im going out with this guy, and he fingered me.
later he said, have u ever faked an orgasim? and i didnt know what to say, so i went all quiet. i dont know if i faked or not.
what should i do, should i sleep with him? should i leave him?
please give me an idea.
2006-06-28 03:10:51 · 39 answers · asked by kiss2envy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow - heavy dilemma.
Being that "faking" anything requires conscious thought -
and...you don't know if you've ever faked an orgasm...
I would say it's a safe bet you've never faked one.
I wouldn't use this as a reason to sleep with him -
however, neither would I use this as an excuse to leave him.
It's important to note that in a Cosmo survey done some years ago...the women that reported faking orgasms and never telling their partner...
were also the ones that scored highest on sexual satisfaction ratings...
coincidentally, their partners also scored highest in the same category - sexual satisfaction.
so it goes without saying:
Fake it when you have to...never tell...and the two of you will enjoy sex more...
2006-06-28 03:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Warrior 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Well if you had an orgasm you would know!! And no you should not sleep with him because he asked you a question. I do not think that you are ready for sexual relationships. You do not seem to have a sense of self yet. You sound really young!! Did you ever think (young or not) that maybe you are not ready? All I can say is take a step back and find out what you are doing and why you are doing it. Is it what you truly want to do are you truly enjoying it. And if you do not know the answer to those questions then you should not be having sex or any sort.
2006-06-28 03:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question doesn't make sense to me.
You had some version of penetration/sex with a guy and he asks if you have ever faked an orgasm, ok, so he wants to know if you have ever had sex before basically. You don't know if you faked???? So I will assume you have not had sex (thank god) and that you don't really understand what an orgasm is.
Now, why would his asking you a harmless question make you want to have sex with him or leave him?? This is where you lost me.
Leave him. Obviously you feel pressure to have sex when you are with him and you are not ready.
2006-06-28 03:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have mercy....you should "sleep" with a fellow only after you know him very well, and then only with protection. If you have an orgasm, you will surely know it. It starts low in your abdomen and builds to a tremendous release of ecstasy, that you feel from your naval to your knees.. You can fake the guy, but NEVER yourself.
It seems you are really to young to be doing any of this with a guy, anyway.
2006-06-28 03:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently your too young to be doing that stuff or you wouldn't have to ask. What is happening to this world....I cant believe so many young girls are having sex these days. Don't have sex...you could get pregnant and ruin your whole life. You have plenty of time. Save yourself for when you get married and find the right one. Your husband will know and respect you more if you wait. Please wait. When you sleep with him, you are sleeping with all the other girls he has been with too. You could get a disease or something. Then you would have to tell your parents.
2006-06-28 03:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by SweetP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it sounds like you have never had an orgasm. You would know if you had one, and definitely will remember. But it is really normal not to have one for a woman, until she finds the right man to take the time to help you figure out what you need to have one. Should you have sex with him? NO. If you do , use a condom. Alot of women require oral stimulation to have an orgasm.
2006-06-28 03:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl we all fake an orgasm from time to time. Never tell when you do, if he asked you if you did maybe he isn't confident in what he did, so he figured you faked. Just say no it was great and never call him again, if he thinks you faked it now imagine if you guys have sex he'll insist that you did don't bother
2006-06-28 03:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by Gizmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when dating i guess we all have our own motives, i don't think you've got to let him do such a thing with you cos you are loosing your dignity. About you faking an organism, i can't be sure how you felt but in all, you don't have to answer that question. saying yes will sound a player kind of thing and saying no will sound naive. Don't just give in.
2006-06-28 03:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave. It sounds like he doesn't really trust you, especially with that question and he is already putting you in a tough spot with asking you such personal questions. I would leave. I wouldn't sleep with him because think of what all he might ask you then. It seems like it would be a really uncomfortable relationship.
2006-06-28 03:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by daredevil_girl013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sleep with him as of yet he kinda seems like a jerk to ask such a thing. But I would not just dump him because he was stupid enough to ask. Tell him that it is not appropriate to ask a woman such a thing especially if you guys have not been together long
2006-06-28 03:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by saltysweet143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋