i knw this grl. she does things with me tht well normal friends don't do. does she like me?

Question

i have known her for more than 12 years. both our families are really close. whenever i go over to their house or she comes over, she will always sit next to me or near me even with lots of space in the room. when a world cup match is going on, she rests her head on my hand and she puts my arm around her herself. when we walk, she always walks in a way tht our bodies touch the whole time. my best friend says tht i'm just an idiot who cannot pick up signs she is giving off (i.e he says she likes me) but i don't think she likes me. she got asked out a lot of times and she declined all of them. again, my best friend says she is saving herself for me and the reason y she doesn't tell her feelings is because she is afraid of me saying no. does she like me? should i ask her out or should i wait for sometime and wait for her to finally build up the courage to ask me out?

see we r good friends and i'm scared tht if i ask her out and she says no, then tht friendship will be destroyed cos naturally i would obviously be pissed and ashamed to show myself to her. should i risk it? my best friend says tht 'fortune favours the brave'!!! how can i make her understand tht there is nothing to be scared of? but when talk about things, she always denies tht she doesn't like me as you knw. so, my mind really jumbled up!!!!

Answer 1

That is the most unbelievable question I have ever read on here. Mate, I feel really sorry for u because you have so many choices to make. When I first read this I thought, it is so obvious that she wants u. then, when I thought about it again, maybe she is just being friendly. Listen, my advice is to go for it, ask her out. However, make it clear to her that if she says no then you really really do still want to be friends. If she does say yes, then savour every moment you spent with this person that you so obviously adore. If she says no then make sure that you stay friends because she sounds wonderful. I've missed out so many times. Don't u miss out.

Answer 2

Ok, the answer's really simple. Either she doesn't ever want to be with you, or she wants to be with you forever.

It would be really helpful to know how old you are, because if you were 36 and asking this question, I would be giving you a completely different answer to if you were, say, 22.

Either at 12 years of platonic friendship she sees you as someone trusted who she can have arm round her without it being awkward, or (and I think this more likely) - I'm guessing you are bit younger - she likes you so much but is scared, like you of making the wrong move and letting on she loves you, instead waiting for you to make the decision. Some women believe the man should make the move.

Did she ever tell you why she turned the other guys down? Did you ever ask her? Questions are good.

Then you can make your decision, without anyone having to be too upfront at first. Tiptoe around it, and if she gives you no concrete answers that you can work with, and you still think she likes you, simply say "I'm asking you, because I really like you, I've always liked you, but I didn't want to scare you",

Someone has to take the risk in the end, but there are many questions you can ask first to mitigate that risk. Eventually, something has to give in the end. Otherwise you'll die wondering!

Good luck.

Answer 3

She likes you chicken. Let it marinate, gently. Don't rush anything. Just look in to her eyes and go with the flow. It sounds luvly and I would just enjoy it if I were you. Do you really have to push it and risk feeling embarrassed. There is obviously a lot of chemistry there.. between you. Just give it time - obviously what you decide to do is entirely up to you, but I would say: pluck up all the courage that you can to look right in to her eyes and do not look away if you can help it! You might have to do this a couple of times, before you really have the courage to stay looking - she likes you but I think she has the same fears as you have, and you both sound quite shy,.. which I totally dig. We can't all be the same, super-confident beings! &impatience and rash actions, are never a good idea, when your feelings are telling you to go gently - where Angels fear to tread, and all that! Feel your way through, she sounds very special, esp. the fact that you've known her for that many years!! And don't TRY - you'll only either say the wrong thing or something you regret. Just LISTEN, intently, to whatever she tries to say. Talk less. Try to Listen more, especially with your heart, bet you next time you look in to her eyes carefully, you'll see something else you've not quite seen before. Take care, you.

Answer 4

Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Reading your description, Id say she likes you but is thinking the same as you - that if she asked you out and was rejected, then itd spoil a good friendship.

However, all great relationships are based on friendship so I say, bite the bullet and ask her out - just the 2 of you - for a drink, a meal, just to your house, whatever and tell her just how youre feeling. Even if she doesnt feel the same, Im sure neither of you would want to sacrifice a great friendship by losing touch so go on, do it!!

Good luck mate

PS how do I know this? Its how I got together with my husband to be 7 years ago, and we're still going strong

Answer 6

if you known her 12 years then i think you should tell how you feel and see what response you get 12 years is a long time and if some else comes along you blown it whats the sayin better to love and lost than not love at all just explain to her and ask her how she feels if she likes you then you cracked it if you feel a bit soft then hey you hurt your pride a bit and you still got a good friend good luck mate hope things work out for you by the way am married for 35 years so go with your heart mate

Answer 7

Well it sounds like she does like you. When a girl gives off signals like that it does generally mean she likes you. I think you should ask her out, then all she can say is no and then you can both go back to normal again. Then if she says yes then great you both wont have to worry bout meeting the parents or anything or worrying bout them not getting on. It sounds like she isn't afraid to sit next to you so she isn't shy. I also think the reason for her saying no to going out with other people is A: because she is gathering up the courage to ask you out or B: she is waiting for you to ask her out. So go for it!!

Answer 8

well where do i start! i was in a situation like that and the person did love me even though when my friends asked him and he said no. i think that whenever she 'gets close to you' in a way that a friend would not normally do you should ask her then whether she likes you!!! reasure her that there is nothing to be affraid of! i would say that most probably she does like you but she just doesnt know how you would take it if she told you. Good luck with your problem!

Answer 9

You dont know what youve got till its gone , would you like to see her with someone else ? Write down how you feel and ask her to reply the same way , you are both so much in love that fear of losing each other is killing your chances of being together .

Answer 10

She hasn't had the courage for 12 years ask her the most she can say is no. Then you two will still be friends.