I'm seeing my boyfriend for 3 years now. Last year I worked 126km away from home(him) and we only saw each other every month end, when I went home. I then met a guy who liked me very much. I went on a date with him on his motorbike(it was great) and we saw each other a lot after 1st date. I told my boyfriend only about 1st date. I told this guy I broke up with my boyfriend. This guy asked me out, I said yes. We even had sex 4 times. A month ago my boyfriend found a sms on my cell phone from this guy, he was furious. I then realised that I love my boyfriend on whom I cheated. I swore to my boyfriend that I don't have any contact with this guy.But today I think about this guy, wondering if he is okay. I told him that I have been lying to him all along and that I never broke up with my boyfriend. He told me to never ever phone, sms or email him.He is only 28, but he is divorced and has a son from his ex-wife. His friends told me that he has another child from someone else, but he denies.
2006-06-27 23:55:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Looks like you lied to both boyfriends. Study what trust and loyalty means.
2006-06-28 00:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no true answer to fixing this situation you have. The saying is everything that glitters isn't gold. You took the risk of losing your current boyfriend by being with someone else and sleeping with him that was big mistake. Telling your current boyfriend was a good jesture, but telling any man you have went out with any other man is a mistake. Your still thinking about the other still 2day. Anyone can see your in love with him. Listen love can come and go seeing your boyfriend at the end of every month wasn't making you happy, cry and let him go. Now the 28yr old has alot of old luggage an ex-wife with a child and another with someone else? This guy has been busy and these woman and children will always be a part of his life and if your with him they become apart of the relationship to. Find a man with no background that can't stick to him like glue, find some one who can share everything new with you. I'm sure in time you will meet someone. It takes time but taking the right path will lead you in the right direction of a true love for you.
This is the advice of someone in a luggage relationship it never goes away. Even now I have started to take my own advice.
which is Letting go and starting new!!!
2006-06-28 07:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by friendship 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ain't gonna happen.
Forgiveness from whom ? Original boyfriend ? Other guy ? Lord, if they are smart, they will both kick you to the curb. You don't love anyone, honey. You lust a bit here and there - but if you can't remain true to someone you "love" after three years, --- if a date on a motorbike leads to sex in the city while you lie about a long-standing relationship, then you haven't grown up enough to be able to actually love anyone.
You have proven to both of these guys that you know how to lie and cheat, and that, really, it's all about you. Your concern for the effects betrayal will have on them is underwhelming and doesn't exactly engender any faith that you will not do it again. Given the fact that you allegedly "came clean" with your boyfriend and now are pining after the other guy sings this out loud and clear.
Grow up - you need to let them both go and see who you are without a guy around. Until you can develop some integrity as a human being, you are doing no one any favors by your company - including yourself.
2006-06-28 07:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite the player you have been, you lied to your bf who you saw every month end, about dating this other guy who incidently you were seeing at the same time!!! you lied to the other guy about having a bf, you get caught by the bf and he, instead of dumping you (which incidently is what most men would have done),got back with you an now you are not satified with the bf after all this drama, you want to go after the other guy again? You need to seriously take a look at what you are doing because at this juncture something tells me if the bf finds out you are going after the other guy again behind his back, he is either going to get very angry, dump you or worse, if you say he has a bad temper.
That, and you need to grow up and figure out what the word 'Fidelity' means.
2006-06-28 07:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u are the cause of ur problem.. u are nothing but a cheat.. and u are so good and smart in playing on one's emotion which is the most painful thing in this world.... i most tell u that u don't love any of the two.. bcos little or nothing do u know about love.. if u have true love for ur first boy friend... there shouldn't be any reason for u going out with another person no matter how fascinating he seems to appear.... all u need to do is to plead for forgiveness from both guys.. and go ur way.. never to date any of them again.. bcos the spirit of trust is dead already... and there is no way u can bring that back again... i think u are yet to meet ur true love.. who u will love with all ur heart.. as he will love u too. then both of u can stay in peace forever.... good luck!
2006-06-28 07:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by kinsbuk4love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're asking for alot there to be honest. Until you really change and stop lieing to both of them then you really dont deserve forgiveness!!
2006-06-28 06:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Michael S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want friendship and forgiveness quit doing things that can result in gonorrhea and distrust.
You wanted it all and now you have nothing.
Take your medicine and learn from this.
2006-06-28 07:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit, f*cking with people, girl. commit yourself or decide to be single. make a damn choice.
but i'll be your friend, just wanted to give you some advice.
2006-06-28 06:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by spyderman1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have a tall story I didnt read it
2006-06-28 06:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋