waht do i do..?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 years, and we havn't had sex until the 4 years. We started making love, and he now talks about getting me pregnant, then get married and have a family. I dont know what to do....

Why is he doing this?

Answer 1

He may think that knocking you up will ensure he can hold onto you, & no one else will take you. Of course, marriage is SUPPOSED to do this (though it doesn't seem to often anymore). Personally, I believe wanting to get you pregnant before he wanted to marry you is abnormal. Beware! He may start doing things like poking holes in his condoms to try to impregnate you against your will. If you aren't already using a form of birth control yourself, you need to start. Also, you may want to reevaluate your relationship with him, & find out why he would be adverse to marrying you & waiting to have kids.

Answer 2

if the relationship between you and your boyfriend is strong then you should be telling him how you feel about this. 4 years is along time. My guess is the reason why he's doing this is because he doesn't want to lose you. By getting married and getting you pregnant to start a family is reminding him that a) he wants to be with you. b) he doesn't want you to be with other people.
It's a tough call. But if you're having any doubts don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. If he loves you enough to wait 4 years to have sex, he'll wait even longer to have that family with you. I hope this helps you out.

Answer 3

Personally, I feel he is a little "Cheap".. as I feel it is a little backwards. Does he feel "Threatened" when marriage is mentioned?? If he backs away.. or such.. drop him. I will never get involved with a man again, for sex.. unless I have that "RING" around my Finger.. and the "Vows have already been said".! Do you want to have a Child.. that may not know or experience the presence of a GOOD FATHER??
Once you do have a child.. who's to say.. he won't drop you.. and go do that all over to another lady?
Make sure BOTH OF YOU ARE ON THE SAME LEVEL... Dating... Marriage.. (Good and happy one at that!!!).. then think about having a family. Don't have a Family 1st. PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

He wouldn't be the first guy to get you pregnant and then leave. How you feel is important, it's your body, and besides the fact that it is wrong to have sex before marriage, it is you that has to take care of the kid for the rest of your life. He can "donate" and then leave. You can't.
Know a girl (actually-- more than one girl--) who fell for that same story twice. 2 kids later... by different guys.... you get the picture.

Answer 5

Well he wants to take the relationship to another level. Have you two talked about the issues or are you being mute. If this is someone you are thinking about marrying i don't think you will want to be quite for this one. Communicating has kept the two of you together this long.

Answer 6

I think he want to guarantee that you will stay to gather. Most guys don't want a girl to get pregnant. So take it as a Good sign.

But be careful of your choices. You could end up paying for them for the rest of your life.

Answer 7

Have You Ever...
1. Held hands with a boy? ya
2. Hugged a boy? ya
3. Touched a boy inappropriately? ya
4. Been touched by a boy inappropriately? ya
5. Kissed a boy? ya
6. Made out with a boy? ya
7. Been caught making out with a boy by an authority figure?no
8. By a friend or enemy? ya
9. Had sex with a boy?N no
10. Had oral sex? no
11. Stared a boy in the eyes? ya all the time
12. Been caught having sex by an authority figure? lol no
13. By a friend or enemy? no
14. Ran your fingers through a boys hair? ya
15. Had a boy run his fingers through your hair? ya
16. Sat on a boys lap? ya
17. Made out with a boy in the dark? ya
18. Kissed a boy in the rain? [crying] no
19. Kicked a boy in his sensitive area? ya
20. Spent more than hour flirting with a boy? omg all the time
21. Stolen your friends boyfriend? ya
22. Had your boyfriend stolen by a friend? no
23. Cheated on your boyfriend? ya
24. Been cheated on? ya
25. Slow danced with a boy? ya
26. Been on a date? ya
27. Took a walk with a boy? ya
28. Told a boy he was hot? all the time
29. Told a boy he was ugly? lol ya all the time
30. Been told you were hot? ya
31. Been told you were ugly by a boy? prolly
32. Seen a boy naked in the flesh? ya
33. Dumped a boy? ya
34. Been dumped? ya
35. Asked a boy for his number? ya
36. Had a boy ask for your number? ya
37. Embarassed yourself in front of a crush? ya but i laughed about it w/ him
38. Secretly liked your best friends boyfriend? ya
39. What about just her crush? ya
40. Lied to your boyfriend? ya

41. Been lied to by your boyfriend? ya
44. Slept with a boy without actually having sex? no
45. Been over to a boys house? ya
46. Had a boy over your house? ya
47. Done something drastic to get a boys attention? lol ya
48. Begged a guy to make out with you? i never beg! >:[
49. Been begged by a guy to make out with him? ya lol
50. Slept over a boys house? non related no

Answer 8

I guess its cuz,since u giys waited dat long.its overwhelmin u wid his reaction on da sex part.I think since he waited dat long dat he has a right 2 think like dat & it was somethin u guys firgured dat was very special 2 both of u.now dat u gave each other dat gift,he probably feels its a next step in your guys relationship...

Answer 9

first get married lady... i dont find the guys intention correct.....
what if after gettoing you pregnant, he leaves you or he bullies you just becos you have his child....
get married first and then have baby... you can have sex before marriage also....
just tell him to use a condom... ok... or you take pills....
do anythign but dont get pregnant b4 marriage...

Answer 10

come on u hav been datin for 4 years ....
maybe its time