here is the kicker he is getting out of a horrible 10 yr marriage and says he needs to find himself he isnt ready for a relationship ..my emotions are going crazy we are together everyday and i have never felt like this I give him his space and we treat each other wonderfuly and I just dont know where to go from here . I am 31 and I know he is the one!
2006-06-28 05:48:53 · 24 answers · asked by aquaris01975 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is the one then be there for him. He may really not be ready for a relationship, it is probably not you at all. In truth, if you see eachother every day then it is probably that is is scared of getting too close to you for fear that you might turn out to be like his ex. Give him some space, (don't stop seeing him though) and give him some understanding it is hard when a marriage breaks up it is never as easy on the guy as it seems in TV and movies. If you feel for him, and he feels for you, then it will work out the way it is suppose too. Just have a little patience and alot of love for him and he will respond. Good luck sweetie, and I hope this helps.
2006-06-28 05:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, you'll just push him away if your all over him. If he's not ready, back off for a few weeks, that means NO SEX too. Once he is missing you, he'll realize he really is ready.
I can't amagine getting divorced and feeling the relief, and the being lonely, and all the other emotions he's going thru. He really does need time even if it's just to get the basic stuff back in order in his life. You don't want him to be using you, you want him to WANT you.
Be a friend first the rest will follow if it's meant to be. Good luck, I'm sure after some time has passed, you two will be happy as ever.
2006-06-28 06:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do give him his space, that's what he really needs. But...be there for him. Be his someone who he can talk too. Take him out to lunch or dinner, just the two of you...your treat. This is a very difficult time for him, so he needs someone he can count on and trust. And that person could be you. Don't be too forward with him right now about your feelings because it can scare him away. But be there for him. Let him know that you are there for him no matter what he needs, or what time it is. But do take him out to eat. That will show him that you are there for him. Good luck and hope it all works out wonderfully!
2006-06-28 05:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to push anything right now .. he needs his time & space to really learn about himself and what he wants in the future.
Going through a divorce is never easy & I'm sure he'll need lots of support from you and friends !
I get sooo overwelmed with my emotions sometimes I try not to think about anything and just let life take you where you want to go !
2006-06-28 05:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. He is not ready for a relationship right know which you have to respect, so the only thing that you can do is wait it out if you feel he is the one, and in due time you will be together. Good Luck.
2006-06-28 05:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by mookie_101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really knew he was the one, you wouldn't be asking anything (although I'M not quite sure what the question is), if he is telling you he isn't ready for a relationship, he just isn't, its not going to change, and don't expect it to, please! Get out now before you're 40 and still in the same place.
Ladies, listen to the words that men say, if they say they aren't ready for a relationship, that means they aren't ready for a relationship, not I will be soon, just wait a few years!!
Anyway, unless you're OK with not being in a committed relationship, get out now!!!
2006-06-28 05:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's "the one", eventually he'll give you the answer you need without you having to beg for it. In the meantime, there's a book you should read called "He's Just Not That into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.
2006-06-28 05:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy Dearest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time. If he is not ready, then if you try to force him, you will just push him away. Just be his friend. And realize that guys often become more attracted to women, the more they know him. Show him what a fun and supportive friend you can be and suddenly he will start to wonder how wonderful it would be to have that 24/7.
2006-06-28 05:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by ksjazzguitar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oops, he is going from one horrible marriage to another. he was half the problem in that horrible marriage, has he had time to learn what he did to make it go wrong or is he just blaming it all on the ex? that's easy enuf to do with a hot 31 yr old whose clock is ticking, give him lots of time to find himself so you don't end up horrible marriage number 2 , even if he loses you in the deal.
2006-06-28 05:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the space that he requires, it sounds like he doesnt want to make you a rebound relationship, which is very admirable. Take it slow, if it is meant to be, then he will be coming back to you for sure. Dont pressure him, just be there for him heart and soul, and it open many more doors for you.
2006-06-28 05:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋