I just got the dreaded "friendship is all I can do right now" e-mail after two years of him vowing to love me forever & I feel really crappy. I hadn't heard from him in six weeks so I pretty much knew it was over, but having it come from him makes me feel just horrible. I don't know how to go on - I don't believe in love anymore & I am so tired of being hurt. So what do I do now? How do I put him behind me & move on?
2006-06-28 02:15:57 · 21 answers · asked by pumpkin 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cry. Really cry, and let yourself really grieve the loss of a love.
Take your time. ....
Then spend time healing yourself by taking care of yourself.
Do stuff that is fun for you. Learn stuff you've vowed you want to do. Challenge yourself (sky diving, hang-gliding, or heck maybe a steady go to the gym kind of thing for yourself.). Eat what you want and listen to your body. Oddly enough, you'll find yourself wanting the "good" stuff (like veggies etc) along with the sweet stuff. And find a way to connect spiritually so you can feel the love that binds the universe. It can be standard religion, New Age (Ohhhh nooooo. Sorry. I just shudder at that.), or heck country line dancing. Whatever works.
And as for him, love him and forgive him, but don't let him pollute your space. .... You don't need untruths.
Your Jewish Aunt.
2006-06-28 02:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by jewishaunt 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like this guy meant a lot to you, so it will be hard to just "forget him" and "move on", which is what most advice tells you!
Give yourself time to grieve over the loss of a relationship that meant a lot to you. It is okay not to feel like you can believe in love again...you were badly hurt.
That said, it was very disrespectful of him to send this in an e-mail and not speak to you for six weeks. When you are ready to love again, you need someone who will respect you, even if there are problems that arise in the relationship. You should have trust in each other and make sure that he wants to have respect for you.
You will get through this. It is hard, but you sound like a person who has a strong spirit. You deserve a lot more than what this guy gave you. Good luck....
2006-06-28 02:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Leslie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dry it up Pumpkin life is full of ups and downs he wasn't the one for you anyway. Take a break from guys and have fun for a while there is still plenty of time for all the gusshy stuff. If you see him some where just wave at him and carry on. It will make things easier. But dont go back to him he will just keep dragging you down. Dont let that happen. LOL
2006-06-28 02:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by Inovator 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing anyone can tell you that would make you get over it. It all has to come from you.
Just get angry, vent very much (not dangerously) then forget all bout this person. It’s hard, but you’ve got to be strong. Just go out with friends and enjoy been single.
2006-06-28 02:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Deb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all i'm sorry 4 what your going through, i been through it a couple times and i know it's 1 of da worst feelings, hard as it may b u have 2 move on, try 2 stay busy, don't cope with everything by yourself, talk 2 a close friend, do whatever u can 2 stay busy. goodluck
2006-06-28 02:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's been avoiding you for six weeks, he's not really your friend, anyway. Friends care about your feelings. Good riddance to bad garbage! Give yourself some time to mourn, cry your eyes out, get angry...and then move on.
2006-06-28 02:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by mybrilcareer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know its easyer said than done to put him behind ya i had a similar experence three years ago and i still think about him but i dont feel for him no more jus go get some other guy to help ya get over him and lkie they say time heels everything
2006-06-28 02:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by amber 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm my desirable acquaintances sure, yet even notwithstanding i recognize the girls I carry out with, I wouldn't completely have self assurance them. It sounds terrible yet i comprehend for a incontrovertible reality that they each from time to time gossip about one yet another. both way is say I actually have some acquaintances who're both straightforward climate acquaintances and some who're like sisters to me.
2016-11-29 21:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to let it all out, it's hard but you never really move on until you've accepted it. it happens he just wasn't for you but you'll get back on your feet, you need to be with people who'll support you and will be there for you. You can't sit at home you need to get out there and have fun, relax, talk about it with your mates and let it out. the more you talk about the better you feel. don't keep it in. it takes time.
2006-06-28 02:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lynnsherry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gal it happens to all some gal get hurt by guys and guys get hurt by gals but u should never say that u dont belive in love . it will come to u but who said that it is easy to find. best of luck and stop crying for some one that doesnt deserve ur tears.
2006-06-28 02:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by ghost13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋