I WAS GOING OUT WITH A GUY WHO I THOUGHT LOVED ME...BUT SOMEWHERE IN THE MIDDLE OF OUR RELATIONSHIP... I NOTICED HOW DISTANT HE BECAME THE MORE HE AVOIDED ME THE MORE I WANTED TO BE AROUND HIM...WELL TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT, HE ENDED UP DOGGING ME BADLY AND IT ONLY HAPPENED CAUSE I ALLOWED IT TO...WELL I EVENTUALLY COULDN'T TAKE IT NO MORE, SO I CHANGED MY NUMBER AND HAVEN'T SPOKE TO HIM IN 2 MONTHS...SINCE THAN HE'S BEEN ASKING ABOUT ME....SO MY QUESTION IS WHY IS HE ASKING ABOUT ME AFTER ALL THE HURT HE PUT ME THROUGH?
2006-06-28 01:05:55 · 22 answers · asked by tanya m 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that one is easy he wants to know how your doing so either he can dog u out some more or he wants to get back with you because he knows that u will take his garbage. big mistake if u go back to him because if he hurts u once shame on him twice shame on u
2006-06-28 01:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, let me say that I'm sorry that you had to endure such pain. I know how you feel. I've been through the same. I talked to my ex though and got back together because he said he felt so bad and still loved me. No longer than a month went by before he did the exact same thing to me again. It seems almost as if he wanted to see my rage that didnt come out the first time..and oh, did it come out. It's not worth it. I know you probably still have feelings for him and probably have unresolved answers that you want to know from him but let the past go and move forward. He sounds like he may have a stalker mentality as well...STAY AWAY! But if you just cannot resist, be careful and watch your back. Dont ever put all your trust in him again...and just be safe. Too many women are being abused out there. Dont be a victim. Take care!
2006-06-28 08:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can only guess, only he can really answer that question, but i would say that he really didn't realize what he had until he lost it. But if he treated you badly, don't go back to him. Once a dog always a dog. Past experience predicts future behavior. Move on with your life and let him keep wondering about what might have been. Maybe the wondering will help him change in the future, but I doubt it. He will just find a way to get a girl to put up with his dogging. It will probably only get worse and even scarier. I feel sorry for his future girlfriends. Good Luck!
2006-06-28 08:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't seem to really notice you until you put distance between you. I would like to think that he sorry for what he did to you, but I don't think so. For some reason we want what we can't have and I think that is what is going on here. He was very disrespectful of you and your feelings. DON'T let him do that to you again. People can and will treat you bad if you let them. I know you care about this guy or you wouldn't be asking this question. Sometimes we have to listen to logic and not our hearts. Good Luck :)
2006-06-28 08:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by BlueAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people only want what they can't get and vise versa. You were way too available before and he obviously has a personality where he feels the need to put you down (this makes him look better) -- now you've backed off. You already know what this relationship is going to be if you go back to him. Think with your head before you leap.
2006-06-28 08:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't know why... but it has happened to me... i loved this guy for like 3 years & him me... but then after giving me this amazing neckleas for my birthday i found out he was cheating on me.. i had this girlfriend that i didnt know about .. then he started treating me VERY badly & so did his gf... so i decided to forget him.. however like 2 months from forgeting him he was like i REALLY want to be back with you...
hes just a player .. if he DID have feelings he would have kept you from the start... but because he didnt keep you and hurt you, you should try and forget him .. if you cant forget him then you can tell him you can still be FRIENDS but nothing more.... because once you lose a persons trust its hard to regain it.. no matter HOW close you once were.....
i just hope this helped you =)
tc n have a nice day sweety
2006-06-28 08:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if we knew what was in a mans head we all would have Ph D behind our name. Men are like that. They only realize that after the well is dry that they liked the way the water tasted feel me??? My advice to you would be to run run run far far far away from this guy because even if he has changed for the better you will always have that small shadow doubt in your head that he will do this again. Good Luck!!!!
2006-06-28 08:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by ree ree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must move on or you're going to be headed for trouble. It's a wonderful man out here waiting to meet a woman like you. Keep moving forward because he had his chance and now it's time for you have a man in your life who will treat like a queen. If a man dog you once he will dog you again...That's just how it is. Take from me because I'm a man. I'm a man who has learn how to respect all women because I want men to respect my sisters. Move on and enjoy life.
2006-06-28 08:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Basilchef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIrl don't even wonder. Leave him alone. Let him ask about you, he has that right. Just don't mess yourself up by talking to him, because you sound like you might not be over him. Remember the bad times not the good ones and keep it moving.
2006-06-28 08:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by symbolforpeace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he cant find anyone else to put up with his crap,he thinks you might if you give him another chance it will be dreamy at first but his true colors will come out again,just go on with your life and forget about him,Good luck,God bless:O)
2006-06-28 08:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋