I am a 35 year old single female who keeps well away from the male species not lesbian but very much in fear of being hurt, anyhow I have a friend a male who is 34 also single but unlike me has had more women than hot dinners he has a 14 year old daughter who I have no problem with .I have however fallen for the guy we have been texting an talking to each other everyday now for the past 7 months but just " as friends" a girl he went out wiith 12 years ago I gave him her number about a year ago an he contacted her, yes alarm bells did ring but he tells me each time they are in contact mostly ,anyhow she asked him to a concert I lost it an sufficit it to say things have been strained ever since when he discovered how upset I got he didnt actually go, last night I sort of told him it hurt that he was going to go with her an it had made me feel stupid an hurt an he said but the concert is over an I didnt go.I am confused I am hurt can anyone help me, I dont know what to do.
2006-06-27 22:20:41 · 14 answers · asked by bermur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he didn't go because of you he probably realises that you like him. why don't you just ask him out on a proper date and get it over with?
2006-06-27 22:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a very nice man to me. Not only does he tell you when he has been in contact with this girl but he also sacrificed going to a concert with her because it made you upset. If he didnt care for you he would have just gone and thought nothing of it.
I think it's maybe time to take the bull by the horns and tell him how you feel. It might be a terrifying thought but 7 months is a long time and if he is still by yourside after all that time then he clearly feels something for you.
I wish you good luck
2006-06-28 05:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by mrhaff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, you have probably indirectly told him how you feel anyway.
The fact that he sacrificed a night out so as not to upset you is a good sign.
It is hard once your relationship is established as only friendship to then cross the line to something more, but the only way it looks like it will ever happen is if you make the first move.
Just be careful, as this bloke sounds like a bit of a player, so be wary of whether you will just become another notch on his bedpost.
But definately go for it. You don't want to spend the rest of your life wondering "what if..."
Good luck.
2006-06-28 05:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys have been texting & talking to each other everyday now for the past 7 then he must like you a lot. i have a lot of girls that flirt with me and there is not many that i even like talking to then just having to say hi. and did you ask him why he didn't go ? maybe he coulded get you off his mind and thats why he didn't go. or maybe you should just tell hom how you feel . and tell him if he didn't feel the same its ok because you r a great guy. and tell him there no rush.
2006-06-28 05:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Keven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel you obviously like him and want to take it further but are scared of being hurt but what you must realise is that you are already involved and at risk of being hurt so i suggest you make some sort of move because sooner or later some1 else will catch his eye an it will be to later for you and then you will most definitely get hurt. take a risk
2006-06-28 10:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by wetnslippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to feel that way , as far as the afraid of being hurt , you have to take chances and yes i have been hurt but it only hurts for a little while trust me i know. maybe this one is not for you ,you have to find someone that likes the same things and is the same temperament as you . i know i am rambling but i is true . just do not get mixed up with a hot head and a heavy drinker
2006-06-28 05:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta make up your mind. Do you want him or not? If you do, you got to forget about the fact of getting hurt- thats a risk you have to take... Otherwise, if you are not willing to comit, then just let him go and get a life. Dont spoil his happiness if you are not interested- that is plain selfish- make up your mind so both of you can get on with life. If you dont take risk, you are not going anywhere.
2006-06-28 05:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A burnt child dreads fire. If this has not been working for you why stick around and get hurt all times? The guy is outgoing than you are and you better find someone who meets your tastes your likings. Nobody will do it for you.
2006-06-28 05:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by James K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad, no really lady. that is sad, you are 35 years old, what the heck do you expect to accomplish by acting childish? you are going to continue to keep getting your heart broke even more so if you don't do something or say something, so grow up that's what you can do, you can sit there and cry and whine about things or you can do something about it
2006-06-28 05:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm and dont' want the same old advice huh, ok try this
Figure out what you want.......let that sink in.
If you know what you want, figure out what your willing to do to get it....let that sink in....
now act accordingly, if you know what your trying to do the decisions come easily.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-06-28 05:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by Old Wise One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋