My boyfriend is in the army and he's going to the war at the end of July. He has explained to me many times not to give him presents before he leaves because he can not take them with him. Because of what he does for his job,..he breaks off all things from home so he can focus all his energy on what he is doing. There is a chance that something can happen to him! I want to show him how much I love and care about him but I don't know how. Military men are hard to deal with emotionally and I want to get the point accross to him that I'll be waiting for him when he gets home. I really need help and support!!!! I'd be beyond greatful.
2006-06-27 19:56:08 · 3 answers · asked by merivel7 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are in a difficult situation and I think you will need a really good support system while he is away. I understand that he feels that he needs to break off all contact with home so he can "focus" on his "job at hand" when he is at war, and he very well may. Unfortunately that leaves you feeling more abandoned than most military wives and/or girlfriends. Try checking with the chaplan on base to see if there is a support group already established. My bet is that there is.
As for saying "Good Bye", I think your best option is to reassure him verbally OVER and OVER that you are strong in your love for him and just because he is not there with you physically, that won't stop you from loving him. You could try telling him that all he has to do is look at the sky and know that your love is all around him, because you will be looking at the same sky and trusting the universe to delivery your love to him: where-ever he is, when-ever he needs it.
No purchased gift will tell him you love him more. What your heart tells him is what he needs to hear; and that is all he needs-- that AND the reasurrance that you will be alright and can take care of yourself while he is gone. That is where the support group comes in.
Good luck ! God Bless you both.
I hope your man comes home safe, mentally well and physically well. Military men can and usually ARE difficult emotionally to deal with. WHEN he comes home, I encourage you two to join group counseling for returning vets. He will resist and insist that there is no need.Go anyway. But that is another adventure to be discussed at a later time.
2006-06-27 20:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by catseverywhere52 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tattoo his image on your body and have him tattoo your name on him..the military can not take that away from him. Or more realisticly get matching tattoos that might not be somethting you will regret later. Some people do not like to tattoo names in case the relationship sours. But if you both got a symbol on the same arm or your ankle it would be a nice reminder everytime you look at it- without being a distraction for him.
2006-06-27 20:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by bearklektor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to give him anything. You already have. He's been with the most amazing woman in the world!!! "You" will make him fight so much harder to come home. And he will.
2006-06-30 17:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋