My friend recently confessed that she caught her hubby molesting her daughter.
2006-06-28 05:43:47 · 38 answers · asked by tangie1247 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would tell her that it needs to be reported, and reported immediately. If she refuses, then it is your responsibility to go to the proper authorities and do it yourself.
I know, you think you will lose a friend out of it, and that may be true, but her daughter's well-being is at stake here and trumps all concerns you may have concerning a friendship.
I know what it is to be abused that way, and it can really mess you up for a long time. you need to do the right thing, and do it right away. Please, convince her to tell the authorities and if not, let her know that you are going to.
Peace, love and luck
2006-06-28 05:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Raistliin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing that needs to happen is the mother of the child in question HAS to PROTECT HER DAUGHTER. The father? the step-father, the offending male figure has to be removed from her life PERIOD. I would do this by calling the police and reporting this incident. She may love him, but she cannot let her feelings for him (if she has any after this incident) interfere with what is best for her little girl who depends on her entirely for this protection. For the child's sake, get her out of there, and the mother needs to get herself out of there as well, and the police need to be involved. I beg you, convince her to call the police, and to get help for her daughter psychological help, there is a reason that these sorts of things damage children, it is because they are not yet ready to deal with them. Good luck, and I hope this helps.
2006-06-28 05:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter if it is the reral father or a step father. there is only one way of dealing with this. That is getting help. He must be confronted and you may want to get help if you think the person may not be receptive to a friendly confrontation. There are two people suffering here. The daughter for being molested and the husband who is sick and needs help.
2006-06-28 05:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by J R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw him out, call the police, and get the daughter some therapy. We have to protect our children! The daughter needs to know her mother is on her side. This will continue to happen and the daughter will feel not only abused by her father but neglected by her mother if she does nothing. If the mother has not or will not report this you need to. You can do it anonymously but someone has to do something!
2006-06-28 06:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by jonny'sgirl06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops...
Remind your friend that as a parent it is her job to put the kids first, and if that means taking them away from the father or who ever molested them then so be it.
Get a lawyer and either move away or make the father move out of the house...
The safety of the child or children comes first and foremost.
2006-06-28 05:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has happened to me...i was also molested by my step-father yrs ago....she needs call the police and have him arrested. then she needs to go and have a order of protection or a restraining order taken out against him to keep him from her daughter while she is at school and out and about...she also needs to let her daughter know that she isnt to blame that he is sick...and get her into a therapy asap..and she also get therapy herself...cause she will blame herself as well...the main thing is to stay strong and do not let that sicko back in the house ever again..
2006-06-28 05:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by ozzkat2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to call the police at once. If she doesn't help her daughter YOU need to call the police. This is a child's life that is getting screwed up. Also if she knows its happening and doesn't report it she will go to jail for not reporting it not to mention have her daughter taken away from her.
2006-06-28 07:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by daydreambeliever0000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw him out, call the police, leave him and take the daughter with her...she shouldn't stand for that from the man she trusted to raise her daughter. The man is sick and needs to be punished for what he's done. Don't wait too long because it may be too late. Something similar happened to someone I know and by the time she wanted to do something about it, it was too late.
2006-06-28 05:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by bluejacket8j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened to me, I'd get a divorce & have him arrested on the spot. A mother's duty is to protect her children from harm, such as molestation. I'd prosecute the guy to the fullest extent of the law.
2006-06-28 05:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by SingingStar7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must report it. I am not sure where you are from, but the USA has anonymous reporting lines, if you want to go that route. Your friend (the mother) is in the situation, and it is hard to think clearly. This cannot go on, do the right thing for the child.
2006-06-28 05:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by crazymomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋