How can we ( males and females) be relaxed, natural and comfortable on a "first date"?

Question

A first date is very important, but at any age, any sex, I believe we all tend to be a little nervous, artificial, overactive, or protective, etc,.whatever..

A first date, to work out to more dates, should be when a male and a female feel COMFORTABLE with each other, not tense and defensive.

Whether it's a blind-date, set up by friends, or self-initiated, it can tend to feel like a"job interview", when it ought to be just a fun and relaxing time to get to know each other..

But that's easier SAID, than DONE.

How can we make it easier to get to know each other, and if we want to, get closer to one another.?

Right now, there are lots of lonely people, with a lot to give, if only we knew HOW not to blow it.

Answer 1

Well, unfortunetly, first dates are a lot like job interviews.
You put your best foot forward, answer a lot of questions,( some difficult and thoughtfull) and then you must wait to see if you will be called back for a second interview or (WOW) got the job/relationship.
A first date should be in a relaxed, not too intimate atmosphere where conversation can be heard. A restaurant or coffee bar is ideal. After some talk, you may feel relaxed enough to go to a movie or do something else.

Answer 2

Good question, I have not been single in a long while, I broke up with ex-husband (we were together for almost 17 years) dated this idiot for awhile, came to my senses and re-united with my first love who i dated when I was 14. So i am not sure as to how to answer this one but to say just be yourself, if someone does not like you for you, than they were not worth the time to begin with.

Answer 3

Being afraid is what causes us to be nervous and increase our stress. Stress and fear is caused by our perception that we will fail. When we recognize that just trying is success enough and that failure in in not trying then the Stress and fear are greatly relieved. So just enjoy the evening do not try to impress, if you are on a first date you have already succeeded. If the chemistry is there it will develop without pushing if not let it go and go on to the next on.

Answer 4

first you two should agree that there will not be any sex that night...then get the kiss out of the way as early as appropriate (even if it's just a peck on the cheek).

with most of the sexual tension and expectations dispelled, you both can be relaxed and focus on just enjoying each other's company and surroundings.

Answer 5

it's easy to blow it. Just try to remember of all the things you have talked about in the past.and don't bring them up utill there is no talking going. If you feel like it's an awkward moment, just say it and laugh about it. it will break the ice too....

Answer 6

well, you have to be a natural relaxing person with a calming but interesting affect, or somebody needs to be a little intoxicated for the words to flow out nicely

Answer 7

a good way to start and break the perverbial ice is by chatting weather it be via phone or messanger and find out what interests you both have--compermise is always good in any situation GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

Hang loose! Dont always worry bout things! Drink sth or go to sleep! :D

Answer 9

prepare yourself for that date, yes its normal to feel nervous but you haven't just met this person and then you go and have a date! that's kinda be rude ,though...

Answer 10

probably a lot less hungry as us women folk will be eating extra of the pizza as all that flirting with all you men ' we would wish favor extra power' to target to p.c.. up all of your tens of millions of guys.I were given hungry only wondering f it.