Please Help Me !?

Question

Whenever my younger Sister performs a bad thing , My Mother scolds me saying "This is your fault , At one time you did the same thing , She has (my younger Sister) learnt that from you. I am fed up by this thing. Please help me on What Should I do ?
I really need some helpful suggestions.

Answer 1

Then it definetly isnt your fault, the eldest child will mostly always get the blame because the younger ones 'dont know better'. Talk to your mum except dont make it sound accusing. Sometimes, parents have no idea how much damage they're doing, or how you're feeling about anything if you dont approach them about it.

If it doesnt work, i suggest you see a counsellor. Or you will inevitably be given the blame for everything your sister does (until she becomes a little bit older).

Depending on the age of your sister, maybe you could talk to her about it? (suggesting that she is not primary school young and can understand where you're coming from) Tell her how you feel and how her actions are affecting you.

Or... if your dad is more approachable, talk to him about it, and get him to talk to your mother. whatever works.

Goodluck, all the best.

Answer 2

I suggest you ask your mother to take some parenting classes so she can learn to stop making you responsible for someone else's mistakes. There is a vast difference between actively encouraging someone to do something specific and the possibility that they are copying what they might have seen you do at another time.

Also, you might want to try to remember that as much as we want our parents to be infallible and to know the answers, they are not perfect and will make mistakes. Blaming you for another person's actions is understandable but not appropriate. Even if you always do the right things, the chances that your younger siblings will copy you are slim.

By the way, this approach tells your mother you are questioning her ability to be a good parent. Whenever we are challenged, our first reaction is to strike back. You might try asking her for counseling for yourself so you can "do better". Good counselors will try to involve the family in behavioral classes. Letting your mother know how unhappy you are should work better than telling her how bad you think she is.

Good Luck
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Answer 3

That's how things work, you're the older kid, so your mother is counting on you to set a good example for the younger kid. Try and reason with your sister to get her to stop making your mother upset.

Answer 4

That happens to all the elder siblings. Why dont u teach ur sister some good things/habits and tell ur mom that she has learnt it from u?