I have been with my BF for 2 years and I love him but we have had some problems and we haven't spent as much time together. For the past few months someone else has turned my head. I broke up with my BF but I don't know if that was the right decision. I miss my BF so much. At the same time I think I need time to myself to figure things out. I'm so afraid of losing him but I think I also need to experience other things. I am only 23! Do I move on or hold on to my BF? So confused!
2006-06-27 16:55:52 · 21 answers · asked by AmieGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
mitr says... life is all about making right decisions....
youhave to decide something.....
people are strange..... no one respects the thing they have until they lose it.... once they do so, they realise that it was the precious thing they ever had...
i will tell you what we humans do... we are NEVER SATISFIED with what we get... we keep on looking for better options..... But doesn't that makes us an Oppertunist..... well, if you want yourself to be called like this, then it is your discretion....
once someone is satisfied in relation, he/she will be happy.... whatever better options may come his/her way, they will always think that what they have is the best they can get..... you can't get each and every guy in this world.... true love is hard to find.... losing it is very simple.... if you want the simple way out.... your wish.........
mitr says.......... follow your heart and be with your guy..... think of it in a long run.... not a short term fling.........
2006-06-27 16:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on why you broke up with your boyfriend. If you broke up with him because of the other guy that was "turning your head" then you need to decide if you can handle being exclusively committed to this person. If you can't be with him without wanting other hot guys, then you need to figure out exactly what you're looking for. If you broke up with him because you were bored, then he obviously isn't right for you because that should never be an issue. I have been dating my girlfriend for around 2 1/2 years and problems are inevitable, but the payoff is huge. You can't really love someone and just agree all the time. What you need to do is simply evaluate the situation and decide if you actually love this guy or if you just miss having a boyfriend. It's not fair to either of you to get back together just because you're lonely. If you think you need to experience other things, don't put him through the torture of always wondering when you're going to break up with him to date other guys. As for me, I love my girlfriend very much and I think she is perfect for me. She is the only girl I have ever dated and even though we have problems sometimes, I will never break up with her to date other women. If I have something better than I could ever imagine right now, why risk losing it on something that probably won't be nearly as good?
2006-06-27 17:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, honey. He was in your life for a season ... probably for a reason. That may be all that you needed. The lifetime relationship will come down the road - you at least need to explore. Don't make the mistake of pushing this seasonal relationship into one that you hope lasts a lifetime. That may be expecting too much out of him and yourself ... and the relationship. I'm sure there is a lot of good you've shared in the past two years... don't blow it by pushing things further than they were meant to be.
2006-06-27 17:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then stay with him. Problems are common between a bf/gf and it is healthy for a relationship. And 2 years is not much, everyday you spend with him you will discover new things that you could do together. I have been wth my gf for 3 years now and we are now engaged. We did have alot of problems in these years but that didnt affect our love for each other. Also, i am workig in Dubai and she is in Cairo (1500 miles apart) and i only get to see her 3 - 4 months per year.... If you love each other it always can work... Good Luck...
2006-06-27 17:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by haytham97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart says, 23 is not to young, usually its the beginning of a long term relationship. sounds like your attracted to this other guy NOT in love, its natural to be attracted and its natural to like the attention, but if your thinking of your bf alot , your heart is telling you where your content and happy most. if you let him go and then go back, he may belong to someone else by then. i say take a break and he to. but still keep in touch. do what you THINK your missingg out on and him to . then decide. the only thing i can think your missin out on is the variety and the diff sex. which is a bad mistake to leave someone for. especially when you love that person, that would make your sex even more on fire , Love and sex make fireworks. infatuation and attractiveness make flames. if this helps , i hope so. good luck and do indeed follow your heart and your vibes.
2006-06-27 17:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by flowerlegz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very fact that you are asking tells me that you should try dating other people. If you are contemplating other guys, then that may be a signal that you want to move on. Since you are already boken up, go ahead and have a few dates with a few guys and see if it stirs any feelings. If you still miss your boyfriend, than you will now that for sure.
2006-06-27 16:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by JRatliff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question! Time to yourself and experiencing other things is a fine decision. If time leads you back to one another, great, you'll give it another try and see how it goes. If not, it wasn't meant to be. Everything happens for a reason. If you're not totally into it, that's okay- your heart is telling you something. Go with your instinct. Good luck!
2006-06-27 17:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by daydreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on, if you are interested in someone else but don't want to lose your boyfriend are you really being fair to him? Would you want to be treated the same way?
This is a classic problem that takes strength on your part to know when to cut it loose and quit playing games.
2006-06-27 17:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by johnnashiscrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe u should experience new things because ur still young but if u 2 r meant to be together u will be so dont stress just move on and see how things turn out
good luck
2006-06-27 17:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, u know wats in ur mind that s makin u confuse.then try 2 solve it.never lose 1 that u love in life.u may get many who love u.but the 1 whom u love s the 1thats needed for ur life.so go nd sit in a calm place,rite down ur thoughts nd c if u can solve the prob & c 2 that u get ur bf.ther s a solution for all things in life.ok.all the best.
2006-06-27 17:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by rahul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋