my girlfriend of 8 years just offically dumped me. our relationship was long distance. she told me that i have nothing for her anymore and i cant make her happy. told me to find someone to make me happy. also told me that i decieved her and strung her along and hurt her many times and that she has all this angered towards me and all she remembers is the how much i hurt her and she wont let it go. but the strange thing is, im like the nicest person in the world to her, i never was abusive to her or anything, always helped her out when she needed money etc...always encouraged her, hadnt seen her in awhile...but i always told her i loved her and cared for her. she's been hollering and screaming at me, real moody and nasty, but sometimes we talk and laugh on the phone etc...but lately she has refuses to call me, as long as i been with her i always helped her. we was in love. but she says all she remembers is how much i hurt her???...and she was the one that cheated before.. what happened?
2006-06-28 00:39:40 · 13 answers · asked by craig h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
2006-06-28 00:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Susie Y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend, there are those who cannot make a relationship work over the miles. She probably cheated before for this reason. She probably just got angry because you weren't there. You weren't there to watch a new movie you both would have liked, you weren't there to attend a party as a couple, you weren't there at the end of a bad day...the point simply is your absence. Some people don't have the equipment to withstand all the everyday niceties/bad luck alone. She tried to hang in there with you for a LONG time but being alone & your absence finally broke her. Keep in mind she wants you to find someone who will make you happy so that sentiment tells you she cares that you are happy. Try to forget & forgive all the mean things she said - it was most likely her anger talking. God Bless you & bring you peace
2006-06-28 00:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take easy, admit it's difficult for a man to be dumped by a woman he loved but life still goes on...Don't stick on that move on there are so many good things out there to make U happy...
2006-06-28 01:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by benird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I'm about to be the bearer of of bad news. She has found someone else. I did the same thing to my ex-boyfriend when I wanted to move on. Someone has swept her heart away. There's nothing you can do about this but move on. Do as she asked you to do. Don't call her or talk to her again. I guarantee you that she will get in touch with you as soon as things go sour with the other guy. It's up to you to forgive her and take her back or just move along and find someone who will appreciate your "niceness".
2006-06-28 00:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by itzconsensualithink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is making up excuses to take the blame off herself ...long distance realtions ships are really hard ...it takes both people dedicated for it .....she obviously was not the right person for you ...sorry to hear it was eight years ...but take it as a learning experience and move on
2006-06-28 00:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by HAPA CHIC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wanted you to ask her to marry you and in eight years you never did OR she just found a guy closer and is putting the blame on you to avoid the fact that she's hurting you by dumping you!
2006-06-28 00:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a long distance realtionship myself and all I can say is the only cure is to sever all ties in time you will find someone else.
2006-06-28 00:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by ambidextrous25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur relationship went on for to long it should of ended a long time ago but because you two keptit going it got worst and thats why now all the harsh feelings best to just move on an dlet it go you will be free now to find your real soal mate one tru elove i know it will hurt for ahile but he pain will ease
2006-06-28 00:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distances put huge strains on relationships that are already tough to keep.
Keep your chin up, you will find someone else =)
2006-06-28 00:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry 2 points
2006-06-28 00:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mommaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋