I Just gave birth to my first Baby on May 30. I am feeling very depressed. please help me. i Love my Daughter?

Question

Went to see my Dr today. he said It was normal. like all of you told me. he gave me some meds. my Daughter I Love her so much. I think the whole thing has to do with my father. we never were very close and I guess well anyway I am getting help.

I always said that love was made up. that love was false and a Joke. until I held my Baby in my arms. and Just at that moment I knew that not only Love was real. but also Love at first sight was real. Thank you all for the great answers God Bless You all.

Susan

Answer 1

Susan,
Hi! My name is Karen and I am a Nurse. I worked in Labor and Delivery for many years. It is not uncommon to feel like you are feeling. It is called Post Partum Depression. Of course, you love your daughter. You need to make an appointment with your doctor and let him/her know how you are feeling. You may need to go on an anti-depressant for a little while. Many women feel the way you do after they have a baby. It is because of the hormones going crazy in your body. Do you feel like you want to hurt yourself or your baby? If you do, please call a friend to come stay with you and the baby so you will both be safe. You do not want to do something you would regret for the rest of your life. And remember, your daughter needs you to be there for her. Do not feel embarrassed because of being depressed. You are not alone. Please make sure you call your doctor in the morning and get an appointment to see him/her. It is very important that you do this for yours and your daughters safety. It will make you feel better. Take care and God Bless You Both!
Karen

Answer 2

You already are proving how much you love your new-born baby girl, but recognizing that you need some help. As others have stated, you may need to talk to your doctor. I had post-partum depression with both my kids...I remember laying awake all night when I was in the hospital after having my first child, my daughter. The nurse said, "honey, u must be exhausted. You need to get some sleep" I started to cry and said, "What am I going to do with a baby?" hehehe I can laugh now, but I was petrified. All through the pregnancy, I was so excited, but suddenly I realized, "hey, this is forever. I don't know a thing about raising a child." Relax, honey, really. You are one of thousands upon thousands over the decades that have experienced this. It's mostly just your hormones running wild. Give yourself time. Every time u look at your baby girl, thank God, even if u don't really feel thankful at the time. If you do have feelings of hurting the child, then seek immediate professional help. Don't be scared. That is a rare thing and I'm sure you won't go through that. God bless you and your new family!!!!

Answer 3

Congrats on your new baby. I am glad you are talking about your feelings of depression. I believe you love your daughter but you need to get in touch with your OB as soon as possible to discuss these feelings. It is very common to have the baby blues after child birth so don't think anything is wrong with you. However sometimes it just can't be managed on your own. I have been there twice. I told my doc and I was put on an antidepressant it helped so much. Talk with you doctor to see if medication would be right for you. If things get too tough or if you find you feel like hurting your self or the baby tell someone. Call a friend or family member you can trust and just take a break, get away if even for only a 1/2 hour or 15 minutes. Please call you OB in the morning, do it for you and your baby. God Bless

Answer 4

I dont know your age which will explain many other things or under what circunstances your baby born, if the father is with you etc., but having a baby is always a challenge that comes with a lot of responsability and is normal to be a little scare, but believe me there is no woman who learn how to be a mother until she has a baby and you and your baby will grow together and little by little you will learn everything you need to know about having a baby.

Difficult situations may appear but remember you has just started and it is normal, if you are depressed try to do things that sheer you up, go for a little walk..excercise always help..believe me and try to listening happy music.. in other words keep yourself busy with others things, the fact that you are a mother now doesnt mean that your life has to stop.. it constinues just with a little addition... and a daughter is always a give...believe me!!

Have a wonderful day and if you need to talk I am here all day... :-)

Answer 5

Yes it is very normal.... post-pardum depression also known as baby blues... it happens to alot of moms... I have had 3 children and not once had the baby blues after. Yet I was very lucky I have seen. You can try to understand that it is normal, and seriously treat your self.... you just gave life... you deserve some hot baths, and sipping your favorite drink while in the tub... and having someone else keep an eye on the baby for just a little while... do that once a day at a comforting time and you will feel a bit better. Also if you can think of foods that are healthy for you that you enjoy and feel a sense of comfort when you eat them.... just eat them more ofter.... Another thing you can try, if you like tea... is Sleepytime tea (it comforts, it does not make you sleepy) add a little sugar and a teaspoon of honey.... All in all it will pass and is very very normal, and of course you love your daughter.... Your on here trying to find out what you can do.....

Answer 6

Depression is part of post-natal sundrome. Any woman who is on preganancy and after giving birth always has depression. Girl, it's a matter of living with it. Fight with it, if you love your baby then don't dwell with it. Maybe you just want attention, or maybe you just want a life you had before but can't have bec. you have a kid now. Think that you have a baby who looks up having a great Mom, that one day when she comes home from school she has some nice grades to show you. Instad of being depressed, get up, bpounce back, feel that you're the luckiest Mom in the world. . . enjoy your baby while you can, bec. you'll never know in a few days, months, years she'll be a grown up lady you'll be proud of! And you don't wanna miss that either!

Answer 7

U r not alone. Tell your Doctor. My first two children, I had mild post par-tum depression. I got over that without help. I waited 11 years to have my third child and almost went off the deep end with severe post par-tum depression. I broke down and told my Doctor about it at a routine check-up appointment. I was so afraid to say anything to anyone, but was more afraid of what might happen to myself or the baby. My Doctor referred me to counseling and prescribed Prosac. It took me a good 6 months to get to where I felt normal again. Hopefully you just have a case of the baby blues and it will pass quickly. Don't stress and just enjoy your time with the baby. Good Luck!

Answer 8

I went through this as well, and like you, I was reaching out for help. I was told to contact my doctor and I did. But I also let friends help. Let them take the baby for an hour or so. go for a walk, read, take a shower or a swim. get back into an old hobby. You cant give everything to your special new person if you dont renew yourself. take baby steps (no pun intended), one day at a time you will feel better and you and your baby will be just fine. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 9

I went through the same thing with my daughter. It's post partum depression. You need to talk to your doctor or go see a psychiatrist. Drugs may or may not be the answer. Your not alone. Almost every woman goes through it after birth. Some worse than others. Get help.

Answer 10

You must have heard that what they call Post-Partum ("after" "childbirth") Depression is really, really common. If you are nursing, I don't suggest taking anything for it, but sometimes just knowing that's it's normal can help. Other thngs that can help without negative effects on your new baby are exercise and meditation, if you can get yourself up to do them, which is hard when you're depressed. You might try to find a new mother's group on-line or in your neighborhood.

Good Luck, you're not alone!