I did not go to my dad's funeral.
When I was young, he decided he was gay.
I do not know his side of my family so I did not see a reason to go.
I live more than a thousand miles away and only had about 1 weeks notice.
Also, I only visited my mom once in the past 3 years.
I visited her this year after I heard she was sick.
But I do talk to her on the phone at least once a week.
She lives with her mother.
2006-06-27 20:26:39 · 18 answers · asked by Eric Inri 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think you are a bad person. 1 weeks notice, man you gotta get time off work and stuff. Your mom is allowed to visit you too, so I don't think either of those qualify you as a bad person.
2006-06-27 20:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by xeroxpoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u did abt your dad is wrong n what you are doin to yr mother is wrong too. You will never get a replacement for your parents."Honour your Father n Mother". What ever your father did, u must forgive him. YOu are not a bad person cos if you are you would never ask tis question. I guess deep inside you u feel the guilt abt your action to yr dad. Nevermind do repeat the mistake...make sure visit your mom more often and spend some quality time with her. She the last person on earth you have n can call her MOTHER> Or Ynot try this, bring her along with u n take care of her. That would be great.IF that impossible cos of work, no problems. Just visit her often. Everybody does mistakes,but repeating it make you a fool. Take care n good luck.
2006-06-27 20:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ynot78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over the thought. And no one is bad. It is just the circumstances that makes one feel that. And the social circles that make you look bad.
You have to make more frequent visit to you mom and more regular calls to let her know that you are there for her.
About your dad it was his choice and yes he left you at young age. But you could still be there for his funeral.
Not knowing his family is cos you never wanted to for what he did to you. This happens when you are young and you dislike your parents and start hating them for that. But you should also think what it might have been that your father went through it.
May be now you can just go where he has been burried. Leave a rose for him and do a small prayer for his soul to rest in peace.
2006-06-27 20:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...you are not a bad person but you are being a little selfish. Despite how these people have hurt you and negatively affected your being maybe it would benefit THEM to know you and to have you around. And as you give yourself and go out of the way to have a relationship with them then you will find yourself needing them to. Everyone needs a support system, a group of people that tell you good job and you are amazing and you are doing things right. But this also comes with risks - you could be rejected, or they could disagree with you. But the bottom line is that ALONE YOU ARE NO ONE. If you are the king of the world and have no one to share your triumphs with then whats the point. Make an effort, take the risk! They probably need to feel validated twice as much as you.
2006-06-27 20:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by tiffanylsu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from enjoy ive had each a well youth a million-12 then whilst i grew to become a youngster my moms and dads divorced and we struggled alot i could ought to say it completely depends upon how the man or woman see matters in his existence going by way of each i strayed off into dangerous matters medicines and what no longer however now im a better man or woman i discovered even as suffering among proper and incorrect soooo i made up our minds i wasnt going to be BAD i transformed my conduct and issues..there may be a few fact in what your announcing however almost always some thing would occur dangerous persons come from well and dangerous childhoods well persons come from well and dangerous childhoods additionally it simply relies which means the youngster makes a decision to move. Just considering i stopped up there (dangerous tennage existence) i knew i wasnt going to stick there.
2016-08-31 09:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not really! the only thing you did wrong was u didn't go to yr dad's funeral. you are the son, no mater how far or how less time you have, but for a person who you can have only once like your father, you must go. Anyway, that is the only thing you did wrong. About your mother, unless you call her once a week, your are not bad compare to the person who not even think of their family.
2006-06-27 20:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by vantha_nou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad person to try to keep yourself healthy by staying out of your parents messes. That said, once you're old enough and have an ok life yourself, it's cool to forgive and understand that parents are just as stupid as everybody else, and make the same mistakes that we all do.
2006-06-27 20:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by kimba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not a bad person,i guess some people cant stand to be at funerals,but no you are not a bad person,just forget about it and take care of your mom,she might need you sometimes.remember 1 thing,you only got 1 mom and when she is gone you dont have anymore,so take care of your mom.
2006-06-27 20:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not bad, but try to ring her possibly 2 or even 3 times a week...
2006-06-27 20:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not a bad person but you have made some bad choices that you will have to live with n the best way to do that is to get ur life together only you have to live with you
2006-06-27 20:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by mzcokeacolababy07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋