2006-06-28 04:00:59 · 63 answers · asked by hottie_jolie420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, there's not going to be a good answer on here. We don't know your boyfriend. We don't know what he's inclined to do. Anyone who answers straight-up, "He's cheating on you," or "It's nothing," is being dishonest, because that person is projecting his/her fears onto your situation.
Keep an eye out for warning signs. Maybe they are just roommates with no romantic involvement. But maybe their relationship will evolve past the friendship level.
In any case, communication is the key. Let him know if this bothers you. He should understand your concerns. If he blows them off, then it may be for the best, as you'll know what kind of man he is. After all, if he doesn't respect your feelings about this, then it'll just get worse when a bigger problem comes along.
Don't nag him, though. Give him a chance to think things over. If you come across as the overbearing jealous type, then he'll wonder why the relationship is worth it. If it is innocuous, then he'll be really insulted.
In short, none of us can tell you what it means. We don't know your boyfriend. Keep alert and maintain communication. Let him know that if anything happens with his roommate, you want to know, even if it hurts. It's better than having a dishonest relationship.
2006-06-28 04:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rev Kev 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means you will be spending a lot more time over at their place doesn't it???
I might be naive but I think it's possible for a guy and a girl to be just friends. I also believe that there was or will be some point that they will consider, talk about or just joke about being together as a couple. After all, shouldn't all good relationships be with your best friend?
2006-06-28 04:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him? If they are just friends, then there is no reason to be concerned. If he really loves you, then he will have good reasons as to why he moved in with her. Talk to him. Ask him what his reasons were, and tell him your concerns (if you have any) about the fact that you are worried he might be interested in her as more than a friend...etc...It may just be that it is cheaper in the long run for him to live with her, until he can afford his own place. Maybe you two should consider moving in together, if you are really worried about him living with her. Don't listen to these people on here saying he isn't your boyfriend anymore or that he's cheating on you. They don't know who he really is, but you do. If you feel that is something to be concerned about, then talk to him. Maybe you can work something out...Good luck and peace...
2006-06-28 04:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by katrina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's easy to assume the worse, but don't. Give him the benefit of the doubt. I have a best friend that is female and there is no way in hell I would ever do anything with her. Is she attractive? That does mean something. I just don't do anything with my best friend because I am not attracted to her; but, if she was, there may be a problem. Also, how do they seem together? You have to be the judge of that. My girlfriend knows it is alright because I, and my friend, give her a sense of normality when she is around. You have to ask yourself how you feel around them. It all comes down to what you are comfortable with! Good luck and don't sweat it unless you must-added, unnecessary pressure will just burden the relationship!
2006-06-28 04:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax, my boyfriend moved in with 3 girls for roomates and well to tell you the truth, if you had trust in him it wouldnt matter, and since you dont have trust in him, than it probably isnt that great of a relationship between you two, so i would just find someone else, another question to ask yourself would be how long have you 2 gone out for?. that may answer your question if its more than a year and you still dont have trust in him, than just find someone else, if its a couple months than sit down with him and ask him if anything is going on, and if its his best friend do you think a guy would screw his best friend.
Hope all works out for you! :)
2006-06-28 04:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by ++Laura++ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is probably cheating, ask him if he needed a roommate, why wouldn't he ask you? Ask him how he would feel if you moved in with a guy who was "just a friend". If he says "I wouldn't care" then that means he doesn't really care about you at all. If he says that he would be furious, then tell him "now you know how I feel" and ask him not to move in with that girl. If he says no, then dump him, he's not worth the trouble.
2006-06-28 04:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sucks most people who have best friends of another gender usually start having other feelings for each other & if he is moving in with her it is prob. harmless right now but you better keep a close eye on them because in time they prob will end up acting on the feelings....but who knows it doesnt always happen like that ...but u should talk to your boy friend and his best friend and let them know that it does worry u a little bit maybe they can ease your mind a little
2006-06-28 04:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not mean anything. I have a few male friends and have even slept in the same bed with one of them and absolutely nothing happened! It all goes back to basic trust, only if you had trust issues anyway would that bother you. If he has a female friend she should also be your friend. That would eliminate possible suspicions.
2006-06-28 04:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by Me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on their relationship. I have male friends that I've known since I was 5 and I could easily move in with one of them without it ever becoming more than friendship. If they've become friends in the last few years or so, you may want to seriously reconsider your relationship with him. He may be completely committed to you but, unfortunately, the chances are high that he will end up cheating.
2006-06-28 04:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably that he doenst have enuff money to pay all of his bills since everything is so expensive now-a-days. Stop being so jealous or ask him whats up? Your insecurity will break you guys up. Or, maybe that girl is more than his best friend. Maybe they lay together. Then you can move on and find another guy. Pretty simple.
2006-06-28 04:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋