2006-06-27 16:51:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not that he doesn't love me, he'd rather live with me and have children and whatnot, but not get married. I think that's irresponsible.
2006-06-27 17:00:12 · update #1
If he actually TOLD you that he doesn't want to get married, then you either have to tell him that's not okay and he has to ask you (within a reasonable amount of time) or he'll lose you. I mean, if you love him and don't care if you're married or not, then you should just enjoy living in the now with him and not worry about marriage.
If you are really ansy to get the marriage wagon sattled up, then maybe it's time to find someone who fits the bill.
Honestly, proposing marriage is important to men. They want to do it when they want to do it and to whom they want. You can't "convince" him to do it or he'll feel pressured (trust me, I tried).
You have to evaluate. Yes, some people get married after a month of knowing each other, and some wait 10 years. There is no right time for it.
As long as he knows you want to marry him someday, that's enough to plant the idea in his head and believe me, the wheels will turn eventually.
Don't push him into it or he'll never do it (or the date he had in mind will be pushed back more).
Just be patient and loving and in time, it'll happen.
In the meantime, suggest things that are standard for married couples. (ex. buy a pet, share an apartment, get inexpensive "promise" rings, etc.)
Trust me, you're not alone.
2006-06-27 17:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 21:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have so many girlfriends with the same problem. Men are scared of commitment and if they get it for nothing why would they complain. If you have to beg him to marry you, do you really want him? Unless he is has a good reason like all ready being devorce, I would start looking for your true partner.
2006-06-27 17:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by silkydewi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know your whole situation but i can tell you what my wife used on me, and it worked. my wife and i have been married for 12 years now and we lived together 2 years before that. there was never any doubt that we loved each other and would be together forever in either of our minds. i could never understand (thinking in my logical way) why she kept pushing to get married. i thought the only thing that mattered was that i knew she loved me and she knew i loved her. until she told me that she knew i loved her, but she wanted everyone else to know how much i loved her. i started thinking about the things she must be hearing from her friends and family and the hurt she might be feeling. if you love someone, you dont want them to feel that way.
2006-06-27 17:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by charles r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lost cause... if he doesn't want to marry you is because he's holding out for something more.. Sorry to say this.. I do not mean to hurt your feelings.. Maybe he's not into you... Move on and you will meet someone who will treat you better... Good luck
2006-06-27 16:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally lost cause. Do you really want to marry somebody you had to convince to marry you anyway?
2006-06-27 16:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the point of convincing him to marry you i f he doesn't want to get married with you??? what's his reason that he doesn't want to marry? you have to figure it out and try to do something about it. maybe he has fear or doubts about marriage. first try to talk to him and tell him what you really want. then just wait for the time when he's ready for it. good luck:)
2006-06-27 16:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by yiub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess it depends on how much more time he says he needs and if your willing to wait it out. i would tell him you need to know where he stands on this issue that its been 3 yrs and you don't wanna wait another 3 if he gives no sigh up hope well maybe you may wanna consider moving on or your gonna waste more years waiting when you could be moving on with your life. you dont wanna force him he will only resent you later in life and its no way to start a marriage. good luck to you.
2006-06-27 16:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by lnay69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on life is short and precious, don't waste your time on someone you can not grow or who does not share your hopes and dreams. mr ready to marry now is out there for you somewhere but if you don't let mr wrong alone you may never marry
2006-06-27 16:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by evian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to make him marry you because then its only headed for trouble...He might not be ready for marriage , give him some time
2006-06-27 16:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋