how can you stop pitying yourself because the one that you love dont love you?

Answer 1

The only way you need to look at this type of situation. Everyone comes into ones life for a certain period and time, and when that time is over it is over and there is nothing we can do about it. People come into each other life for a certain reason, and it does not always have to be sexual or for love. It could just be about life many lessons. Research your soul and find the lesson for that person coming into your life, and it could be something you did for him to improve his life that will help you in your life.

Mr. Lindsay Geiger

Answer 2

sentimentality's,infatuations and mere excitements shouldn't be sub changed for true love only time can tell what is believed to be true love in a relationship.self pity in a relationship is as a result of hasty generalizations which where centered and based on materiality concepts and when the unexpected happens frustrations set in and what is left is nothing but self pity but that isn't the end result the determination to survive the next level should be your propelling force while self pity will circumvent your intuitions and out rightly reduce you to a second class or even lesser citizen.the cure to this type of situation is only to live far above what is highly believed to be disappointment in a relationship always guide your self with these little saying''the worst is yet to come''when you are not prepared for the unforeseen the result is quite outrageous which may be incompatible to your overall well being avoid such situations by being just a little practical and ask some nasty questions at regular intervals you'll be glad with your discoveries.mind you love can never be forced it must come naturally.

Answer 3

You need to pity the person who doesn't love you. There's no reason to feel bad when that one person doesn't love you back. Maybe they just never got to know you well enough inside... and maybe there just wasn't chemistry on his part. Maybe he's just a doofus too.

Think about all the people who DO love you... and those that you've mutually loved. I can guarantee that there have also been times in your life when some guy has been in love with you (or just flat out ADORED you) and you didn't love him back... maybe you never even knew.

It's hard to move on when you're hurting... but know that there's nothing wrong with you... there's nothing at fault except for maybe lack of chemistry or just that something else is what's meant to be for you. If he doesn't love you back... he wasn't *the right one* to begin with.

I'm really grateful for you that you found out now. Sometimes we don't find out until so much time has passed that it's permanently altered your life (marriage, children, etc)

In your mind... or on paper... thank him for what you learned during the relationship. Thank him for the experience. Thank him for all the positive aspects of any interaction between you. And then be open to a wonderful future with a guy who will love you as much as you love him.

Answer 4

aww im sorry sweetie, find another one if he doesnt love you back then maybe thats a sign that he's not good for you so you might be saving your heart for that one special person just give it some time, go out with your friends and enjoy yourself, dont feel sorry for yourself becuz you cant have that love from him, just keep your head up, think of all the options you do have there are other fish in the sea. so you'll find someone

Answer 5

First you have to love yourself. Find something else to focus on. Go back to a time that you were happy and figure out what it was you were doing that caused you to feel good. Sometimes getting a new hobby helps distract you from things going on in your life. Take up bowling or something. You get to meet new people, get some exercise and a break from it all! Good luck~

Answer 6

First of all you have to realize sweetie. He is not the one for you, or the feelings would be the same. You have to look elsewhere. It took me 57 years to find the perfect woman for me that loves me unconditional and that is the kind of relationship you want.
Never give up who you are. Don't change unless you need to for yourself, never for someone else.
Be true to you.
Remember, if you love something, let it go, If it comes back to you , it is yours. If it doesn't , it never was.
Good luck

Answer 7

think about what would you do if you found a person did love you as much if not much then you love him i love my girlfriend with all my well bring and I show her and tell her the love that i have for her the life that you live is the life that you make the person your with is the person that can help you or bring you down so look hard and wide till you find that right one and i wish you the best of luck with that.

Answer 8

From my experience, they do love you, just not the way you want them to. Cry your heart out, and move on. Stay away from dating until you heal, because you might take that to the next relationship and that is a big no-no!
Stop seeing that person all together; it is hard, but possible, and necessary.

Answer 9

Become the best thing you can be it has to be a focused decision though. Do you really think the person you love or loved is really worried about how your feeling. The best cure for a broken heart is work and time.

Answer 10

You cannot do this until you are ready. It takes time to get through it and when you are ready then you will be able to move on from it. Just let this run its course and someone else will end up loving you...someone that you love back. Good Luck.