What should be done when a work colleague keeps gossiping and bad mouthing u all the time with others?

Answer 1

do not let this push you into a defensive mode. Don't you think that others can see what kind of person that this person is? Do not feed into this and just show the others what you are truly made of. There is no need to prove yourself because the truth shall set you free. Besides, it is unrealistic to believe that this is having an impact in the social arena of your place of employment because people will believe what it is they want to believe no matter if this person is lying or not or even not saying anything. Just don't provide this *** with anything tangible to run away with and you'll be fine.

Answer 2

Have you actually heard the person doing it or just what others told you they said? If you have heard the person, I would confront them and say "you know I heard you say I did a bad job on this report, I thought I did good, why do you think I did so badly and why are you telling other people, why can't you talk to me if you have a problem with me?"

If you just heard from others: "I've been hearing some gossip about you saying some unkind things about me, is this true?" the person will say yes or no, my bet is no, so I'd then say "Well good, I hope you're not because I don't appreciate people going behind my back, if they can't face me and tell me their opinions, I have zero respect for them and I'm sure others would lose respect for a gossip too".

Answer 3

Try to pry as much information in regard to gossips and bad mouthing about you. Note them down. Analyze them, and think of situations where your actions might have been misinterpreted. Also, try to find out who's the worst gabber about you. There's a possibility its an office political tactical maneuver by a potential competitor, to strategically dislocate your future career. Some people, especially in the corporate world, believe in a pre-emptive strike against possible competitors. Then as you gather information and evidence, try to insinuate yourself with neutral parties that has yet to hear the gossip, nan-chalant about it, or those with negative feelings for the individual with a large percentage of gabbing against you. This will enable you to form a group to eventually counter-strike.
Of course, when you have gathered enough information, you should confront the protagonist, most beneficial if done in public. After that, immediately start to gather your 'future pack' and make a counter-strike. Revenge is a wine best served in maturity.

Answer 4

I've never had any luck with ignoring it. Well, I can ignore people just fine, but the people who like to start trouble would not ignore me. I also never had much luck with asking for help from my boss or HR. I have also tried talking to the person (people) involved without much success. Sometimes the situation is not fixable regardless of how professional you are. I am not suggesting not to try, but don't become discouraged if none of your efforts resolve the problem. Good luck to you.

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Answer 5

Gotta remember that you can't change them.
All you can do is change your reaction to it so that it doesn't bother you.
You might want to ask the person nicely why they are saying such things. Kill 'em with kindness. Ask what you can do so that he/she doesn't find it necessary to be thinking about you all the time.
The person sounds jealous so I'm guessing you don't know them that well. Be really pleasant to them no matter what and I'll bet it stops the venom.

Answer 6

I had a supervisor once who I found out had disrespected me (called me a b*tch) in front of a bunch of his employees. I met with him in his office and told him that if he had a problem with me, he needed to come and talk to me about it. That I thought it was very cowardly that he was speaking about me behind my back and I had to hear about it from somebody else. We ended up getting into a conversation about the original issue and grew to understand each other.

I thought that even though we'd talked through that he'd always think that I was a b*tch AND hate me for confronting him, but I was pleasantly surprised. The fact that I confronted him in a strong but respectful and professional manner gained me his respect. Our communication went from professional and courteous to downright friendly. And when I applied for another job and was promoted I found out from my new supervisor that he had given me a glowing recommendation.

Answer 7

I say confront them and ask what's up and what the problem is. Maybe you have offended them in some way and you don't realize it. Maybe they are jealous because they don't know you that well and this is their way of bringing you down. I definitely say confrontation is the best.

Answer 8

Pffft..Just ignore it. You know who you are, what you do, and what you stand for. Don't stoop to their level..If they have time to stand around and gossip about you and all that crap, they really must not have a hell of alot of a life..Just ignore them. They're petty, shallow, stupid people.

Answer 9

Ignore them, you give it power when you spend time and energy worrying about it. If you coworkers are ignorant enough to beilieve the lies and not care enough to find out the truth, they shouldn't be working there.

Answer 10

Simple. Take them by surprise by treating them with the utmost kindness and respect. They won't expect it, and it will baffle them. Compliment them often, act oblivious to what they say to or about you. It's not real. Be true to who you are, and rise above their pettiness. Pity them for their small mindedness, and above all pray for them.