My sister is my best friend. About 7 months ago she met a guy off the internet and in the 2 month she knew him she and her to kids moved in with him. Well for about 4 month she has moved back in with my mom and dad over 7 times cause she did not like it there or her and her boyfriend broke up and every time she would just drag the kids back with her. The kids have had changed there school every time she would move. Well about 3 months ago she left everything behind to be with this man . Yes she left her two kids behind and since she has done that they have been living with me and my boyfriend. I am so mad at her. It hurts so much to see what she has done. I have lost my best friend and my sister ,but mostly my nephews think that there mother does not want them. My mother think it;s all her falt she thinks this is the way she rasied my sister and i am scared the my mom will get so sick that she might die I will hate my sister if that happends. What should I do forgive or forget her HELP
2006-06-27 14:59:16 · 10 answers · asked by Amy L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have a lot of issues in this matter. God's prayer helps in everything. Pray and really believe everything will be alright when you get on your knees and pray. Have faith and pray everything will be o.k.!
2006-06-27 15:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Shawn J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question, but remember that you can't change a person that doesn't want to be changed, help a person that doesn't want to be helped. Addiction is more than cocaine or alchohol. Some things to bear in mind:
1) She is addicted to him.
2) Pulling her just pushes her back to his arms.
3) Only your sister can decide to come back.
4) I'm proud of you for being such a loving person for those children. You (and that wonderful boyfriend of yours) deserve a pat on the back!
Please, look at some info along the lines of alanon or alcoholics anonymous for explanation of addiction, and share with your mother. All of you need to move on with your lives and wait for her to hit rock-bottom or a sudden epiphany on the part of your sister to come home.
My prayers go out to you tonight!
2006-06-27 22:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the main thing to do is pray for her but don't worry about her worry abouththe kids. i have a similar problem but my sisters kids were taken from her by department of social services in a different state and they are in foster care so atleast you have the kids so you know that they are ok. just think it could be worse. just be there for the kids most of all. if they feel that way about their mom it is probably because it is true.don't ever give up on her just don't put your life or those kids lives on hold on her behalf because either she will change or not that simple. but do your best as their aunt and take extra good care of them because if i could take care of my nephews i would in a heart beat. and for your mom just talk to her about how you turned out ok so it is not her fault. i hope you the very best luck.
2006-06-27 22:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience and Prayer. And lots of it! Remember that the children come first in this situation. Do everything you can to reassure them that they are special and loved and their mother leaving is not their fault. You will have to reassure your mother of this also. Remind her that she raised you too and you have turned out to be a good, loving, and caring person. Let her know that your sister made a choice to do this and it is not something that your mother can help. Time will heal.
2006-06-27 22:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by lroneywright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your MOMS fault; your Sister is an adult and should behave like one.Please, let your Sister know know what HER children are going through because of her actions.
2006-06-27 22:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show the kids that u LOVE them and whatever u do don t downgrade the mother to them.show them that u can be a friend ,aunt, mother all rolled up in one.
2006-06-27 22:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by harold b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't be able to forgive her. What she has done to her children is inexcusable. She has behaved totally selfish and you, your mom and especially her children are the ones who pay the price.
2006-06-27 22:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by Lotte T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not urs to forgive. shell have 2 forgive herself, and her kids will have to forgive her, but not you.
and you, do not put urself in a position where u wont be able to forgive urself.
so give ur best to provide a stable home for her children.. if u care..
2006-06-27 22:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by dk_pup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... my sister used to be a crack head .and honest she was the one i looked up to my everythin i wanted to be just like her when i grew up ...........until she messed up......my mom had to take her kids from her until she realized wht she had did.....but in order to do so she had to scarifice her kids she would take them to c their mommy cracked out and put it in her face on how ****** up she was......how they cry at night for her or how when they leave her house they ball.......and her oldest was no more than 4 years old she had three kids and was crackin the twins tht were on the way (she ended up losin them) it hurts but u have to look on the bright side...talk to ur sister shove it in her face make sure she feels wht her kids are goin thro she will not understand for the longest it may seem and her sorry *** b/f shouldn't have let her choose him over them if he was ne kind of man he would tell her she needs to raise her kids then get back to him and makin them move is ****** up too i move every year and bein the new kid at high school is not exactly fun its for the better u have them ...think of it as a gift from God he wanted u to have them becus he believes there mother is not fit for them tht was ur purpose in life.............thts y ur here..... and another story is my dad choose my step mom over us when i was 9 years old and i was the middle child of 5 at the time and she gave her kids up for him so they could b in love i hate her ****** guts and i honestly hope she dies......thts me tho i had to grow out of tht it was childish of me of all ppl i had younger bros n sis lookin up to me and the others for help becus they were crused.........i stil c my dad i mean don't get me wrong i stil love him but i could never forgive him and wht hurt the most is he left us 5 and had 7 more kids and wanted to raise them over us ...so now theres 12 of us and i dunno weather to love them or to hate them i stil feel its there fault but im a lost teen liek every one else ya kno? i think u need to keep those kids raise them to the best of ur ability and protect them like your own .....they WILLL thank u in the long run ur all they got don't let them down hope tht helps ~1~real
2006-06-27 22:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but her kids are very lucky to have an Aunt that cares about them.
:)
2006-06-27 22:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by Zacko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋