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Please only serious answers, this is a serious question.
My husbands cousin killed himself last week and we went to the funeral and people thought since he went to church and was a Christian that he was in Heaven now.
I have always believed that taking your own life was a major sin and that you would go to Hell because you took your own life away from God and obviously could not ask forgivness after you did it.
Do you agree with me, or do you think that he would be in Heaven anyway?
It has really been bothering me and I plan on asking my pastor. I just thought even though you are saved, you still have to ask forgivness every time you sinned, not just once when you got saved and then you would be forgiven for everything you ever did.
What are your thoughts on this?
I have been a Christian my whole life and know a lot about the Bible and religion, and always thought that I was right on this matter, but now I am wondering.

Answer 1

First off you have my condolences on your loss. I too believe that taking your own life is a major sin as God is the Master of life and death. There are many reasons why people feel they must end their own lives, and to those they leave behind, those reasons always seem inadequate. The Good Lord above understands why, and what was in their heart. Judgment should be left to God alone, we place our values when passing judgment on others, and our values are not Gods. God may have very well have forgiven your husbands cousin. I understand your dilemma about this, but my best advice to you would be to pray for his soul and speaking to your pastor about this sounds like a step in the right direction. I pray for you and your family that you may have peace.

Answer 2

I have always thought that taking your own life was a sin and I don't even believe in God. But how do we know maybe you do get to ask for forgiveness after all. The there might be a God and we all are going to heaven. I guess we will know when we get there. I am very sorry for you and your families lose.

Answer 3

We had two rather nasty suicides in my wifes family two years ago. I ran into the same thing when at her grandmothers funeral (an atheist) where a minister presided over the ceremony. In classical doctrine this is an unforgivable sin, so in that respect you are right, but speaking personally, I would have to agree with everyone who has told you to seek some sort of guidance, be it religious or otherwise (councilor). Prayer (once again I am not a christian) is also an avenue I would pursue, as even without the spiritual connection one supposedly attains when speaking to God, it is a good means for clearing your thoughts. If I were you I would be very supportive of my husband and not concern myself with where his brother may or may not have ended up. Your husband should be your focus, don't lose sight of your love for him, he needs you now. Trust me, I know what it's like to lose a brother.

Answer 4

This is a terrible trauma for your family to go through, my sincere condolences. As for your thoughts regarding this and the confusion it has caused, I completely agree that you should speak with your pastor. For now though I'll offer you my own thoughts on such a thing...I do truly believe in God and accept Jesus as my Savior, I've read the entire bible, etc. I understand why you are worried/confused. Personally, my thoughts on this are that people who take their own lives - although a sin - have something wrong with them. Something isn't right in their brain/body - almost an illness. For this I have a hard time believing that God would punish one for having an illness. I hope this doesn't make things more confusing for you. May you find peace in your soul and your mind regarding this matter.

Answer 5

Well... the bible says that life is a gift and should be treated with respect. Also, I would think that if you're dead, you're not around to ask for forgiveness. But (and I know this isn't a wildly popular statement) you should take comfort in the fact that your cousin is not 'burning in hell' because the fact is that is a scare tactic designed to keep people in the church. The bible says that the dead are concious of nothing and feel nothing... death is usually referred to as being 'asleep in death'.
I am sorry to hear about your loss though, it's always a sad thing.

Answer 6

I think that in any case, if your husband's cousin was overall a good person, he will go to heaven even though he took his own life.

I don't know that god would deny entrance to heaven to him for that reason only. If he had a reason to take his own life, for example he was very depressed, then I think that god would see that and forgive your husband's cousin when he asked for fogiveness.

I hope that this helps, and my deepest condolences to you and your husband on the loss of his cousin.

Answer 7

First of all I am sorry for your loss I am not a real church going person but I do believe in God I was raised to believe that if you take your own life you will not go to Heaven but I am not 100% on this becouse God knows you inside and out and he may forgive him becouse he knows exactly why he did it . good luck to you I hope you find resolution one thing you can do is pray for him .

Answer 8

a million what do Muslims study about Christianity? *worshiping Prophet isa/jesus is gigantic balsphemy to God. it really is in quran. 2 i comprehend you view Jesus as a prophet how is it no longer accessible for God who's effectual to no longer be able to come back down in human kind *because neither in Gospel and quran state that jesus is God, nor he became a son of god. 3 I truly have heard some Muslims say that the Bible is corrupted i'm at a loss for words by utilizing that because i trust that the Bible is Gods be conscious and Gods be conscious cant be corrupted or destroyed? *tell me that's the authentic bible. i opt to ascertain it. 4 ok so what's the Muslim view on homosexuals do you've faith that God hates them or dislikes them because i comprehend that Christianity teaches to love and under no circumstances to hate *being homo is fantastic in islam. yet guidance it really is a huge sin. there is not any punishmnet in islam for homosexuality in this international. 5 What can Christians do to get to entice close and characteristic better relationships with Muslims and please forget concerning the large conservative God hates you Christians the overall public of Christians are unlike that. *?

Answer 9

If he had accepted Jesus then he would be with Him now.
Concerning the sin issue I have to believe that people who take their own lives have to be, at least temporarily, in a diminished mental capacity.

Whatever Jesus' judgment we will all agree it is just and fair.

I'm hoping for leniency in these cases as the closest person to me in the world took his own life.

I'll pray for your family.

Answer 10

Since religeon is all faith-based, you have to believe that answer which fits your life the best. I believe that we have some inward sense of rightness that guides when we listen to it as opposed to taking someone elses faith-based opinion. Take what works for you. God doesn't mind!