He dumped me, it was all over something stupid and silly.A mutual friend called him while he was out of town, lying saying I no longer cared for my boyfriend of 6 months and I was cheating. He stupidly believed her. He should have come and talk to me, but instead he dumped me when he got back. Of corse the same friend had told the same but slightly altered story to me.My x & I remained friends however I never stopped liking him. 1day 2 months later,I met his parents at a honors awards breakfast and I learned the real story.Fact was,while he was gone,we had both waited by the phone for the other to call, and the mutual friend was the one who instead called and lied her way to get to our heart. He apologizes all the time and we have cried 2gether, I was really hurt.I get scared when he talked to other girls,& jealous. He said he never stopped liking me,and i know i never stopped liking him. I miss him more than i can understand, and he says the same.I know hes sorry-do i take him bac
2006-06-28 04:06:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you guys so much!
And yes, the "friend" has been booted. She was an extremly horrible person, but I forgot to add. He dumped me for HER. howeverhe went back and confronted her and told her to stay out of our lives and to not do this to them anymore.
Your advice was/is awesome, thank you so much for your time!!
2006-06-28 04:34:20 · update #1
Wow!
Big problem on this one.
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Well,it seems like your ex boyfriend is truly sorry.Seems like he still cares about you.I think he is waiting for you to ask him back out,because he is afraid you are losing your love for him.
This decision is entirely up to you.You need to face facts.
He is in love with you.He is very sorry.He cares about you.
You two need each other.If you're going to let some dumb a** chick get in the way of you two,you're dumb.
Get him back.
(If that's what you feel you need to do.)
-Nick
2006-06-28 04:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by inurface012391 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know that I would, because he is ready to believe anyone but you. You must have trust and there doesn't seem to be that in this relationship. I think for sure I would dump the mutual friend, and I use the word lightly. You should talk to him and make sure ,if you take him back, That he comes to you before accepting idle chatter. Good luck.
2006-06-28 11:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both learned a very big lesson. Communication in a relationship is very important. Both of you should have been calling each other. Now you both know how deeply you both feel about each other, I would get back together and communicate much better when separated. This so call friend took advantage of your hearts.
Maybe hearing about both of you and how you both was missing the other and wondering what was happening. She took advantage of this and called to cause trouble.
2006-06-28 11:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He should have been a Man and talked to you before breaking up. He should have trusted you exclusively and he didn't. That memory will always be with you both, and trust has been compromised and you both have been damaged by this. You should move on and heal from the situation, and you should tell your so called friend to take a hike.
2006-06-28 11:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not have listen to other people, he should have let you do the explaining and trust you.
The person who carry the news on you , let him keep far.
You both have trust issue......get together an try to work things out if you really want him back.
Let him know there will not be a next time.
2006-06-28 11:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by *Cutie* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, then take him back. But you have to know the way he is, like he dumped you when that other girl told him a lie, you have to think about the next time he hears something about you, is he gonna dump you without asking you anything.......
2006-06-28 11:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by queen b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing...I hope you at least dumped the lying friend.
If it were me..I would have to ask myself if I was willing to be involved with someone that didn't trust me enough to ask me what was going on instead of just taking someone else's word for it. I mean really, what happens the next time?
2006-06-28 11:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by brattiness73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said ... "He said he never stopped liking me,and i know i never stopped liking him. I miss him more than i can understand, and he says the same.I know hes sorry"
... forgive and more importantly forget. Yeah give him another chance ... hopefully both of you have learned a valuable lesson from this ....
2006-06-28 11:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by Aviator_Warrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if you love him, forgive him and give him a second chance everybody makes mistakes. But I would make sure he realizes his mistake and it should not happen again. Trust is the foundation of love and friendship if the foundation is not strong you cannot have a sturdy house.
2006-06-28 11:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by charmaine m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of corse!!!! if u both want each other, y hurt urselves? it was obviously a very mean a nd cruel thing for that person to do to u guys, and i suggest u dont have anything to do w/ her for a while. she had no buisiness interfering with ur lives, and i hope u get back together!!!<33
2006-06-28 11:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by Catherine C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋