My Girlfriends MOM I cant stand?

Question

well guys, i come here once again for a braud base of all your opinions. Well i dont know what to do about my girlfriends mom. I have seriously no respect for the lady. Let me start the story off.

I met my girlfriends mom about 6 months ago, she was the niciest lady i ahve ever met, 2 months lader my mohter met up with her, they were cool, my mom explaind how she raised her kids ect, but then 1 month lader, my mom was planning a trip, and gave my girlfriends mom a call, she deostn answer, calls her daughter, and explains that "WHY IS THIS ******* ***** CALLING ME", i listend to the message for myself, and my mom left a simple message "hi XXX this is XXX mom, i wanted to call you to ask you a question" very nicely my mom left her mom. My girlfriend vthen comes to me with anger also, i explaiend that she just wanted to know if you could come to mexico with us, now its 3 months later, i got over that, but now i find out shes cheating on her husband, and i dont know what to do,

because i have no respect for those kind of people, im scared because i've heard "like mom like duaghter" but i know my girlfriend, she is the loev and only love of my life. I dont want to see her mom annymore because i feel as she has disrespected me, and my family. What should i tell my girlfriend when she invites me to go eath at a resteraunt with her and her mom, i dont ever want to be around her, because she's very disrespectfull behind my back, what i call backstabbers, and I told myself that im more secure than that.

Answer 1

Sounds like something's definitely not right there and I doubt it has anything to do with you.

Initially I was going to chalk it up to perhaps your g/f's mom was paranoid that perhaps your mom knew about her cheating. But if your g/f also got mad, well that can't be right. She wouldn't be mad at YOU if her mom were cheating so...

The only thing I can think of is there is something really wrong with your g/f's mother and no one's told you what it is yet. Could be psychological, could be medical, who knows? But my advice is that if your g/f gets mad at you without explaining the reason behind why she and her mom are so angry at you and your mom over a pleasant invitation, it's time to rethink if you really want to be in this relationship.

And remember it WAS none of your business when they didn't involve you in whatever was going on, but now that it's directed at you and your family is involved, it IS your business. On the same side of the coin, not being able to communicate with your g/f about this is no way to have a relationship for either of you.

There is no reason you should be treated this way and from what I've seen here, you haven't done anything to deserve it. So ask your g/f what's really going on with her mom. What's behind the way they freaked out over a simple invitation? Then pay attention to the answer you get. Is it vague? Are they somehow blaming you? Can you see that you're only being told part of the story? The way the answer is given has as much to do with what's going on as the answer itself so pay attention and...

Good luck!

Answer 2

First off, What are your ages.. you and the young lady? Are you both (Obviously still).. living at home? Still going to school? or are you out? OK... next.. when you met her mom at first, all was well. If they call back using such language, I feel I'd just ignore it, and not reply back. I do not believe in such. I feel for the young lady, and she's learning a "Bad" lesson, if it is her mother that is cheating. The Reply from your mother.. if she used the same language.. I'm sorry for that... I would just forget about it, as it sounds like you are just beginning to meet young lady's. So, chalk it up to experience, and use it as a LEARNING Example, and Go from there. Put it to "GOOD" experience.. and don't RUSH into anything. Especially going on "TRIPS".. when you 've not really experienced too many with other families.. (Correct?).
The way things are going today.. Please..if you do things.. go in families... together to Outings.. like shows.. races..etc.. to really get to know other families.. then see what happens.
Smile, and keep on going Forward.!! The past is Past.

Answer 3

okay I know your female after I read you few post about your boyfriend and you and your cheating mother caught you. First of all you don't know for a fact if your mother or your gf mother is cheating because they may have a open marriage. or the female have something on the husband. But a battle between a girl vs a woman, the woman will all ways win. Plus you don't know if the men are submissive behide close doors. But get a camra and try to catch them. But be careful, if she catch you, because she may make you eat her out and have that black man have his way with you. If that doesn't work get some itching powder and place it in her under wear.

Answer 4

Not liking your girlfriends mom is not a reason to interfere with her business. That obligation belongs to noone outside the family. So she's a bit*h. The simple fact is whatever her extra marital activities are they are the reason for her temper and frustration. Guilt has an uncanny way of changing someones personality.

I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.

Answer 5

i figured id take a look at all your questions, so this is the 2nd one im going to answer....for one, u put WAAY to much stress on your life. ofcourse its never right for a parent to say that, but i mean come on was there a certain reason maybe why she did? People dont just RANDOMLY come out an call somebody a ******* *****. and like i said before about the cheating mother. LEAVE THAT HER BUISNESS. Worry more about yourself an ur relationship. I really doubt your girlfriend pays attention to your family problems and if she does...i would REALLY LOVE to see her Questions on Yahoo as well.

-Stephanie

Answer 6

The thing to do here is not have anything to do with this person. Other than "Good Evening Mrs xxx" or "Mrs xxx we will be back before 10 pm we are going to a movie" or stuff like this. Do not get in the middle of your gf and mothers fights, take no sides, stay completely neutral, the reason for this is, no matter whose mother she is, she is a parent, what she does with her life is between her and her husband, you are (even though you are dating her daughter) an outsider, you are not part of her family.
So you young man, keep your nose clean, never give her a reason to hate you, and do nothing.
As I said before, if your gf has to vent to you, listen, be there for her, be the STABLE one who your gf can turn to and trust, not the one who loses his temper and shows hate to anyone. And you will have a gf who appreciates and loves you...

Answer 7

First of all, her mom's insult and dis respect your family and your mom. and Once she dis-respect she will continue this in the future too, and the other thing is this if she dont have a respect for your mom then in her view you are also a crap.

On the other hand, as far as your GF i agreed that she is fine with U, but later on she can be like her mom or she try to changed her mind. But u knows better the attitude and habbits and nature of ur GF if your heart says that she is the right one goahead and marry her, but remember once you got married your GF's mother will hang for the lifetime with U. :( and it will be a disgusting thing

Answer 8

Well....when two people are in love , there should be nothing but just love between them .
But I see her mom , your self-respect or ego , your mom etc . between you two.
Time is the best solution . Wait & watch . Till then you two should spend some quality time together . Make plans for the future . See your prorities , together . And then you can see what weigh more, your love for each other or the tensions & problems ? That will give you a final solution , for sure .

Answer 9

just imagine: 30 years later, your girlfriend will become exactly like her mom. You will know what to do.


after reading your added details:
well, the thing i have to tell you from constant observation is that people always try to consciously avoid being like their parents as they grow up, and end up pretty much like them doing so. Your girlfriend probably knows it too, but there are always some things stronger than love. One of them is called genes. Thats why nobody can erase a family history of diabetes in your medical record no matter how much they love you.

Answer 10

do you LOVE her with intent to mary? do you trust her? Share with her your fears and disgust. Adultry is a very serious sin, for anyone. Hate is just as bad. You must be the adult here, for gf's sake. If you marry, you must keep MIL out of your family business. But you err also,, you do not invite an under age girl on a trip to a foreign country.. so, we have your story, her story, and the truth.. Examine yourself, ask her to explain herself, pray for both her and you. the TRUTH will sort everything out.