its done and you can't undo it just be honest.. And to tell you the truth, once someone cheats on thier significant other, nothing is ever the same, ever.........Good Luck
2006-06-28 13:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him even at the risk of splitting up. It would be terrible of you not to, it would be irresponsible, it would be criminal, the best you can hope for is that you have learnt from your mistake. You cannot let his health and fertility suffer and/or any unsuspecting future partners he may have. Take responsibitlity like an adult and deal with it in the only way you should.
2006-06-28 13:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to just suck it up and tell him. You HAVE to tell him. He will find out soon enough via his own symptoms. Tell him that you understand he might want to end it, but you felt that his health is more important than your feelings. Which, it is. You have to remember that. If you are truly remorseful, and he is a forgiving man, you might get lucky, but the thought that you could have attracted a more severe, potentially fatal std, might never leave his mind. Regardless, take accountability and confess.
2006-06-28 13:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by carolinagrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him... its not a big deal that you have it.. its just a bacteria and easily gotten rid of. But it must be treated or it can lead to infertility. The bigger issue here is the cheating thing... But you have to tell him...if anything, so it doesnt go untreated and ruin any future plans of kids for him.
2006-06-28 13:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by gigage_unole 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to come out and tell him the 100% truth. He's gonna be mad, but as you know, he has a right to be. Hopefully you can work thru it. Just remember to be 100% honest! Best of luck to you!
2006-06-28 13:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether you split up or not, he still needs to know.. you are the one that chose to sleep with someone else now live up to the consequences.. you will live..sooner or later he is going to find our anyways, because you have probably already infected him and it is only a matter of time before he puts 2 and 2 together...
2006-06-28 13:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clymedia is a treatable std. You are lucky thats all you got. Seriously , he is going to hate you. I would? Think about it if the tables were turned wow..... Explain to him that Clymedia is infact curable and what you did was stupid but thank god that the only thing you got was curable. Then run... because I would kill you
2006-06-28 13:01:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋