I have been dating someone for three months and I have fallen in love with him do I tell him now or wait for him to tell me first?
2006-06-27 15:57:42 · 7 answers · asked by quincie1975 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you feel that you truly are in love with someone, and not just 'lust' or a deep like or attraction to them, when you are certain that there is a difference, and it's not one of those things, that is the time that you should tell someone that you are in love with them. Just remember that they are heavy words, sometimes even complicated ones, and you must be certain.
Many people use those words lightly, or just to gain something from another person in order to get what they want from them. So, do make sure that this is not the case. Then, it does not matter if the feelings are returned to you. Of course, it is preferrable if they are returned, but even if they aren't, take comfort in knowing that you have been honest with yourself, and with that object of your affections, as well.
You are takinfg a chance and making yourself vulnerable to that person, so, make sure youare ready for what may follow. Make sure you are ready for what happens next, hope it's returned, and take things one step at a time.Remember, though, that old song,' You Can't Hurry Love'? Those words are very true! All things happen at their own time.
2006-06-27 19:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by jadonnia314 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When u know in your heart that this is the person that u want to be with for the rest of your life. Does he feel this way about u? Don't be afraid of rejection, like if he was to say he didn't love u too. Because love, and life itself, is about taking chances. Don't be one of those people who wakes up 5 years from now and says, "What if?" or "I should have done this, I should have done that." Maybe he is waiting 4 u to say it to him. If u feel that u really love this man, then u should tell him how u feel. Then u will find out how he feels about u, and u won't have to worry about it anymore. Or u could just wait until he says it to u. But waiting is a waste of time, when u could have been saying that u love each other. It is all up to u.
2006-06-27 23:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by judyju2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him at all cost. But do it in a way that he does not feel obligated to say it back to you. I did this. I said i know you may not feel the same but i just cant bare not letting you know how i feel. then if he doesnt say it back, its ok. and DO NOT tell him everyday if he did not say it back. Only say it again if hes taking a roadtrip without you or stuff like that. He will then see you are not psychotic and that you respect his feelings as well as your own. Then a couple months later if he loves you it will come out of nowhere and its a great surprise
2006-06-27 23:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by carmen c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can do either or but i suggest that you wait and let him say it first.if he doesn't say it first and you know he loves you too, then say it.but you should aways make sure he loves you back because you dont want to look like a fool.
2006-06-27 23:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by sexymama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I SAY YOU TELL HIM THAT YOU LOVE HIM----BUT IF YOU ARE NOT SURE THAT HE WOULD SAY THE SAME THING BACK WAIT 'TILL HE TELLS YOU!!!!!
2006-06-27 23:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by luzerboloni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him.
2006-06-27 23:10:16 · answer #6 · answered by michele_fct 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him, just tell him!!
2006-06-28 19:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by frecklemaggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋