it seems that my dating life has been following the same pattern for the past three years. I meet guys who make usually huge effort to pull me, everything's great but after like two months or less they start to go off me and this is where it ends. it doesn;t matter how much i do really like them but the process is always painful - it's almost when i start to open up a little they pull out. I don't think that i'm very needy- i have great social life and i love my job and in addition I'm considered very attractive. I see them couple of times a week to leave each space. at the moment I'm about to break up with a guy - but this time it's really hard because just two weeks ago it felt like we were both in love and now he's kind of distant and doesn't call when he says he would and I just know something's wrong again. it's actually becoming something that I almost expect to happen with every new person i meet. why is this keep happening the same way is it kind of guys I chose?
2006-06-27 19:53:51 · 6 answers · asked by petr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow tough question..and as always the answer is within.
People are in relationships for a lot of reasons..sex companionship...money..the list is too long to mention here.
I think the mistake that men & women make..is trying to get too serious too early...the other mistake is getting physical too soon.
Yes SEX is great...but if you can wait...its better..USUALLY..
This cant be a onesided choice..you both need to be on the same page...FAST START FAST FINISH.
Your ok...its a phase we all go through..manybe nows the time to sit back and concetrate on YOU for a while..Learn to be content in your own company..to be whole and complete as a single person..not to need the BOY on your arm.. You can want one but you dont need one..Be Good To You..
Really take some time to figure out who and what you want and why...and hey if you have a minute..please watch this video..its a song you will probably like.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARHyRI9_NB4
Stan
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2006-06-27 20:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Stan B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever watched the movie the movie how to loose a guy in ten days? Obviously you are doing something wrong, I know this might not be easy but if you are still friends with any of your exes try asking them what made them pull away etc. Good Luck
2006-06-27 20:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by TiggerJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 Months is not a long time for a break up 2 really hurt unless you are investing too much of yourself in the relationship learn to be a bit coy and take the relationship slower also understand if a man has a personal problem in his life he is likely to pull away from you to solve it alone that is not an insult to you but personal pride that he needs to overcome things himself if when he starts to do this and you overreact and chase him he will pull away harder until the relationship ends your best bet when this happens is to focus on your freinds and wait he will come back or he will not and do not catalog every failed callback or the gap in contact time you are probably too late already to save this relationship but try it
2006-06-27 22:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by Steve P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep going. I'm a stage manager. Girls love it. I tour a lot and whilst I'm away i end up back on the shelf. I keep hoping this will change. I wish you luck, wish me luck too
2006-06-28 05:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by thecharleslloyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your trying too hard it might make you seam obssesive. Make them wait two months before you have sex with them and you will be able to tell if they are genuine or not!
2006-06-27 20:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by simo9352 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is some good info here.
2006-06-30 00:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋