he tells me all kinds of sweet things,. how much he likes me, how he CARES about me, how attractive i am, and how he just wants to go to sleep with me in a bed(not sexual, just snuggle--see my other question about him) he is a true gentleman. (we have been only dating for a week, is this too soon to have thoughts like that anyway)
i am not used to guys likin me for anything other than sex, and he seems real.
How do i get over being shy/nervous/unable to handle compliments?
Also, i think he can tell it makes me uncomfortable, but i dont want him to stop...
Please be thourogh, and answer all my questions
thanks
2006-06-28 05:05:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in the same situation last year and it overwhelmed me so much that I got scared. I broke it off but I regret it. My advice to you is to give him a chance,only time will tell if he is genuine. Be patient, and calm..Let nature..I made the mistake of letting him get to me, I didn't believe him, I thought he was lieing because I was so used to jerks that I let him go..It kills me even now but there is nothing I can do about it. My advice is to trust what he says and set boundaries.If he respects it than he will respect you. Enjoy everything while you can and don't listen to anyone change your decisions or tell you to do otherwise.People get jealous and they lie..Just enjoy this relationship 'k?
2006-06-28 05:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I would be a little concerned if he's saying these types of things all the time and you've only been together for a week. Make it clear that you're not getting in to bed with him for any reason for quite awhile. If he's a true gentleman, he won't bring it up again any time soon. If he keeps at you about it, he really is only looking for sex- just in a different way than you're used to.
As for how to handle the compliments- I understand completely. I used to have a hard time with it too. My advice is to just smile and say "Thank you" sincerely. You might want to tell him that you appreciate all the nice things he says to you but you feel like he's saying them a little too much. Ask him to tone it down a little.
2006-06-28 12:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try practicing your talks and walks in front of the mirror to get over your shyness
After that u will not feel shy when he says those things, after all it is the first week. Every one is shy on the 1st two weeks while on dating or jobs or a new place. Then u & he will settle down on the same tempo. Best of luck
2006-06-28 12:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by iChrist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like it when you just smile and say thanks.
dont rush it but also dont be a slowpoke. give it some time. if he really likes you he'll stick with it.
but one thing is for sure dont ignore his compliments.
test him. see if he really is real.i dont know how but if he is real you will know.
to get over being shy and nervous etc. just give him some compilments. if he asks you out on a date SAY YES! just realizie he is almost as nervous as you. dont let him pull you into things you know are wrong. stand firm on your beliefs.
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2006-06-28 12:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by Da Pudding Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is moving pretty fast.
Write him an email and tell him all the things you just said about how his comments make you feel.
Perhaps he can keep saying them while being a bit more discreet.
2006-06-28 12:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say, "Thank you"
you are infactuated-if you want him to like you for more than sex then now isn't the right time to give it up, right?
don't even THINK about getting into a bed w/ him right now- he can "snuggle" a teddy bear until he proves himself...
don't be such a PUSHOVER...sweet talk isn't worth the paper it's written on...wait.
2006-06-28 12:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that a guy that izzzzz for "REAL" would be like that after a week. He's only interested in one thing and the fact that his complements like that make you nervous and that you like them only means that he has you rapped around his finger. No offense but he sees you as innocent and naive. Please trust me. I've had a guy like that.
2006-06-28 12:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by fuddy duddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have only been dating for a week, this is not real. He doesn't even know you yet. I think he is just trying to get you to like him, trust him, and to sleep with him.
2006-06-28 12:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, the old "snuggle" line. Believe me, I've used that one myself. It's sex. But hey, what isn't? Sex, drugs & rock and roll, and if I had to do without one, it wouldn't be sex.
2006-06-28 12:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say thank u and give him a compliment back he probably just tryna be nice and u said u don't think he tryna get in yo pants then don't worry about it. just take the compliments and stuff and mayb u should just talk to him about it.
2006-06-28 12:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋