2006-06-27 21:08:48 · 11 answers · asked by babyblu 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
They "need" you or are they "using" you? You have to focus on yourself and your children. Your parents, brothers, sisters, counsins or whatever can take care of themselves.
2006-06-27 21:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might be suprised to learn how much they dont need you, try staying away for a few days, or just a day, depends on how many times you go round to your family or if you live with them, I wouldn't make any excuses up or lie to them, maybe just tell them you need to spend a bit more quality time with your own family as you feel that you have been neglecting them, im sure after a while they will get on and cope.
Steven Fawcett
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2006-06-28 04:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by fawcett1101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand where you are coming from. My husband and I have a good life and pay the bills but my family can't or doesn't. I am either avoiding phone calls or having to tell them I can't help them.
I love my family...but the reason we have a stable life and income is because we planned and worked very hard for it. Everyone should be doing that.
I just tell them that I love them but I cannot help and that we are trying to survive ourselves; with the economy being the way it is.
You need to accept and understand that just because you have a good life, you cannot carry everyone in your family because it will ultimately destroy the security you have and worked for.
Good luck...all you can offer them is love and knowledge. You can give a man a fish and he can eat for a day or teach a man to fish and he will eat for a lifetime.
2006-06-28 04:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u need to do i let ur family know that u cant support them that u have Ur own family now that they need u, tell them that Ur going to help them as much as u can but not to expect everything from u, and u are kind person.
2006-06-28 04:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by isopropyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had a similar experience...while i dont have a family of my own, i used to have to support my family. i talked to them and told them i was tired of it and they needed to help themselves and i was going to help them out but only with what i could. they were upset about it for a while but i think they have come to terms with it. they still bring up the fact that i dont want to help them out anymore and they supported me for the first 17 years of my life,only when they get mad. my best advice is to just talk to them.
2006-06-28 04:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Gus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of your own family first put your foot down ansd set limitations to how far u will go and make your family aware
2006-06-28 07:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey be upfront, you are a mother and need to look after your own family. Im sure they can live without your money support and live with your emotional support. please dont let this get to you im sure thy will under stand
2006-06-28 04:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by skurtzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL THEM THEY CANT DEPEND ON U FOREVER ... cause u have your own family to take care of ...
2006-06-28 04:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by L0Lziny0face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they need you or do you need to feel that they need you? I used to have this problem myself. Ask yourself this; if you were to die today what would they do? Would they die with you or would they continue with their lives? I assure you that they would continue with their lives. Nobody is indispensable.
2006-06-28 04:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by fallen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is that a beer, wine or a spirit?
2006-06-29 14:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by kc_brig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋