i had a crush on a guy in my class till the day he told me that he loved my friend and asked me for help! i told it to my friend(whom he loved) about this and she said that she has no interest in him! i told him!
after a few days the guy proposed to me saying that i was his first preference over my friend but he thought that he will get a no from me.
now should i believe him or not? i really love him but i am afraid should i trust him or not? please help!
2006-06-28 02:41:22 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you are in your early teens... am i right? okay let me give you the answer in details:
1. If you were his first preference, he would not have proposed you friend thorough you... he would have proposed you through her instead.
2. How do you know if he is not playing on you..to take a kind of revenge on your friend? just to show-off to her that he can have you if not her?...its possible... think about it.
3. If his 'preferences' are so flimsy.. so unsteady... he might tell you after seven days that his new preference is the girl on the first bench...
i think you should just remain friends with him... and give yourslef atleast 2-3 months of time... if you see he is serious about you, go for him..but if his 'preference' changes again. He is not worth your love and attention..
wait for the guy whose only preference will be you, only you.
2006-06-28 02:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by [ rapunzel ] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds really shaky to me. He uses the word "love" way too easily (but... so do you). Sound a a little desperate. (both of you).
If you have self respect you don't "fall in love" with someone you can't trust. On the other hand he may need to grow up... just like you.
If he's afraid to get a "no" from the "girl that he truly loved".... he truly has a weak personality. Do you really want someone like that?
I can only hope that both of you are under eighteen. Otherwise you've got real problems, with or without each other.
2006-06-28 02:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Common Sense 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! First of all he told you he was interested in your friend. Sadly, I think he probably is now saying he's interested in you because your friend said no and he's probably picked up the hints that you like him and just wants a rebound from rejection. Secondly, what guy proposes when you two haven't even dated?! If you really like this guy tell him you're interested in a realtionship but don't get engaged when you guys haven't even dated yet. I would move slowly with this guy cuz he sounds fishy.
2006-06-28 02:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by reeses0604 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine once told me this, and how true he was,
"Man is the most unfaithful being of all".
Take this from me, a man. Never trust a man you don't know deeply. Guys can be so deceptive that they'd look as innocent kittens in front of you, and would brag about u n himself, and would make fun of you as 'a stupid girl' who fell for his trap.
That's right. First consult your friend and ask her if he had somehow contacted her directly and she said 'no'. Secondly, if you really want to check that guy's loyalty, get along with him normally and then ask him to talk to his parents (heehehee). My gf checked my guts and loyalty to her through this trick, and I said 'Nooo" straight-away". You got the point?!?!?! ;-)
2006-06-28 02:50:21 · answer #4 · answered by Silent_Hunter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stop using the word 'love' No one is in love with anyone in this situation.
Second, yes he is lying....he wanted your friend first, but she turned him down.
Third, he probably already knew you had a crush on him....so he's just using you as stand-by.
Fourth, go for it...you got the guy didn't you? So what if you weren't his first choice. You will never be any man's first choice.
2006-06-28 02:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he couldn't get what wanted the most, he had to drop down a level. This guy is a waste of time and brain cells. I wouldn't go with a guy, who wanted my friend first. To me that would make me feel like an jackass.
2006-06-28 02:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would avoid him. Obviously he's fickle and can't make up his mind. If he was interested in you first, he would have told you. I think he's an opportunist and wants to get in where he fit's in. He may also be trying to use you to make your friend jealous. There are people who are only interested in a man/woman when someone else is interested.
2006-06-28 02:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man r opportunist.so beware.never indulge yourself either mentaly or physicaly with this type of boys coz he never loved u otherwise it would be not posible for him to propose to other girl.think about the pain u r getting to long with him.same pain should have been his side also if he would have love u.if he realy have that he could have not use u to approach another girl.so forget him and remember it is better to have pain for a while than to have it for life
2006-06-28 02:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe what you want ...I think you are too thick to recognize game and you need to find out the hard way. This is ridiculous...AND you have the nerve to claim you love him. I need to find another way to have fun during the day because there are far tooo many clueless youngsters here for me.
2006-06-28 02:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAY NO!!
Don't believe him. He wanted your help at first to start dating your friend and when he found out he had no interest in him, then that is when he wanted to be with you. Move on and find someone that truly wants to be with you.
2006-06-28 02:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋