a word of inspiration please...?

Question

i dont know what to do, my job sucks - i seem to be doing nothing right in my boss's eyes, my boyfriend of 3 years almost smacked me last night - he NEVER did that b4, my sister helped alot by telling my mum, she called me and wants me to leave him, im 21 years old, living 600 km's from home, i have no car to just get away and chill. and my sinus is at the worst stage it can be at. i need a word of inspiration, there's nothing at this point accept a mother who cares dearly for me that i can look at and say, at least there's something good in my life. pls help me... thanks

Answer 1

You sound like a younger Me of the opposite sex.

I have suffered with chronic sinus infections most of my life, I was the victim of an abusive wife (happens more often than people think) And I recently moved over 800 miles from my family and friends.

Your 20's are some of the most confusing and difficult years in a young adult's life. Take it from someone in the end of his. This is where you leave behind many of the childish things you enjoyed in your teen years and move foreword into adulthood. It is only natural to feel intimidated by these life changes when they happen. It can feel like the world is spinning around you.

This will effect jobs, relationships, and friendships if you let it. The trick is to try and retain yourself as much as possible and don't try to go through it too quickly. It's OK to still like cartoons, and pancakes shaped like letters or mickey mouse. That is part of what makes you, you. Don't let yourself loose your youthfulness during this time as that is the one thing that will keep you young at heart.

If there was a life lesson I could pass on this is it. I hope my extra 8 years will help you cope with this crazy time in your life.

As for your man nearly slapping you. You need to forgive him one time, and one time only. If it happens again it is the beginning of a pattern, one which ALWAYS increases in intensity and danger. Hopefully it was a momentary lapse in brain function and it will never happen again. If it does, don't play the helpless victim, Kick his *** by any means possible and call the cops. Make sure to get pictures of any marks. (this is only worse case scenario).

If he was able to stop himself it means he at least was taught well and is in control.

Good luck.

Answer 2

First of all let me tell u that u are not alone. Look at me i am too of 21 and passed my initial 18 years almost 500km away from my family and sometimes having no contact for years. And my friends :) ........... may be ur boyfriend is so good who has passed 3 years with u lucky u are..
Let me tell u one thing and it is trust me u r so good and deserve Love because u are away from family still u care about them u love them most people don't do like this but u are doing so it means u are good and about job don't worry there is no any path in the world full of difficulties every time there will be a good time trust me. See after every neight there is a Day ..Be happy and try to forget what had happened and accept what is going on it will bring good results in future.

Answer 3

You are stressed. Is there a place with some sort of pleasant simple view that you can go to. If not just find a comfy spot and just breathe deeply and slowly. I know it sounds crazy but it really does work. Don't look at it as one huge insurmaountable lump of problems. Break them down and work on a piece at a time. You sound like you are just in a rut and life's giving you a good old smack. You are better than that. Slap it back! Do something nice for yourself. Whether its a manicure or a bubble bath. Do something for you! Take care of yourself and the rest--you'll figure it out. Hang in there! We've all been there at one time or another!

Answer 4

It sounds to me like the first thing you need to do is to get your sinus under control. I know when I'm sick like that it is irritable, discomforting and any issues on anything is magnified tenfold. In other words, I'm not rationalizing very well.

If he's been your boyfriend of three years and you are not living together, take a rest from him. Or better yet, leave him since he "almost hit you."

You need to have a sit down with your boss to discuss his expectations and to ensure you have the resources to meet his expectations. Use an intermediary if you don't feel comfortable talking directly to your boss. In the meantime, if you really don't like where you are, start looking elsewhere. The best time to look for a job is when you have one. When your work isn't fun anymore, it's time to move on.

javier g

Answer 5

A mother's love is no small thing; that alone should carry the day. Remember that life seems rough sometimes, but it certainly beats the alternative. Be inspired by a sunset, a crescent moon, a child's laugh, ice cream and the prospect of a brighter future. If something is not working the way you would like it to, look into something else. Take a chance, and make a choice. Best wishes!

Answer 6

When you leave your residence for work you should switch off, atleast try to, all your personal matters and when in office lfully concentrate on your Office work. That will not give your boss any chance to get annoyed. If you are not doing your job properly it is but natural for the boss to get annoyed.
And finally take two days holiday and go and spend sometime with your mom.

Answer 7

Well, the first thing I would do is stay with your mom if you can. If you know she's supportive, then she'll understand. Talk things through with your boyfriend. Sometimes that helps. I'm 23 and don't have a car, but I walk everywhere. To zone out, listen to music that reflects your mood. It works for me everytime. You'll get through things ok. Just have hope and patience. Hope this helps ^_^

~El-Matto

Answer 8

You can control all of these things that bother you.

YOU can leave your abusive cowardly boyfriend - real tough guy.

YOU can look for another job and work for someone that appreciates you.

YOU can get meds to control your sinus.

YOU can rent a car and get outta town.

Life seems tough sometimes, but I can think of many people in a hospice who would trade places with you anytime.

Answer 9

Teach us to delight in simple things,
And mirth that has no bitter springs: Forgiveness free of evil done,
And love to all men 'neath the sun.

By: Rudyard Kipling

Answer 10

What do you REALLY want? Go do it! Follow your heart. It sounds like you need your mom. Moms just always know what you need. Get away from your lowlife boyfriend. Come up with a plan and carry it out. You can do it. Give yourself permission and go do it now. Good luck