How does a single mother relocate?

Question

I am going to be attending school part-time and I work full-time. There's too much crime where I live and I want to raise my kids in a better environment.

Answer 1

Research your beloved destination. Asking the police department what areas are safe is a good start and if you know then you are half way there.

Research local schools and their distances from your new home and from your current school unless you plan on changing schools yourself.

Find out about bussing -transportation for kids to school or for you to your school and to pick them up from babysitter or daycare. Unless they are old enough to walk home etc.

Arrange sitters - who will pick up your kids from school and watch them while you work? survey the new neighbourhood and look for ads on babysitters etc.

Finally, you need to enlist some friends and family members who will be kind enough to help with your move. I am pretty sure based on your info that hiring movers is out of the question. Pack and label everything and say hello to your new life in your safer neighbourhood. Don't forget to arrange for a neighbour or friend to watch the kids while you overlook your move.

Find out from community centres, social welfare offices, other organizations established to help those in need, young single parents etc. for help. Don't be afraid to ask for help from your community - it takes a community to raise a strong family and the end result is what is best for your kids, not your ego.

Answer 2

You can move whenever you want. You might not be able to take your children, however. Are you wanting to move within the state, or out of state?

Is there a custody agreement with the father of your children? If so, it probably states in that agreement whether or not you can move out of the state or more than an hour or two away. You'll have to follow the agreement to get permission.

The usual practice is to give notice in writing to the father at least 30-60 days before you move. In that time, if he says no, you will have to go to court to get permission. Until the judge gives the OK, you must stay in your area.

Once you move, you will most likely be responsible for paying for ALL the increased transportation costs for your children to continue their current visitation schedule with their father. Can you afford to pay all those transportation costs?

Your other option is to give the father custody, and then you can move to whereever you'd like. You would be responsible, again, for paying for ALL the increased transportation costs to see the children during your scheduled visitation times. You will see your children a lot less, probably on the same schedule that their father now sees them.

Answer 3

You first decide; then you work towards the direction of your decision. Try looking for Mr. wonderful or Mr. Right in the process. If and when you find him, that ought to be the first antedote to finding the " better " environment ". Somebody's gotta play the real life role of Daddy'o to your babies. [e-mail]