If a guy you are sexually active with isnt that great in bed and he is aware of that is it cool for him to want to use toys so that you can enjoy yourself to the fullest also. if so how would he bring this up to you.really not being nasty just need to know.
2006-06-27 20:21:19 · 10 answers · asked by texas boy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not that im lazy just dont feel she is fully satisfied with the whole deal
2006-06-27 20:33:01 · update #1
Well just ask her. tell her you want to please her. Just confront her. She would tell you how she feels
2006-06-27 20:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, "he" should spend more time trying to figure out where he's lacking in bed. Hit the bookstore to read up if necessary &/or ask the girl U're involved with what turns her on. Timing for that kind of conversation in crucial tho. Don't make it akward!
Toys are a great enhancer btwn lovers....but shouldn't be used as substitution to laziness!
2006-06-27 20:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by ModelBehavior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he should just keep asking her what she needs. honestly, a freakin pillow can get me off, so if this woman can't get what she needs from him, she might be difficult or maybe she's just not comfortable enough yet to do some experimenting. i don't like the word 'toys', because why would i want the man there then? i might as well kick him out of the bed and enjoy the toys?? absolutely not. i want the man-all of him-and no toys. there are ways to get it good-the man doesn't have to be exceptionally great... plus people can learn, right?
2006-06-27 20:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by jami p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were not able to satisfy me in bed without using toys, then I wouldn't want to be with you.
I'm not into bringing toys into the bed with me and it's not something that remotely sounds appealing to me.
If you aren't able to satisfy a woman in bed, and you're sexually active (at least one of you is!), then ask her what she wants/needs to be fulfilled. I don't think that she'd hesitate for one minute to show you!
2006-06-28 22:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok to suggest that she pick something, but I gotta say, the best "toys" are your lips and tongue and fingers. Most gals are not so big on finger penetration, but if you really learn how to touch a woman's clitoris properly you'll have her eating out of your hand, so to speak. You just gotta be really patient and kinda mesmerized by the whole thing
2006-06-27 20:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by kimba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let my man use extra toys on me.but I threw mine away.Maybe they do think your great in bed.To me when your in love with someone its better in bed than when your not in love.But aah yes to make sexual activities more interesing sometimes there is nothing wrong with useing extra toys when you are in the bedroom.
2006-06-27 20:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by revan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes u have 2 take control of situations & just do it. I know u don't want 2 freak her out but their just toys. Be gentle & if she doesn't like then talk w/her.
2006-06-27 20:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be fine, Just ask her if you can try something new. It's good to see some men want to take the time to please their partners too...She may or may not accept but if you have been in a relationship and are comfortable with each other i don't see why not.
2006-06-27 20:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the girl. You are being sexually active with her and you can't talk about sex. When it comes to the bedroom we are all adult. we should be able to talk freely about what we like and don't like.
2006-06-27 20:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by Pretty Brown Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed if you didn't. Buy her a pocket rocket for a present. Best present she will ever get.
2006-06-27 20:25:16 · answer #10 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋