what makes people slow or late?

Question

my husband is always late, and slow..

Answer 1

Arrogance and selfishness. It is the belief that your time is more valuable than another's. It's just rudeness.

Answer 2

There are so many things that cause people to be late or slow. Some of them have already been mentioned, ie your clock! Personally, I think that it depends on the context.

I am a person who has been late and slow for most of my life. I was even late to a job interview once (I didn't get the job!). The biggest problem is the fact that I always think I have more time than I do. I am also a chronic over-packer. An overnight stay, I can do with one small bag, but anything more than that...I end up with a hockey bag full! I think they are symptoms of the same problem. Lack of awareness. Its not rudeness, or intentional, or stylish, its just over my head sometimes. I get distracted and think "Oh I have time for this" then I end up scrambling and running around like a chicken with my head cut off. Late is something I have mostly been able to conquer...all my clocks are fast now!

Slow is along the same lines. If your husband tends to be late, that can be fixed if you can make him realize that its a problem. When I realize that I'm moving too slowly for the situation, there's a quick sense of dread for a moment, and I used to panic, now I breathe. And then speed up, or call ahead.

There are however no important things that I have been late for. My best friend's wedding, I was on time. My friend's dad's funeral, when he died on father's day, I was early for. Take stock and ask yourself if your husband has been late or slow for the really important things. Like you!

Answer 3

It really isn't arrogance or selfishness. I'm not sure it's a psychological disorder either, but yet a personality trait. Sort of like some people are shy, and some people are outgoing. There are introverts and extroverts and there are punctual people and tardy people. Some people just have a "slower clock." I'm not saying that lateness is never intentional, but I think that quite often lateness is either a bad habit or a personality trait.

Answer 4

One way to speed him up is to secretly set his watch and clocks ahead 5-10 minutes.
Some people are just always late. But sometimes they are always late because they are rude, and weren't taught any better. I have a friend that is ALWAYS late 2-3 hours sometimes. (I tell her she is going to be late to her own funeral). I don't wait around for her anymore, if she is more than 10 minutes late and doesn't call, too bad.
Tardiness could also be considered lack of respect for others.

Answer 5

i know what you mean, i know lots of people like that. but even though it could be annoying to the faster moving people, its a very good quality to have. the people who are slow (and in conseqence they are late), show that they contemplate at length what they are about to do/go. rather than throwing themselves into the activity without thinking, they think well before acting, and as a result, you'll notice that most of these slow people work in detail and with perfection, which is sometimes hard to find by faster people.

Answer 6

..." i feel your pain" .. it's difficult dealing w/ people that are not punctual, i know a few.. among the "culprits" i know there are many different reasons: my cousin just dont care.. if its not in his direct interest to be on time he just moves at a pace thats convenient to him. my buddy hal is just slow moving by nature... although by now you'd think he realize this and get started sooner. my other Buddy ted has all good intentions but no self control [ and maybe attention disorder] he keeps getting involved in "other things".... other people seem to have no concept of time..." its only ten minuets from here" they say ... yeah thats 10 minuets after you get in the car and IF you dont hit lights or traffic...other people just like to be fashionably late, they think it's stylish??? me , i like being early, and believe one should do what they say they're going to do... but that can be a little "compulsive "to a falt also... it's ok to be late once in a while.

Answer 7

lack of planning...forethought for some requires a great mental effort that is devoted to other endeavors...that are more interesting to him...

If you want your husband to be punctual..find the "triggers' for his attention and redirect them...if it's sports..find a way to correlate a sports activity with a predetermined appointment...have the latest copy of Sports Illustrated waiting with you if you need to him to meet you on time....etc...etc.

sounds Pavlovian doesn't it...works though...

Answer 8

It depends. If one is weak then one needs to consult a doctor. On the other hand if a person is busy in one work all the time then he will never have time for other important job.

Answer 9

Organization is a skill some people just don't have, and personal motivation is honed through experiences with Self, which some don't know how to do.

Answer 10

Just the way the person is. Accept it. You may try to compensate at times to help balance things out. I believe that's what a spouse is for.