the problem is, she needs me to do everything for her, and get everything at the store, etc, which, I donot mind at all, but, she isn't very nice to me.
For example, she gave me a list of 12 things and I got 2 of the wrong items, and she said in her nasty NY accent(I have nothing against NY'ers)"I guess you'll have two things you're taking back"
I'm so bitter and angry at her, I hate to do anything for her. Anyone in my situation?
2006-06-28 05:28:25 · 5 answers · asked by tamilynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry that your boyfriend's mother isn't being nice to you.
ALS is a progressive disease that eventually makes it impossible for the patient to do anything for themselves. They basically become a prisoner in their own body. I know that she has to be very scared about what she is experiencing.
She sounds as if she is someone who likes to be in control of her life. Because she can't control what is happening to her body, she is trying to control the things that she thinks she can control including you.
Do you have someone there you can vent to? It's important to get those feelings out without taking them out on her. You are in a category called a caregiver. I know that there are resources out there for caregivers and there may be a support group in your area. The issues that you are dealing with applies to any caregiver, so the group wouldn't have to be ALS-specific.
I don't know if any of this will help, but I hope that it will.
2006-07-03 13:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry for your situation....would be nice to have her showing some love in her final days.... Understand this though, ALS is a terrible, terrible way to go. I consider myself to be someone who is generally nice to people until given a reason not to be, but if I had a terminal disease, I cant say as though I would be cheery - not an excuse for her, but just try to love her as you can, regardless of her behavior - it will preserve YOUR spirituality
2006-06-28 12:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by zoinks22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is old and you have to look over her i have a mother in law just like you have but mine is worse than yours mine stays with us at nite and my kids cant sleep in there rooms cause of her so tell her to back off some that u did the best you could do and thats thatif she dont like it then tell her to get some else to get the items she wants and leave you alone
2006-06-28 12:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by ann h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you disgussed this with her.. and your boyfriend?
its his mom, make him do it then see how nasty she is to him
2006-06-28 12:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by lilil_ace_lilil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but be kind she is going to die!
2006-06-28 12:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by golferwhoworks 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋