im only 19, and my bf is 27. I really like him, and we spend alot of time together. He brings me around his family all the time. But my family is a little bit more traditional, and wouldnt except me being with someone older the my oldest sybling. How do i start bringing him around?
2006-06-27 14:00:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just bring him over sometime and let them meet him and talk with him. That way they have the experience of at least having met him first.
Be prepared to talk about it later with them, and address any questions patiently and honestly. Hopefully, his personality will win them over enough that age won't be a big issue.
I understand it as a parent ... but have also been there ... my daughter dated a 30 yr old when she was 18, and her current boyfriend, live-in, with whome she has a baby, is 37 (she is 23 now). I can't say much, her father was 14 years my senior, and my current husband is 13 years older than I am.
Give your family a chance. Maybe it won't be as big a deal as you anticipate. Also, if they do bring up potential issues, don't just dismiss them out of hand, but consider them first. Its always good to think things through, even if the conclusion is the same.
2006-06-27 14:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 19 years old. 8 years is not really that much older. Just go ahead and ask your mom.. I'm sure your mom would be very concerned about many things, that's what moms do. She just don't want you ruining your life . Does you boyfriend have a job? If she says bring him over and you do, she might ask him questions but don't take that as being non of her business. She just want's to get to know who and how he really is. She will just be protecting you from future hurts. She has experience in that so listen to what she has to say.
2006-06-27 21:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by choctawdeer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your family meet him, the fact that his is older shouldn't matter to them as long as they know you two truely care for each other. I told my mom that I dated a guy that was 15 years older than me and though she was a little shocked by it, she was ok with it.
So go ahead and have him come with you to your family's home for something really informal, like a bbq or something. Once they get to know him, age won't matter anymore.
2006-06-27 21:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by desertangel00 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom, the guy that I am dating is eight years older than I am...before you judge him, I would like for you to get to know him first. Can I bring him over for dinner on Sunday?
2006-06-27 21:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by gmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a legal adult. Your parents may not like you seeing him, but it isn't up to them. Besides, you're doing your bf and your parents an injustice by not having them meet each other. You're not giving the bf enough credit to say he could win them over, and you're not giving your parents enough credit that they might like him, or at least learn to.
Give them both a chance. Ultimately it is your decision though. Best of luck.
2006-06-27 21:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your a minor i dont think thats a good idea but since u arent then just tell her. you're an adult, but dont be disrespectful, just say mom im seeing an oldeer guy that u may or may not approve of. And if u wanna get serious with him let him meet ur mom it may or may not turn out well , gotta take a chance.
2006-06-27 21:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Madaam X 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
let me just say, i dont know your mom, but i know mine, and for me, telling her was no easy task. then again, i was 17 and he was 27... all you can really do is be honest with her. put it out there. tactfully. and maybe just tell her that you want your relationship with her to be completely open and honest. if she does get angry, she can only get SO angry. youre a big girl, and you can do what you want. dont forget that. just remember that though you may seek her approval and not get it, doesnt mean that you cant be happy. some people are impossible to please. my mother is one of them...one of my favorite quotes is:
We can secure other people's approval, if we do right and try hard; but our own is worth a hundred of it.
--Mark Twain
if youre happy with him and hes happy with you, stay with him. its your life.
Good Luck girl!
2006-06-27 21:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Mom, I'm dating a guy 8 years older than me"
Pretty simple really. She can't kill you, it's against the law.
2006-06-27 21:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Derrrr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be mean or anything, but in my opinion, i think that you should've respected your parents wishes. you might think that you know but the truth is you might not really know. i know this sounds cliche, but your parents have been around longer than you have so they might have insight as to why they don't want you to date people 8 years older than you.
2006-06-27 21:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ithink u should go for it u should call him and make plans to go to your moms house then intturduce him to your family!
2006-06-27 21:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by hottie101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋