My girlfriend manages our finances and my monthly salary get paid directly into her account, she has the only atm and credit card but gives me enough to get by each week. This has worked well for the past 6 months, however, 2 weeks ago she wouldn't give me any money until I gave her my yahoo password and all the phone numbers in my mobile phone. This week she made me kneel to her when asking for some money back and told me I would have to do this to her from now on. Is this normal or is she getting a bit kinky? I am affraid what she will make me do next. Any advice?
2006-06-27 17:57:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she should be the one on her knees........LOL. oh Mat surely you're joking......
i bet your gf wouldnt like our convo.......
2006-06-28 20:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by DFA79 3 · 5⤊ 4⤋
Either She Is Quite Controlling And Wearing The Pants In The Relationship,Or Doing This Because She Feels You're A Pushover And She'll Always Get What She Wants When It Comes To You, Or Maybe She Doesnt Trust You When It Comes To Handling Things As Important As Finances.Not To Belittle You,But It Sounds Like Your Girlfriend Feels You Are Too Immature To Handle Such Responsibilities Than Can Affect The Both Of Your Lives.
2006-06-28 01:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by scarface_cezar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say to this is get your money from her, there is a little bit of dishonesty in this relationship, she feels that you are talking to other females and you might give some money to females that is why she gives you money to get by each week. she is a seasonal friend, seasonal friends are here to teach you and move on. a lifetime friend would treat you that way. a lifetime friend is basically the root of the tree, in other words they are your backbone, they help you, not hurt you, they keep u from falling down. a seasonal friend is like the leaves on a tree, they take from you then wither and fall apart. the branch part of the tree, you get those type of friends, they are kind of sneaky, they try to help you for a while then eventually break away from you. you talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you feel and what she need to do to make things work, and if she doesn't want it that way, she is a seasonal friend, the leaf. it may hurt but you have to leave her, if you tell her what she needs to do to make things work and she want to fix it, she is a branch becoming a root, the lifetime friend. so talk to her
2006-06-28 01:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by mrspretty_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a strange feeling this story is completely untrue. You're girlfriend gives you an allowance (of your own damn money) AND makes you beg for it. Come on!!!!! That just can't be true.
I understand couples sharing finances, but this is down right ridiculous. No she's not getting kinky, she's on a power trip. Because you let her. You'll do anything she tells you to do.
Are you ugly, stupid, have no sense humor, bad in bed???? If you say no to any or all of these questions...you can do better. DUMP HER IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!!
2006-06-28 01:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were do i start....
one person need to be in control of the financial decisions, that is a good step in a relationship.
you need to lay down the group rules...
1- you and her get an allowance
2- she pays all the routine bills
3- any major investment or purchases must be consulted
4- you must be saving for a goal
5- you must have emergency funds
up to that point its good but she is blackmailing you with you allowance you need to talk to her and tell her what you feel about her actions. don't let her try and justify her actions there is no justification but you can reassure her that if you did not want to be with her you would not be in a committed relationship and having your paycheck go in to her account.
their must be truest and you are trusting her with your money, she does not need to check your cell phone or email.
if you have to break up over this do it now before it get out of control she will realize that what she is demanding is unreasonable.
after she understands, you can go over you cell phone numbers with her, and emails because she is feeling insecure but she is dealing with it in the wrong way.
never give her your password , never allow her to look at your phone (( you can show her if you want)) but never by force, trust is not just a word they put next to the name of a bank
2006-06-28 01:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by nsxplus1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship should be 50/50. You should not have to beg her for your money, especially if you are working for it. Does she have a reason not to trust or or something? Why the need for your password? Maybe the two of you really should think about taking this relationship any further. It doesn't sound like there is very much trust there on her part.
2006-06-28 01:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Tina G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! Are you serious your ''girlfriend'' is making you kneel, And it's your money? You know better then that what would she do if you made her Kneel for money? And if you did give her the money all she would do is BLOW IT well maybe that's what ''she wants'' Take control your the man if not quit complain-in
2006-06-28 01:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by mickeymom2boyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sshe`s kinky! lol u should not ever kneel 2 a gilr 4 ur own money! only reason u should is if ur askin her 2 marrie u but i think u should manage ur own money and ur email and mobil phone numbers thats ur belongings and ur sruff it sounds 2 me she is afraid there is someone else i mean lookin at ur emails that girls could chat2 u on or gettin numbers that gilrs could hav gave u ,but tha kneeling and money thing thats just retarted
2006-06-28 01:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by nettes24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O_O THIS IS TOTALLY NOT NORMAL!!! It's control freak scary!!! And it is definetely no way to treat your boyfriend. I don't know much about finances, but you've got to put your salary into a different account, because otherwise she's going to rule your life.
2006-06-28 01:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's serious and demanding about the kneeling thing everytime you have to get your share of your salary and it's not for a sweet moment thing, then you should try to politely explain to her that you need not put yourself so lowly just to ask for your share.
2006-06-28 01:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by pink_heart18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you need to send your money into your own account and have your own card. Dude she has gotten you in check, more like in ball and chains. You ain't married to her so why trust her with your money anyway.
You need to make her realize that you make the money and you do not have to ask for some of your money. Open your own account and put the money in there. Seriously dude, that ain't right.
2006-06-28 01:03:18 · answer #11 · answered by wayne_049 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋