I'm 16 (turning 17 in august) and i'm often told that I am mature for my age. People tell me im a great conversationalist,honest, smart, very open-minded and funny. I can get along with anyone, even if I don't really like them. I'm kind of always there for everyone. My problem is im starting to date this older guy who's 23. We have a lot in common. We both appericate art, nature,music, and film. Our political views on society and this world are pretty much the same. We're both into conspiracies, alternative history, law, and psychology. We can talk or discuss anything for hours. He thinks im amazing and perfect for him, and says he's never met anyone like me. The age difference that bothers us both. I know he's not the type who just wants to **** me, I know a lot of guys my age who are like that. I can read people pretty well and I have great intuition, but im not navie. Should I just stop seeing him because of the age difference? Does it really matter that much?
2006-06-27 22:54:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maturity level & common interests are more important than age differences, & I wouldn't recommend leaving someone simply due to age alone. However, considering your own age difference, & particularly how young you are, I believe it would be wise to date a long time before rushing into anything. Also, if you do get engaged, making it a long engagement (a year at least) may make it more acceptable to your family, & give you plenty of time to get things arranged. If you want to impress this guy, remain focused on your goals in life, & stay dedicated to completing your education & getting a good career. If you constantly tell him how you want to get married & have kids, especially if you don't seem to express a desire to do what is necessary to provide for the home & family financially, he'll see you as a daydreaming, unrealistic child who needs to grow up more before being committed to anyone. Take it from someone who knows. I dated a younger girl who was like this, & actually said she would depend on federal assistance programs to provide for children. Big turnoff!
Also, do your parents know you're dating a 23-year-old man? If not, the mature thing for both of you to do is inform them. You risk not getting their consent, but you will demonstrate to them & to your boyfriend you are mature enough to face up to your decisions & accept the consequences. Ask them if he can come over to dinner & meet them. If he cares about you, he should have no problem with this. If you have told your parents, you should be proud. You have demonstrated a great deal of maturity in this respect, & I hope they can accept your relationship. Best of luck.
2006-06-27 23:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
6 years between a 24 ane 30 year isn't that big of a difference, but 6 years between 17 and 23 is huge. There is a lot that he has experienced that you haven't, things that you should experience without some 23 year old that isn't going after girls his own age. No, he probably is, he's probably just getting the best response from someone way younger who doesn't know better and doesn't see the loser that the girls his age see. Yeah, you may be mature for your age, but you certainly don't know sh*t compared to what you'll know in 6 years.... and by then you'll realize that this dude isn't that great. In fact, you'll probably even realize that this dude is just a perv and see how blind and naive you were at 17.
Save this message for six years and then read the next line,
"I told you so..."
2006-06-27 23:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine it would want to matter at a particular age, as an instance if someone is 13, going out with an 18 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous there's a huge enormous difference in adulthood factor between those a at the same time as, yet at an older age both if the persons are a lot previous their teenage years and are a lot extra mature so it would not make as a lot of a huge difference. that's only my opinion besides the undeniable fact that! anybody has diverse innovations :)
2016-11-15 08:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age now, sweetheart..., just keep him as a friend. When you are that young, Age does matter. Ten years from now, you will be mature enough to answer your own question. Girls do mature faster than guys. Although..., not fast enough to be with someone who's age difference is that big. You're a teenager! Think of him as a big bro. and have fun.
2006-06-27 23:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by john's brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling, do you really need to have a boyfriend at your age, there is so much for you to do and see, there is plenty of time for love and boyfriends, keep him as a friend but please dont do anything silly or you will regret it later, you have all the time in the world for boys, be smart sweetheart, enjoy being 16, its a great time of your life.
2006-06-27 23:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by pebblesandkara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years not a big difference. First of all you concentrate on your studies. Let him also finish his education and stand-up on his own feet. Till then you better continue the friendship, let it mature till both decide ****
2006-06-27 23:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...23 is abit old for you...you could choose up to 19 or 18...but its your decission...if you know that everything will be allright then go for it...don't care about age...but be sure they don't deseption.im 16 too...but a guy :D .
good luck and take care
2006-06-27 23:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by The dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN IT COMES TO A MINOR SUCH AS YOURSELF YES IT DOES WAIT UNTIL U TURN 18 THEN U CAN DO WHAT U WANT.
2006-06-27 22:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by oaklandkc1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart
2006-06-27 23:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋