well i have a friend that thinks her life is horrible everytime she likes a guy and he likes someone else well in this case its that the guys likes me and shes telling me go out with him one minute and then telling me she wishes she was me adn she is so jealous the next i mean what is up with that what should i tell her that wouldnt make her not want to be my friend...i mean i really need some good advice on this one because last time this happened she almost killed herself. what should i do?
2006-06-27 17:43:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
I had a friend who always said she wished she was me cuz she thinks I'm so pretty and all the guys want me and the last few times I talked to her she was talking about killing herself and blah blah blah...
Can you tell I'm over all that mess? It's for attention. If she kills herself, you aren't the cause and without telling some adult what's going on (if you are still kids) then you aren't going to help her.
If you are an adult, then talk to her, but it's going to drain you too. I got tired of hearing the sob story of my friends life for over 10 years and we don't talk anymore for other reasons.
2006-06-27 17:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her parents. This girl has serious self-esteem issues, but she is also immature and a danger to herself. Aside from getting her some help, maybe you could help her figure out what it is that she's really jealous of. Does she need a make-over? New clothes? Maybe she needs to get into shape. Help her realize that she is a special person in her own right, and help her figure out what is special about her, so she can develop those aspects of her personality. Also, she needs to know that there is a special guy out there for her. She just hasn't found him yet. How old are you two? Her special guy will come along. Remind her she only needs to find one guy, so she should just work on developing herself as a person and she'll be ready when he comes along.
Tell her Jesus loves her, and she should get saved, not kill herself. Her life will get better once she realizes that she is a very loved individual. Having a boyfriend is not the be-all and end-all of her life, unless she has nothing else going on.
2006-06-28 00:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by percolated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is NO friend at all!!! A TRUE friend would be happy for you when good things happen to you. If the fact that a guy she likes noticed you instead of her and she's hurt by this, at least she can keep her true feelings to herself and PRETEND to be OK with this!! And the fact that she wants to kill herself proves that she is selfish!! She just wants you to feel really guilty that this guy likes you and ignored her. She can't expect to get everything she wants in life--and attempting suicide won't change that. I know what you are going through. I have been going through this same situation with my sister for YEARS! But she's jealous of me for everything--not just boys! If, for example, I answer a question right while we're watching "Jeopardy" together,she gets REALLY mad at me and tells me that I'm full of myself! Or if somebody in the street smiles at me or says "have a good day" to me, she says that the WHOLE WORLD loves me and EVERYONE hates her and she wants to die, too!! I think you should not care too much if you lose this "friend". You will have alot less guilt and probably more peace of mind if you get away from such a negative person. Good luck !
2006-06-28 01:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's having a real issue with feeling excepted. Leave the guy alone, since getting with someone a friend has had their eye on is pretty much breaking an unwritten friend law, and try to help her see that all isn't so bad. I think if she is depressed to the point she is near suicidal or considering it, she needs to be encouraged to talk about it with not only you but her parents or other trusted adults (if you're young). If you're adults, she should still talk to her family. And in either age, seeing a therapist for a short time might help her see that things aren't as bad as she feels, or they might help her address hidden things that are going on.
2006-06-28 01:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is hurt by rejection, not an easy thing to deal with for her. She may have insecurity issues that stem from somewhere, wants to have friends but doesn't seem like that's working out too kindly in her favor. Until she heals from wounds that are emotionally deep, which will take time to sort out with someone she does trust her attitudes will remain confusing. The best thing you can do, is gently break away from her for a while, just let her know you've made a decision for yourself, and that is you think it would be best if we just take a break from each other for awhile...and leave it at that. Good luck.
2006-06-28 01:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every thing is intense when you're young, I think it's the hormones. ....you won't even remember the majority of the stuff you do today in 10 years and none of it will matter......just have fun dummy....you're only young once! Tell her to start working out, lose 20 pounds, and work on her self esteem. Party on.
2006-06-28 00:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by the_knower_of_all_knowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her mom to take her to emotions anonymous for a meeting and a book she needs a friend that knows crazy
2006-06-28 00:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"When you act this way, I feel afraid. I would like to help you, but I sincerely believe you should seek professional counseling. I'll go with you if you'd like."
2006-06-28 00:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by My Big Bear Ron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should drop this friend and get a new one.
2006-06-28 00:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by dyrrtysouthchyck 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her to go and see a psychiatrist she needs help....
2006-06-28 00:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by sweetscents21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋