I am a married christian man.I have been married for five years now and me and my wife were talking about buying some sex toys. Is this agaisnt the christian belief. Am I not allowed to enjoy sex with my wife to the fullist extent without bieng harmfull or inflicting pain.
2006-06-28 04:28:14 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Some other Christians may not agree with me on this one but..............
Well as far as I'm concerned I think you would be fully within your christian rights as a married man to use sex toys with your wife. I'm sorry but I don't know exactly what religion you are and cant tell you their standing with the use of sex toys. The Lord built our bodies with all the pleasurable senses it has and I don't see why he wouldn't want you and your wife to enjoy them.
2006-06-28 04:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by Native 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no its not wrong because your married and should live it to the fullest.
But are you not satisfied with what you have that makes you need to bring in the Calvary (toys). Who are the toys for? If your a Christian then you should know a little leven levens the whole lump. eventually you will need a bigger Calvary-moving on to the movies. Those movies usually start this kind of behavior. If your already watching them you should get rid of them. I have been there. I was married for 10 years. You will defile your marriage. keep the Calvary out of your home. once you start you will eventually ask when it will end. It might end with your wife and Sancho next door. I'm not saying any of this will certainly happen. some people are fine with it but I had a good relationship and now its gone because we thought it was good enough to bring in a little more. read my whole story to see how I became single http://godwetrust.net/AboutMe.html
My story might not seem relavent but through it all there was little things I did not write. It would take much more to write it all.
2006-06-28 04:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is done in your bedroom ought to be kept there the world does not need to know ...
If you and your wife both agree and you being a christian man are not under conviction..then God is not saying otherwise...but if you are being convicted and are seeking approval from public opinion...then you're already wrong...because the Lord will convict you if you're doing something against his will...
Fornication...in the greek is pornia...look it up in the strongs
Pornia is sexual sin including in the mind...it is greater than adultery...it actually overshadows adultery..another words adultery is found under the guidelines of fornication
So role playing ..giving the implication of someone outside of your marriage is wrong
Pornagraphic material is wrong because it gives images of persons other than you and your wife
toys would be ok IF they not making you believe there are is other than you and your wife...and toys can give you that frame of mind...like a 3 some
again you need to think it through because if you allow them into your bed ...she may like them more than you and your position may become less meaningful...(in the bed)
I also want to offer this thought....Making love to your wife is a private and intimate thing...it is a type(not in the flesh) of oneness that we have with the Lord to become one with him
although He gave us freedom to feel the pleasures involved with intimate relations..they are sacred..because they are a type of that communication we have with him..in
frequency...oneness...the giving of your whole self to him
you see it is a spiritual thing as well as physical...
Pray about it..since you did say you are a christian man I know God will lead you in the right direction...God bless
2006-06-28 04:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by soldier612 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You surely are allowed to enjoy sex with your wife. I don't know where this ridiculous notion comes from that if what we are doing gives us pleasure, it must somehow be sinful. God gave us sex as a wonderful gift, meant to enhance the relationship between a man and a woman who are committed to one another in a marriage relationship. I have not found one single verse anywhere in the Bible that restricts sex between a man and his wife in any way, unless they agree to abstain for a time in order to meditate and pray, and then they are to come back together again with a renewed enthusiasm for one another.
Close the door and have fun, and God bless you.
2006-06-28 04:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is alright as long as it is within the bonds of marriage. God created husbands and wives to love one another in a special way that's why He created the intensity you feel during sex, it's gift from Almighty God. Song of Solomon is a book in the Bible that can be interpreted as being the intimacy between husband and wife. Just be careful that this does not lead to anything else.
2006-06-28 04:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by stpolycarp77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey... sex is supposed to be fun! It is for pleasure between you and your wife! No harm in what she is doing... she sounds bored and unsatisfied. Maybe you need to be more romantic with her and treat her like a queen?
Live out your fantasies with her! She is your wife! Don't wait for this to end up destroying your marriage... because if you neglect her she won't feel loved... and that leads to affairs.
Not judging you... but Christ loves the church and so the husband is to love the wife... intimately and to cherish her. If she is buying the toys... I would see that as a red flag that your marriage may be in trouble.
2006-06-28 04:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by ddead_alive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People only need such things when they are more indulgent of the flesh, their focus on sex.
While sex within marriage is sanctified - when Sex becomes that much priority they seek un-natural means of gratification - its then sin because the gratification of the flesh has become more important than the purpose of life given them.
This world is absorbed and obsessed with sex (again not that sex in marriage is wrong) but being consumed with it makes it a sin. Understand? Where your heart is that is your reward. Christ or the flesh?
2006-06-28 04:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most basic biological urge humans share with all other animals is the need to procreate.
Humans are more fortunate (and cursed) than animals because humans have the ability to enjoy pleasure that is associated with the urge to procreate.
There are some radical extremists who proclaim that Christians are to forgo all pleasure. If you share that belief, then you should forgo all pleasure.
But, there is no biblical or rational reason to do so.
2006-06-28 04:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Left the building 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is anything wrong with married peoples engaging in sex. Sex is a gift of pleasure given from God for men and women who are married. Song of Songs is dedicated to the pleasures of sex for married Christians. Enjoy with or without toys. =)
http://www.christian-sex.net/ <-- this is a serious book for Christian men, I stumbled upon it but it's not a joke or porn....
2006-06-28 04:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soldier612 makes an excellent point, and here is another one....
The author of Hebrews touches on marriage and the intimacy that husband and wife share:
Hbr 13:4 Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
This is what I was told by a very knowledgable man one time...intimacy was created for husband and wife, apart from that, it is a sin (as is pointed out in the latter portion of this verse). In my opinion, the use of tools (porn of any level, role playing (using the images, whether real or imagined of any person such as a movie star, celebrity in any genre) are a form of adultery as pointed out by Jesus Himself (Mat 5:27Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: Mat 5:28But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart). That said, consider the use of toys. The saying "what happens behind closed doors should stay behind those doors" applies most certainly here. If this enhances the experience, why not? HOWEVER, if the use of such things brings upon yourself or your wife the feelings of guilt or shame, then they should definately not be used. Again, citing Scripture (keep in mind that this refers to eating, but may be used in any instance that could cause a brother or sister to stumble in their faith):
1Cr 8:9But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours become a stumblingblock to them that are weak.
Keeping these Scriptures in mind, and researching this prior to acting, as well as open and insightful discussion with your wife, that would be the answer to your question.
2006-06-28 05:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by BillyBoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋