Do I handle her different?
2006-06-28 04:05:09 · 38 answers · asked by justwan2know... 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why would you? Is it contageous?
2006-06-28 04:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear a Level 3 BioHazard suit whenever you two go for coffee -or anything for that matter. If you don't, you may get 'THE GAY'.
Seriously, gimme a friggin' break! Are you posting this here in order to get support from those who would tell you that it's wrong according to a book written ages ago, or the word of a God that cannot be proven? OR are you looking to get a rational, logical answer that you probably already know?
The bottom line is this: Remove the concept of her sexuality from your mind. Is she still the same person? Do you still enjoy her company? Do you still make each other laugh and vent your frustrations, or whatever? If you still consider her your friend, then why do you even have to ask?
2006-06-28 05:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you choose the words..(admitted she was) Sounds like she is guilty of something right off the bat! WOW! No wonder she did not tell you sooner!
If you are friends why is she having to admitt that she is gay to you in the first place? I think you need to do a lil' soul searching on how good of a friend YOU are.
I have a problem with you needing to ask if you should treat her differently, when it sounds to me that you already are just by asking this question!!!!!!Do people who walk around naked in public need to have a thicker skin?
I mean ...if you are going to ask a personal question on this site, than you better be prepared for a some not so nice opinions...without getting all wacked out and writing me! Geeeeez!
2006-06-28 04:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice to see many people here are open minded.
I suggest you should be straight with here ;-) and tell her if you don't know how to react. Just accepting adn acting normal while you feel somewhat uncomfortable is too political correct.
I think she will be glad to hear you are willing to talk honestly about the fact you don't know how to react.
Acting cool and normal while you feel not at ease could just be a phase you two friends (just friends) go trough. But it may also lead to a situation in which you are avoiding the person because you never said you find it difficult to accept it at first (which is the case, I presume, otherwise you shouldn't have posted this question).
2006-06-28 04:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Il Topo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you mean react? Is that a crime or mistake?
Its not a big deal, and she is not the only 1 who is a lesbian.
Treat, love, respect, help, support her the same way as you have been if you consider her "your friend" and you consider yourself "her friend." Ones sexuality shouldn't and doesn't change your friendship or mutual respect for each other (unless you're a homo-phobia or anti-gay religious nuts).
Perhaps she was your first gay friend, and that's why you asked "How do I react?" No big deal. Everything should stay the same, and it shouldn't bother or interfere your relationship with her.
2006-06-28 04:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by jockychannel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be no different, she is still the same person, and may have told you because she needed someone who she could trust, and confide in, don't let her down. When you talk to her, only talk about it if she wants to, she has nothing to be ashamed of, and then don't turn away from her she may feel rejected, by you, or she may have been rejected by someone else she has told, think about her family, do they know? how did they or how would they react.
You said one of your close friends, so prove that you are what she things you are.
2006-06-28 06:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by ringo711 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to handle her different. Let her know that being gay is natural and cannot be acquired. Let her know that she is not alone. Let her know that her being gay and you not being , cannot prevent you from remaining close friends and plan together for development.
2006-06-28 04:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by kaloyzious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason to treat her any differently. She's still the exact same person that she was before she told you she was gay. Besides, chances are she was still gay before she told you, so I really wouldn't worry about it. Just keep going like nothing happened. It's not like you can catch it from her.
2006-06-28 04:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by Archangeleon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for your friend. You know that it must have been difficult to "come out" - and risk the chance that you may turn your back on the friendship or treat her differently.
She must really trust you and value your friendship to have told you. If you are a true friend, you will continue to do exactly what you always have done - be a friend to her.
2006-06-28 04:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by Clover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my good friends in high school came out at the end of our senior year. She asked me if it bothered her so I told her "Britt, I don't agree with the lifestyle but you're still my friend. As long as you always understand we're just friends, then there's no problem" and she was like "That's such a relief to hear" (because we lived in a small town in Oklahoma, not very accepting). You didn't love your friend because she was straight, you loved her for who she was so don't let her sexual orientation change your friendship.
2006-06-28 04:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by Candice H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this even an issue? If she's a 'close' friend you must know her well enough for it not to make a difference. Does who you sleep with affect her?
2006-06-28 04:12:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋