what should i do with these two girls?

Question

Hi friends since recently i was going through some STRESS and i need your guys opinion (i have this girlfriend who i have been with over 2years everything was going well untill since recently she started acting differently (selfish)everything is now all about her she is so cought up with her self she dont even relize that i need some attention as well i will do things for her eg. cook,clean.pamper her and even give her facial which i have no problem doing but she would not even clip my nails any way i met this other girl who is so intrested in me she likes me for who i am and what i do so we date. The things that girl do for me without i ask it realy amaze me,i will go up to her house to look for her she will cook,iron and even wash for me i feel so comfortable around her and she treat me as how a man should be treated but now she want me to choose between her and my girlfriend (guys what should i do?)

Answer 1

You are wise to ask for help. Most people are not aware of what they don't know, or even what they do know.

Without knowing what the stress was about, how bad it was, and how bad it is now, I can't accurately determine the cause of the deterioration of your girlfriend's sense of compassion, but I'm guessing (from past experience) that she is vengeful and feels neglected, so she's lashing out with a take, me, hoard attitude to teach you not to disrespect her. Again that was just a guess, so I strongly suggest you ask her in a way you think she won't take offence to (take all the blame for her attitude, and be more humble than you've ever been).

If she fogives you then you've literally got to choose between 2 nice choices:
A girl you've known for 2+ years, who can act out but is usually placid, and who you've established a strong relationship with; or
A girl you barely know, who you've established a strong connection with but are unsure about her long term attitude waves (everyone has ups and downs. some people are calm ripples which desribe a buddhist monk, others are tidal waves which desrcibe people with bipolar disorder. most people are somewhere in the middle).

If she doesn't forgive you after 24 hours from your apology for whatever she accuses you of, and returns to normal, tell her it's over and disregard all her attempts to get on your good side once you've broken it off. If she gets violent, call the police immediately (have your mobile in your pocket when you tell her), or even better preempt a negative reaction and bring a friend to tell her it's over (if that's what you expect from her - do not let your friend leave your immediate presence till you've left or she's left, even for the toilet).

"I remember someone old once said to me, the lies will lock you up, with truth the only key." These are some of the lyrics of the song "The Special Two," by a talented Australian named Missy Higgins, and these are among the thousands of wise verses she has sung. She continues with
"But I was comfortable and warm inside my shell, And couldn't see this place would soon become my hell. So is it better to tell and hurt or lie to save their face? Well I guess the answer is don't do it in the first place." Please heed this in your current problem, and get her music if you can.

To answer (finally) your question, I don't know which to choose. I do know what you should do though. Follow your heart, not your mind. Accept advice from as many sources as you can, both male and female, and stay away from Yahoo Answers. Speak to people who have prior knowledge of the persons involved, fill them in on the situation, and ask their advice. People you know, and are not friends with your girlfriend but have met her.

Last thoughts: Relationships are a cocreative, versatile, boyant exchange of intimacy and expression that can be rewarding psychologically, emotionally, spiritually and obviously physically. They are, like everything in the universe, bound by the law that everything is constantly changing, so intend for the relationship to be always improving and there's a good chance it will on average. Relationships also require effort and regular attention to be maintined, so be vigilant on the needs of both your partner AND the 'us' factor. Most importantly, remove your attention from past experiences (good or bad), and away from dreams of the future (good or bad), and usually focus on the eternal moment of NOW without judgement.

Blessed Be!

Answer 2

From how I might see it, I might be devastated as Girl A if I found out I used to be the informal dating as you constructed up a lifestyles with a further lady. Ultimately you must be actual in your possess middle and discover permanent happiness in a lifestyles lengthy travel with one soul as your bride. It comes right down to which lady you understand will deliver you that lifestyles lengthy happiness. Which one will continually carry out the first-class in you? Which one brings a grin in your face simply on the proposal of her? Maybe take some time, quit seeing each and every of them critically and construct a friendship with them first. This might permit you to fear much less approximately making an instant resolution and would aid transparent your head so that you would make that alternative while the time is correct.