How to have good conversations?

Question

What are some good ways to conversate with a girl. HOw do I stop getting tongue-tied when I talk to hot girls. Give me some jokes, some good topics to talk about, pick up lines maybe. give me something good please. How do i become comforable around them.
I am 16.

Answer 1

be a gentleman. one of those old time gentlemen who can treat a lady with respect

Answer 2

I was starting to think of some ways a guy could start a conversation with me when I began reading this and then I got to the end and you state your age and all of my ideas flew out the window.
Don't tell jokes. Girls don't like jokes. Well, some do, but it's a weird way to break the ice. And if they don't like the joke or you offend them... they just think you suck. Pick up lines are usually no-go's, but if they aren't tacky and retarded, then possibly.
Look at what a girl is doing or wearing (i.e. she's wearing a led zepplin t-shirt--strike up a convo about that) or whatever. There's plenty of possibilities.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Interesting question. I could ask the same about guys. I can't tell you what all girls wanna talk about, but I can tell you what I would. In a conversation, I want a guy to be himself, not to say cheezy lines, or spit game. I personally like funny guys, so a couple of jokes about the conversation, whatever it is, scores you a couple points. But when starting a conversation, ask her about her day, what she's done, what she plans on doing. And dont be afraid to answer her questions either. Cuz nothing puts a girl like me off like a guy who isn't open. Talk about things she likes, and your opinion about them... without making her feel like an idiot. Oh, and don't be really cocky. But mainly, be yourself. How are you gunna be comfortable around a girl if your not even being yourself, and just saying lines, and spitting game?? And also... pick up lines are so cheezy.

Answer 4

Forget the pick up lines because women can see right through them. Your best strategy for good conversation, whether it's with a girl you are interested in or with anyone else, is to be truly interested in them. Everyone loves to hear their name, so say their name during the conversation--tune in to what is going on with them, find some common ground or interests (music/food/things you like to do) and talk about that. Being a good conversationalist isn't always easy, but you will get better and more comfortable with practice.

Answer 5

Oh man... I really wish I could help you. I'm 35 and I am still finding myself tongue tied when I talk to hot girls. My face turns red real fast when I get embarrassed. I embarrasse myself when I get tongue-tied. The hot chick just walks away. Maybe for the summer you can get a job, work with the public. And make friends with a hot chick! Good Luck

Answer 6

For starters, you don't "conversate." You converse or have a conversation. Girls don't like phony lines or corny jokes. Talk to them about school and sports just like you would with the guys but be respectful. Read the newspapers so you know what's going on in the world. Girls like guys who are smart and have opinions. Talk about your plans for the future: college, military, work, etc. Ask questions; don't just talk about yourself. What are her hobbies, interests, has she traveled, what are her favorite foods, music, etc. Be a good listener. And when you talk, look her in the eye and be enthusiastic. If you do all of that, you can't fail.

Answer 7

Girls are humans too, just like you. So relax. Let it come naturally. Having a good conversation requires speaking and listening. If you want a girl to be interested in you, you have to be interested in her as well. Listen to what she says when you ask her a question. There's also body language, pay attention to that as well. Maybe she's telling you to get closer to her or for you to back off... Everything gets better with practice. So just enjoy getting to know girls. Take it a step at a time. Good luck!

Answer 8

Stop thinking about trying to get in their pants. I know, it's hard if the girl is hot and you're 16.

Make a point of asking about her, rather than talking about yourself. Ask her open ended questions about her interests, her music, her sports, what she did last weekend. Then look into her eyes and actually listen to what she says.

People love to talk about themselves. And they rarely find someone who actually listens to what they say.

Just doing those few simple things above will separate you from 99% of the 16 year old guys she's met.

You can thank me later.

Answer 9

Hi, how are ya?

what grade are you in?
then talk about the grade and teachers.
example- Mr. Green is Awsome, where you their when he had the water gun fight with Mr. Phil?
My Dad is on my butt about picking a college but Im not sure what Im doing yet.

whats your fav. food?
yeah Pizza is good, hey ya want to go grab a slice, topped with a big glass of pop, down at wilsons pizza and more?
My treat.

~~~~~ Once your eatting you can think up more things to say and before ya know it, you will have a regular convercation going on.

Answer 10

guys don't actually talk to hot girls, they just think they do...

the reason they don't is because they're so desperate to say something funny and impress, they miss the entire point!

instead of trying to be clever and funny, listen to what she actually says...

ask her questions and let her talk! ask about her family, what she wants to be when she grows up, how that's different from what she wanted to be when she was little... ask ask ask!
be interested in who she IS.
you know she's hot, she knows she hot.
you know you like her, she knows you like her.
what she DOESN'T know, is if you actually want to get to know who she is as a person!

paying attention to her answers will let you laugh at HER jokes and give you more info to ask better questions!
after you know enough about her or she feels like she's been talking too much, she'll start asking about You and your family and your plans after high school and stuff...
and by then, she'll be so comfortable that THAT will put you at ease.

good luck!

Answer 11

first u should be a good listener. show interest in what others say. don't pass adverse comments. be natural in your behaviour. don't always talk about yourself. be calm. don't get exited when u r talking to girls.u don't have to resort to telling some silly jokes to keep the conversation going. ask some pernonal questions like her likes ,dislikes etc.talk about yourself if only they ask u.