How many times do I have to repeat myself?

Question

A little girl I know, does not listen well. I feel I am too hard on her sometimes, but my younger son, listens better than she does. He cleans up, he is more polite and he is a little more active. What do I do?

Answer 1

Hi, I think its great that you want to take time to teach a child to understand that there are manors and limits in the world. To many people say just forget it. Try telling her you are not her parents, she can not act the same with you. Say I know how you act with them. and you do not like it around you and your family. you expect manors from her same as from any child hanging around your family. BECAUSE YOU KNOW SHE IS ABLE TO HELP YOU WITH MANORS. AND WILL BE ABLE TO DO MORE WITH YOU. You have to be positive. And always use the look with it that says I know you can do it, do not try any trick. She will test you, Just give her the look ( eye brows crinkled and a question in your eyes) and say , I am not your parents remember. We both know you can help me do what I ask. You are a good person to try.

Answer 2

First of all stop comparing the little girl to your son. And yelling at her isn't going to help. How about some patience and explaining things in a different way. Maybe it's not her that doesn't listen maybe it's you who is not explaining what you want more clearly? She's only a little girl and she may need a little more attention. Patience is a virtue.

Answer 3

Some kids are just like that. It is their first step towards Independence and individualism. It's a good thing. She'll grow up a much stronger person, if she is not whupped into submission. Be patient and loving with her. Work with her and talk to her instead of dictating to her. you would be surprised how much children understand. She's not a slave, a robot or a puppet. She is a little person who is just learning about life. Show her some respect.

Answer 4

My daughter is the same way, she acts out when she wants attention. Just don't let her be lazy and not do the cleaning, but you could try to help her a little everyday and then it will become routine. I am still a "helper" but it is getting better. And a little more attention can't hurt anything either.

Answer 5

if she isn't your daughter talk to her mom and tell her to put in ballet or some activity that could keep her busy so she won't be bored and act up. Or she could put her in a sport. tell the parent that her daughter is not listening and every time she does that she should ground her or take away something she likes. Say if they were going to the park and she doesn't listen she shouldn't take her to the park.

Answer 6

Some kids have too much going on in there little brains.The world is big.You need to let her know what you are saying is important and why.

Out of 3 of my kids 1 is that way.
What works for me is getting to his level (knees)and say Look at mommy , look at my eyes and than when I have his attention I tell him what I need to tell him.And I always make sure he responds with an ok or yes.
So when he seems to forget what I said , all I have to do is say , "M****** look at me"and when he does I say "What did mommy say?"
That is the only time I need to repeat it since.
It works all the time for us.
Good Luck !

Answer 7

Well, you didn't add why you even HAVE to do something.
Do you babysit her? Does she comes over regularly w/o her mom to play with your son?
If she's in YOUR care, you are in charge. You can't spank another parent's child, but you CAN put them in time-out or just have them sit down if they refuse to listen. I babysit my nephew on a regular basis, and I'm the ONLY female he won't say this to, "You're not my boss!!" I treat him like my own child, w/o touching him at all. I wouldn't spank or grab his arm, or anything like that.
DON'T engage in an argument with a child, your word should be all it takes.

Answer 8

Hmm..

I'm guessing she maybe has some kind of hearing disfunction.
Take her to the doctor.
That might help.Tell the doctor about what is going on.

About the politeness,every young girl is inpolite now-a-days.
They are getting to be more mature at a very young age.
Maybe you should leave it alone.

Answer 9

Overreact when your son does something good that the girl doesn't do. Reward and compliment him. Drown him in praise in front of her, and tell her nothing until she starts to get the hint. It may seem harsh, but it's the only way to make her understand.

Answer 10

Well the first thing you should ask is how was i growing up???Most parents are being payed back by the way they treated there parents..I know i have a son that is a spitting image of me when i was his age!! So have pation with her she will change in time.