They have the money they just don't want their daughter to get married yet. They like the guy and everything. Should they just settle for a smaller wedding or elope?
2006-06-28 03:17:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In many familys it is tradition for the brides family to pay for the wedding thats why some people expect it k?
2006-06-28 08:28:19 · update #1
And I'm not the only one whos thinks the brides family should pay for the wedding. Check out this website: http://www.ourmarriage.com/html/who_pays...
2006-06-28 08:29:38 · update #2
Sorry this is the correct link: http://www.ourmarriage.com/html/who_pays_for_what.html
2006-06-28 08:30:39 · update #3
A small wedding they can afford to pay for themselves will mean a lot more to them and will also show the family that she is going to marry him, no matter what and that may be enough to get them on board farther down the line.
I wouldn't elope unless there was absolutely no way they could afford a wedding themselves, even the smallest kind. Family and friends should still be part of this day and the bride's family shouldn't ruin that just because they don't want to pay. Don't give them the satisfaction.
2006-06-28 03:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one says they have to pay for the wedding.
Decide to keep it small and you can do it for $3000 to $5000 without a problem.
Take out a personal loan to cover it. My husband and I spent almost $6000 and we had a big wedding , about 200 guests. We had the reception somewhere that we could bring in out own alcohol .... we bough all the liquor and 2 kegs of beer, hired 2 bartenders and saved a ton on what we would have been charged if a hotel or restaurant would have handled it. We hired the caterer and kept it simple with a buffet ( cheese balls , veggie and fruit trays , meats and cheeses , cheese sticks , meat balls that type of thing.) In the end after shower and wedding gifts we were given over $5000 in cash and the wedding was pretty much taken care of. Would I have liked to have had the money yes but I wouldn't want to have not had the memory of that day. A friend video taped it and then we had a professional clean the tape up and add music and the wedding invitation for like $50. Our kids like watching the tape now and seeing what everyone looked like so long ago (10 yrs)ha!ha!
2006-06-28 03:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, choose for smaller wedding, probably off somewhere by themselves. Go off and get married somewhere and then come back home and have a small get together with friends and family as a reception. In this time and age, the typical payout for the wedding is completely different than before. If the bride-to-be's parents aren't comfortable with her getting married yet, then the two of them need to sit down with her parents and discuss the problem with them, and then let them know their plans of going away to get married and the idea of coming home to a reception. See if they like that idea better, instead of them having to fork over the money. If they don't like it any better....well, then maybe they just don't like the groom-to-be. New subject then!!
2006-06-28 03:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by curious mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't elope, unless that's what you two really really want to do. Just have a smaller wedding, and make it memorable to you. You can have a really nice wedding for not a lot of money. And hey, look at the silver lining here, with out mom and dad paying, you don't have to feel pressured to do things, or pick the things they like and want over what you like and want!!!
2006-06-28 03:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay for it yourself and have a smaller wedding. Nowadays, it's not required for the bride's or groom's family to give anything towards the wedding. Also - don't go into debt over it - it's not worth it. They aren't "settling" for a smaller wedding since they were never entitled to have anything other than what they could afford anyway.
2006-06-28 03:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by Brenda F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want and is affordable - eloping is a great idea, but your parents may not like it because all they get to see is the pictures. Look into doing your wedding and honeymoon at the same time. Sandals, Couples, and cruises are great. Sandals and Couples are all inclusive so the price you pay is your stay, your food, your alcohol, your wedding, everything.
2006-06-28 03:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you expect the bride's family to pay for the wedding? Pay for your own wedding.
2006-06-28 04:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an extra job or better paying one. Consider having a smaller wedding. Create a budget (and stick to it!)
2006-06-28 03:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by hunterlm84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elope. The wedding is more for the woman than the man anyway, and if her parents dont want to shell out, they should run out and elope.
2006-06-28 03:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by Tunasandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are new times a lot of times the bride don't have family. Family is not what it use to be. I feel it should be a bride and groom thing and who ever want to help contribute.
2006-06-28 03:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋