Having trouble leaving my child with a daycare so i can go to work!?

Question

My son is 19 months old and has always been home with me. I really need to get a job to help with bills but i am having an emotional breakdown at the thought of leaving my child!! can anyone help me get through this?

Answer 1

My mom ran a small daycare out of our home with the neighbor kids. That way she could work and still stay with me and the sis.

Answer 2

Maybe you would feel better if a family member watched your child. Is there anyway you or your child's father could work different shifts? Then you would only need someone to watch him for a few hours if any at all. I'm going back to work in a few weeks. My mother in law will keep my girls for 4 hours a day. I'll be working first shift while my fiance works third. This is the only way that will work out for us because we won't put our kids in dacare. It's not for everyone but I just thought I would mention it.

Good luck

Answer 3

Your child will do just fine as long as you have interviewed and checked references of whomever is going to be the caregiver. Your little one needs social contact with others away from mommy just like mommy needs her time also. After the first week things will run smoothly. You can take a deep breath and say, That wasn't so bad. In the evening bathe the little one and read him a story and tuck him into bed and treasure the moments you have with him. The child will do fine. You will too, just don't act like a child too as you will expose your child to the same anxiety. Best Wishes!

Answer 4

It will be difficult, for you and your son. For you, because you will miss him. For him, because he will miss you. But remember that humans are very adaptable -- yes, children and adults! Just try to calm yourself and focus that within a relatively short period of time -- perhaps 4 to 6 weeks -- your son will be comfortable in his new routine, as you will be too.

Also, by working you are giving your child a gift too. It seems like you may be going through a difficult financial time at the moment. Those stresses cause all sorts of tensioon at home, that your son is probably unconciously absorbing. By you working, and bringing in an income, you can help alleviate those stresses.

Also, you are also giving your son another gift - the gift of having a mother concerned enough about him (in the present and in the future) to exert herself to work for a better future.

Good luck.

Answer 5

When I went back to work after having my daughter, I took pictures of her, and stopped to see her on my lunch hour, just to ease myself into it.

You could do that, or maybe get a part time job and ease yourself into being away from your child. Your child will have a hard time at first, but think of the positive: Your child will be gaining social skills and be playing with other kids. And the time you have together will be that much more special to you both.

Good luck!!

Answer 6

I have run a daycare before so i understand the mental strain it could have on a parent. The kids feel as you do but you have to understand you have to let go as much as you don't want to. You have to know your child will be alright and everything will be fine. You for the sake of the child know what you have to do to stay stable.

Answer 7

I was just like you and I am still like you...i didn't go back to work until my daughter was 3 in a half years old...i always said..when she can talk and point...and tell me ..if someone..was bothering her....and the dreadful day came...she is 5 years old now...i still be scared....i left her in daycare with others at her age and i said to myself in god's hand..know that mother's instinc ..will set in ...if you don't feel right about that daycare ..then ...that's not the one....know that ...your child will be ...with others ...the same age...and try to stay with him the first week and little by little letting loose....if ..you feel right then its time...know that ..you will ....offer him more..when ..we go out and get paid...if you are still with the baby father...go around his schedule so that when you are at work..he is at home...most of the time...let loose ..little by little..but remember mother's instinc...not only will you open a new world for your child in meeting other children his age..you are becoming a better provider....providing better, means better things...good luck...wish you well....i still have my 5 year old...that i leave with my mother...but i am still scare that one of my uncles ..will touch her since i was touched when i was Little ...

Answer 8

I would be glad to help you with this. I am a mom of a 15 month old, and I felt the same way you did. So I work from home instead. If you just wanna talk to another mom and get things off your chest, I would be happy to. Or if you would like to consider working from home, I would be glad to put you on my team and train you. Just let me know :) Rachele Burke 541-258-7148
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Take care!

Answer 9

I have a 16 mo. old boy and I work only when my husband isn't. I also sell things on ebay for extra cash. If you feel guilty about something, then don't do it--find a better way. You can't get that precious time back. We also downgraded to less expensive cars so we could afford to have me not work as much. You can cut corners in lots of creative ways.

Answer 10

im not sure if i can really help, however i can offer some thoughts and opinions from my personal experience as a mother who has done both..........let me start off by telling you about my mothers childhood......my grandmother became a single mother in the early 50's when my aunts dad left and began working full time being to sole provider for the household...then in 58 my mom was born(my grandmother never married my moms dad and stopped having anything to with him when she became pregnant)at that time my grandmother began working 2 and 3 jobs..at the time she was frowned upon because women generally didnt work....numerous times she was complimented at the fact that you would never know those girls came from a broken home........she was an amazing provider for her family and far surpassed the income expectations for single mother and still managed to raise two well rounded, strong, independant,succussful girls......the only benefit to her situation was that she had sisters that always cared for the girls...................none the less my point being "as a mother you have to do whatever needs to be done to properly provide for your child".................................from personal experience (my son was 4mo. old when i returned to work and 2 when i returned home full time) i found that returning to work can be beneficial for both of you......it gives you a chance for more consistant adult interaction along with giving back a little independence( it is important and ok to not loose ourselves)..becides they get tired of being around us all the time...then theres the fact that they really do need to have positive interaction with other kids their own age on a regular basis(my son always stayed with my parents and didnt have enough of that interaction and now at almost 3 when we play at the park he goes to opposite side of the playground if there are a lot of kids..he just gets quiet and tries to leave them alone....the only kids he plays with are kids hes always known..............................then theres the insecure attachment issues caused by always being safe with mommy and not ever being left anywhere(when my best friend first returned to work her daughter age 2 had some secerious attachment problems even before that if my friend went to the bathroom or looked at the front door he daughter would FREAK..needless to say working didnt last long as her daughter at almost 4 still acts that way.)..................makes working seem pretty good but on the other hand theres also some really good reasons to stay home.......first off its a lot fun i am just amazed at the things he comes up with everyday,watching him get the jokes on cartoons,his ability to imagine amazing things...and it is really hard to trust anyone to properly care for you child and there are bad things everywhere....sadly thats the truth..youd have to definately have to spend a lot of time at the facility pop in frequently and even at that id be leary of leaving them anywhere(except family)untill they can talk real good and no matter what always trust in what they say especially if its off the wall..............and to top it all off they are VERY expensive($100 or more a week for a basic daycare and up to $300 a week for a first class preschool) so unless you can make $2-$300 a week it may not be very financially beneficial.................................i hope the info will be useful