My daughter's a year old and sometimes sleeps in our bed, breastfeeds non exclusively, how can I wean her of

Question

sleeping with us????

Answer 1

give her a bottle and put her in her own bed

Answer 2

First of all, 1 year old is NOT too old to be breastfeeding. In world full of new experiences and stressful situations, a toddler needs something to comfort her. But if you feel that it's time to stop nursing, cut back gradually. Say, one feeding a day for a week. Usually the last feedings to go are the ones right before nap and right before bed.

Also don't wean and put her in her own bed at the same time. Do one first (I would suggest sleeping in her own bed) then after she has that down, go on to the next. To get her to sleep in her bed, first make it a place she likes. Play in there during the day, so at night she knows where she is. Talk to her about it during the day. Say,"You are such a big girl with your own bed!" Let her have a night time friend that she can sleep with. Whether its a blanket, pillow, doll or stuffed animal. What ever you do, BE CONSTANT! Also, don't fall into the trap of lying down with her in her bed. Good luck. I won't happen overnight.

Answer 3

These people are freakin' insane! I broke my daughter of bottles at a year, and I had unfortunately stoped breastfeeding 6 months before that. If it's bothering you and your bedmate (only then, not if it's bothering family/friends/other nosy people) then do something about it. The Ferber method does work. It sucks and it's really tough on the parents, but it works. Maybe try rewarding her (stickers) if she stays in her own bed all night. Or buy her a new special nightlight she gets to choose. Something fun and exciting for her for being a big girl. If it's not bothering either of you that she's sleeping in your bed then keep doing it. Enjoy the closeness and it's not any more dangerous. I researched it when I did it with my daughter. Some years more babies die from cribs and some years more die from co-sleeping. Both are almost exactly even in danger though, so don't listen to people who randomly repeat things they have heard through the grapevine. As to the breastfeeding thing just give her a bottle, and tell her that she's getting to big and so grown up that she doesn't have to eat like a little baby anymore! My brother was breastfed exclusively, and when mom cut him off he didn't eat anythign for 3 days. All he did was cry. She called her mom, mother in law, and the doctor. All 3 laughed at how stubborn he was and told her he'd eat when he got hungry. He did. (He's still stubborn though) Anyway, good luck!

Answer 4

No no no..you can't allow it, trust me or she will never leave you alone. It's a bonding thing and she is young enough for you to take care of it now.

Just put her to bed and read her a story, get her a night light, tuck her in and kiss her goodnight. If she wants to sleep with you, tell her she has HER bed to sleep in and that the angels watch her there. Put up some angels or something. You can even put on soothing music in her room like classical and let it play while she sleeps. She may be afraid of being alone but every time she comes into your bed, you will have to get up and take her back. Look at it this way, you will lose a lot of weight in the process!

Answer 5

Oh, boy...you need to get her to sleep in her own bed, take it from me, you really want to start now before it is not too late...My 2 girls have slept with me in bed for the past 5 & respectivelly 3 years and it is not fun!!
When my oldest was 1 I started to put her in her bed, I got a night light....and I was reading her a story and after that, just leaving her alone with the night light on and music playing very soft (nature sounds, classical). Every time she cried, I waited at least 10 minutes and then went in and soothed her, but left immediatelly after....and it took about 2 weeks but she was sleeping in her bed.....it was cool too, I had room to strech in my own bed, was not worried that I'll squash anybody anymore:) and I was sleeping much better......but when she had a cold I took her back in my bed so I can take care of her better (that was my excuse....) and she hasn't left my bed since!! If you start, don't go back to the old ways ever!!
My method worked perfectlly and fast too, but I should've stuck with it and not give in at all!!!

Answer 6

We did a modified Ferber when my son wouldn't sleep in his crib after a vacation and it worked. I never had him co-sleep mostly because I never got any sleep when he was in bed with me. I do let him sleep with me when he is sick and sometimes on vacation, though.

If you feel the need to get her out of your bed, try Ferber or start with naps in her own bed.

As for nursing, I nursed my son till he was 14 months old. By that time he only nursed in the morning when he woke up. One day, he got out of bed and ran to see the dog and that was that. I had started giving him a bottle with whole milk after his first birthday, so he just transitioned to that then a sippy. If you want to stop nursing, do it gradually--it'll be easier on you and your daughter.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

People don't think that babies need discipline, but they do. Put her in her own bed and teach her a routine. Babies need stability. Have you heard about 'Baby bottle caries'(Teeth come out rotten and she'll probably have a few that have not yet erupted)? The same can happen when she breastfeed non exclusively.

Answer 8

prevalent rule of concept will be that when someone hits double digits... they ought to not could share a room with someone of the different sex. funds have consistently caused this besides the undeniable fact that. As therefore. Meet this youngster! for sure you want to entice close this 12 12 months previous boy. How unlucky for him that if he sees his mom it must be even as he's sharing her time and area with 2 different a lot smaller youthful ones as well. i wager he might want to/could sleep on the sofa yet that distances him even extra down her precedence record. unlucky for all worried. per chance your children sleep on an airbed contained in the lounge and the 12 12 months previous receives the different bedroom? I doubt your children would ideas in any respect and they merely would imagine it a great number of interesting. Your husband is in all probability a being concerned and attentive father who loves his children dearly. And who would look out for his or her safe practices. besides the undeniable fact that, because the mummy of those children it really is necessary that you meet his stepson and get to entice close him nicely adequate to operate from concepts particularly of worry.

Answer 9

first of all it is not the child that needs weaning at this age, it is the mommy!! You may feel that the bonding will be gone if you stop breast feeding but you will be able to create new bonds w/ your daughter and show her a whole new world of independance. Please let your baby begin growing up. You will feel better also and can gain some new independance also.gl

Answer 10

breast feed her only when it is nescessary and not as a treat or for every time she crys put her in her bed and put a night light in there then get her favorite stuffed animals and put them around in different parts or her room if she wants the lights on then leave it on but don't spoil her, and put some nice soothing music or a lullaby in the room to help soothe her the tuck her in when she is asleep kiss her and leave if she gets up in the middle of the night and goes back to your room pick her up and put her back in Her room no matter how much she crys and repeat the process and don't give into the crying
good luck & god bless

Answer 11

Get pregnant again. As soon as you become pregnant your milk will begin to taste sour as the new life developing in you draws the nutrients from you and the older child will naturally wean herself.