I feel overwelmed because my 16 year old sister's baby is due now on July 20th. I was hoping to have enough time to redo the baby/Trish's room but I'm not having enough time.I am looking for some advice on how to handle a house like mine's going to become. I was really busy before my mom and dad died in the same week, Trish anosed she was pregnat, I decdied to adopt her baby, and I had my third child under 5 in mid-may, and I just quit work. I've had one busy last couple months. Oh and we moved!!! PLUS we were asked to take back our foster daughter, Bethany who's now going into 3rd grade. I am so busy, but Bethany IS coming back. i don't know I'm just tooooooo busy! and My new job, tutoring online isn't working out that well. I was a college professor. NOw i'm this! WHAT THE HECK!! Can I have some help how to deal with haveing two new babies in the house, and all this junk but still have time to love, play with and support my kids? I don't want them to feel left out cuz of other kids!
2006-06-28 03:43:37 · 7 answers · asked by ♥ Ava ♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Also, We've decided on a name!!
Miley Nicole
2006-06-28 03:44:05 · update #1
A girl we know watches the kids for 3 hours each day. 5 year old is going into K next year, and 3 year old will be in preschool. I hire a service to clean the house. And not to my liking, we have to have a lot of take out.
2006-06-28 03:55:00 · update #2
PLUS Bethany helps sooo soo soo much I couldn't be prouder of her efforts. Also, my 16 year old sister has done a lot of babysitting and help. I love them all!
2006-06-28 03:56:02 · update #3
aww you seem like such a nice person, take time out for all of them, thats all the advice i can think of
2006-06-28 03:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Breathe.
Breathe again.
Panic isn't helpful - but it is the first reasonable reaction. Wow.
Don't really worry about the room. I think that you are "highly concerned" about the room to avoid thinking about all the transitions in your life. You've experienced 6 major events recently, and the 7th is coming soon.
First, decide where everyone is going to sleep. Arrange beds or cribs and linens.
Second, figure out a definite schedule for your older children and your returning foster child. Eating, cleaning up, playtime, alone time with Mom.
Third, figure out a schedule that includes private time for you (out of the house is a requirement) and time for your partner and yourself. Plan for 7 hours of sleep for yourself!!!!! Even if you have to declare an hour period every afternoon when every child is in their own bed and you are too!
Fourth, realize that for six months or so, working out of the home will be difficult, try not to make it a top ten priority. Maybe, when those kids reach mid-school-year, and figure out that they need tutoring, you'll be right there waiting for them.
Fifth, find your sense of humor. You will need it!!
Good luck!
2006-06-28 03:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by lsbf216@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my town we have a couple of churches that have what they call a "mother's day out" It is one day a week. You take the kids there and drop them off usually about 9 and pick up is at 2 or 3 at most of them. One day a week doesn't seem like much, but it is a big help! Check around! Man, I thought I was busy! I don't have near as much going on as you! Good luck!
2006-06-28 04:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. You're going to have to make some tough decisons so that none of your kids suffer. You may need to hire a nanny, or whatever, to help wrangle all the kids or a housekeeper to take care of the house. As to the baby's room, there again, hire someone to redo it.
2006-06-28 03:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just take your time and wait to see what happens..if you are not taking care of the baby 24-7 then you should work on the room....schedule yourself and it may work....you may find it overwhelming at first but it will all work out...and the third grader can probably help you...have family members help you with both the baby and the house...and congradulations on the new babies...
2006-06-28 03:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by moni j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are the men in all this, can they paint the baby's room? Are they willing to be involved?
Is there a church you belong to that can ask for volunteers to help you?
2006-06-28 03:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down and ask for help...this is too much for you to handle alone. Do small tasks...take your time...it will all work out.
2006-06-28 04:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Texas318-222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋